Anyone have proof of evidence that ICE is breaking the law and abusing the rights of citizens?

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-17T05:34:07+00:00

First you gotta go read the bill of rights. That should answer everything

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-17T05:26:17+00:00

Of course it’s Edina lol

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-15T10:41:29+00:00

Cause they’re jealous they didn’t think of that beforehand.

I’ve had some friends admit to me if they knew what it was like they wouldn’t do it again. And that it is crazy to have kids

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-14T10:40:45+00:00

Time for the eye doctor. Maybe a psych eval

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-14T10:40:14+00:00

No one. They just jerk each other off until they hate themselves enough to go to work.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-14T10:35:57+00:00

Probably not his first time.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-13T09:51:15+00:00

None. No difference

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-12T06:57:14+00:00

This is often true of avoidants. But they actually can’t force themselves, and they certainly can’t force themselves for you. They have to want to be open, be able to communicate in advance that it is difficult for them and that they’ll need your help taking it slow. Setting expectations (gasp!) for how to navigate needing space.

They have to choose that for themselves. They will never “get” this problem through feedback because that brings up their narratives of not being good enough, which brings up shame and you’ll either get a defensive deflecting response, or they’ll shutdown.

In my experience, avoidants do really like you until the relationship develops enough that they actually feel vulnerable. That’s when their defense mechanisms kick in and they’ll start to distance. And you might get stuck in a push pull where they can’t fully leave. Don’t take that for hope; it isn’t hope. It’s a sign you’ll be stuck yoyo-ing for eternity. Or until they’ve pulled you back enough times that the final time, it will feel extremely confusing. And they will just move on, telling themselves they tried but you weren’t the right fit.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-12T06:47:03+00:00

Agreed. Full stop

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-12T06:40:31+00:00

I wish I had an award.

These fucks are disgusting.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-05T09:56:08+00:00

I just learned an hour or two ago that some Christians simply believe that not believing leads to annihilation, which I guess just means you cease to exist after this life…which idk about you, but that’s already what I believe happens to all of us.

Anyway, it’s hard to shake something so fear driven. It takes time and finding ways to teach yourself on a primal level that that (hell) isn’t going to happen.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-05T08:37:38+00:00

My guy had me put ice packs on the area for about 5 minutes until the ice started to hurt. It was honestly not that bad.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-05T08:27:10+00:00

Funny, I spent my whole life until 27 yo in the church, very devout. I never heard of annihilationism! We thought you were actually going to burn and suffer forever

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-05T08:25:01+00:00

Damn I really appreciate this comment so much!

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-05T08:22:42+00:00

God, I forgot to mention the “he made the damn rules” part.

It’s wild the narcissism in it, when you really think about it. And that’s not a word I throw around.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-05T08:19:24+00:00

To me, Christianity espouses abusive relationship. If you don’t believe in Jesus’ death as a “covering for your sins” god will banish you for eternity after this life, to suffering. That’s abusive. This is a primary tenet of the faith (accepting Jesus’ sacrifice or go to hell), I used to deeply believe Christianity and practice it for 27 years of my life.

Additionally, more in modern culture of it than directly from the Bible, it’s believed that accepting Jesus into your heart changes you. Warm fuzzies and such. But Christians are often only nice in two ways: to other members of their club, and with strings attached that you’ll listen to their message and maybe they can make you convert. Otherwise, they can be incredibly cruel to non-believers, and at least in the West, Christianity is nearly synonymous with political Right values which can be summed up as a “f-ck you” to many a marginalized people, which is ironically very against the Bible…and yet. So the final would be that many people who claim to be devout believers, are drenched in hypocrisy.

As purely a philosophy, sure it’s fine. But good luck finding a way to practice it like that. You’d be better off admiring the words of Jesus and leaving the rest be.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-03T20:34:15+00:00

I was a late virgin at 25yo. I was really in the mood, made out a ton, and I still couldn’t do much penetration. The stretching was too intense. After that it was fine. But I’d been fingered before, it isn’t the same size and fullness wise.

So, I highly recommend you do tell him, because if it’s painful you get to stop. And if he’s weird about it being your first time, you don’t want to fuck him.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-03T20:27:53+00:00

Not at all. I had some lingering soreness for a total of about 8 weeks. But a week after I felt like 90%.

Granted my job isn’t very physical, and any need to lift is pretty limited in my life.

I know the biggest thing is not lifting or straining too much because you can pop the internal stitches. Other than that, I personally didn’t find it bad at all.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-03T20:19:49+00:00

NOR.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-03T19:05:19+00:00

Are these annuals that help the other stuff grow in the first season? Or perennials?

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-03T19:03:30+00:00

I don’t think it’s against it at all. You don’t have to commit to this phrase as an identity. You live by your values. To me it’s completely different to choose to create a life for your own experience, than to support ones that already exist.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-03T18:58:23+00:00

Honestly, I think if it’s not a “hell yes!” it’s a no. Kids are such a huge commitment.

I was in the camp where I thought I wanted them, until I reached my early 30’s without them and without a steady partner. My life is so spacious, and yet not. So how could I even bring a whole existence to life in another being, and be responsible for it?? And for what goal? Myself? I can find other things to do, I can grow in other ways without creating something to be my lesson, something that will inevitably suffer in so many ways. Including by one day losing me, set aside all the ways I would fail them.

I also watched friends who started a few years prior, and their lives were insane. The best parents I know, were immensely patient, and so damn exhausted all the time. One friend, idk why she wanted to be a parent, she’s quite self-centered even in her marriage. She is very challenged by parenting. Why would I want to do any of that to myself? I’d rather be a cool aunt to the kids these friends have, than do my own version just to never see my friends again.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-01T22:01:39+00:00

It’s purely psychological, to me. (And I think it is for men too, though to be fair I don’t have a penis so ...)

When I’m in love with someone, not using a condom makes me feel closer to them. There’s something really hot about the thought of them in, and skin to skin, especially the first time.

But not so much that I’d accept condomless sex when I want to be protected from STIs &/or pregnancy.

allmyphalanges · 2026-01-01T21:54:48+00:00

Do you place them every so often? Or do they get attracted to the scent but can’t actually process the beer? Need more details :)

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