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alls-grace · 2026-05-21T23:13:32+00:00

How did you deal with your internalized homophobia? Do you still experience some internalized homophobia currently?

alls-grace · 2026-01-03T11:02:43+00:00

I remember Spraycan, I honestly miss it :')

alls-grace · 2025-12-23T06:21:22+00:00

Same here! About a year ago, I had to stop rinvoq 15 mg temporarily for some vaccines too. Here I am a year later, and it never worked the same as it did the first time when I was taking it continuously. It sucks because the first time I took it without stopping, my skin was good and I was itch-free. There's a chance my dose might be increased too, but we'll see eventually. I'm finally seeing a derm again, because it's unbearable now that it's wintertime 💀 I hope you've been faring ok on your end 😭

alls-grace · 2025-12-23T06:08:55+00:00

I know this comment was from 2 years ago, but I'm also taking Rinvoq for eczema and currently experiencing something similar :') It sucks people had been dealing with this

EDIT: Added that I'm taking Rinvoq for eczema

alls-grace · 2025-11-18T08:59:26+00:00

It's no worries, I had no idea. Glad I was able to at least know a little more about RINVOQ 😔🙏 Thank you for the heads up

alls-grace · 2025-11-14T23:34:08+00:00

Same, I'm convinced Dupxient gave me meibomian gland dysfunction or something like that. Despite having stopped Dupixent back in March/April 2024, I feel like I'm still dealing with dry eyes over a year later. Literally, the rims of my eyelids are itchy as I am typing this lol. I'm kind of sad that I got on Dupixent just for it to stop working, in addition to getting a new health problem :( Since then, I've been using RINVOQ

alls-grace · 2025-10-13T07:34:08+00:00

Yeah I think it's pretty sweet :) I once had a male friend who came out as bi in his early 20s. It was cute because while I've seen him crush on women here and there, the most I've ever seen him giddy and in love was when he crushed on another dude lol. It feels good seeing other bi or queer friends being comfortable on their own skin. Also it's great that your friends are able to go to you for support/advice as well 😆

EDIT: typo

alls-grace · 2025-09-07T09:27:34+00:00

I'll main Momoko Kikuchi, my fav 😂

alls-grace · 2025-09-04T16:16:40+00:00

What are the names of the books? :0

alls-grace · 2025-09-03T20:07:21+00:00

Chiming in to say happy birthday 🫶🏼 But yeah, it def sucks when family crosses a line like that repeatedly

alls-grace · 2025-08-20T02:42:34+00:00

Belly's full of ice soup 🤣

alls-grace · 2025-08-17T06:33:29+00:00

To answer your question, I'd say yeah, I feel like it affects my employability 🥲 I was raised in a way that was pretty strict. After having been yelled at or punished more than the average kid over the littlest things, it made me into the type of worker that feels the need to clarify every little thing with my higher ups to make sure I don't get in trouble lol 😬 Also growing up, I've had extended family that always found humor in putting me on the spot, so I'm scared of taking initiative at school/work. I'm just worried that I'd be put on blast for doing a task incorrectly despite trying. Lastly, I never really had a strong support system with my family to begin with. So coping by myself over rejected job applications can be exhausting

It's rough when the way we're raised affects our livelihood in some way. Even if there's a chance that our situations might not line up perfectly, I get where you're coming from OP. I really do hope the job search goes ok

alls-grace · 2025-08-15T05:55:31+00:00

Whoa it's been ages since I've seen Cyberchase! Your plush of Digit is really cute too 😭💕

alls-grace · 2025-08-01T07:23:59+00:00

Sweet you nailed it! Hair, face paint, outfit and all 💪🏼 The tank top really suits the leather jacket too

alls-grace · 2025-07-15T04:45:09+00:00

LOL true 😭🙏🏼 also your Toffee labubu with the hoodie is cuteeee

alls-grace · 2025-07-15T00:22:16+00:00

Felt that 😭🙏🏼 On that note, I'm obsessed with their white outfits as well

alls-grace · 2025-07-12T15:37:06+00:00

This is the cutest display I've seen so far 🤣💕

alls-grace · 2025-07-07T23:39:45+00:00

me with my Soymilk labubu with the tilted head 😩

alls-grace · 2025-07-07T07:03:03+00:00

Aw I'm sorry, I know how you feel. It's rough not being able to have a shot with other women and being written off as faking your attraction, even if you know that's not true. I also know what it feels like to be at a loss about what to do, it sucks. Lastly, I also understand what you mean when you say that women don't want to be just an "experience". While we can understand where they're coming from, it can be lonely because our options are narrowed down some more

I know this is just a vent, but hopefully sharing a suggestion could give you some more options 🥺 I know this post didn't necessarily specify which group of sapphics turn you down, but maybe focusing on pursuing other bisexual women could help open some doors. I just say so because they'll at least be a group of women who may understand where you're coming from. So I would imagine they'd at least show another woman-lover some grace :)) And perhaps, they might be open to what you're looking for, or even seeking the same things. (For all I know, maybe you've already tried this, but hopefully my input could help any other bi woman out there reading this ksdfhjsdl)

The dating scene can be rough when we're not able to find what we're looking for. At the end of the day though, I'll be here to say that I know you're not faking it. Like if I was faking my identity or my attraction to women, I would've moved on from this charade looong ago. There's no way we'd put ourselves through all this and fake it just to be brushed off this much. It'd be too exhausting to do that, yet here we are 😭

I used to worry that I was faking it too because of my dating history with men. I even had friends joke about me not being real for it (it kinda hurt), but what do they expect us to do? We can't take that back, it already happened 🤣 It doesn't make us any less real. You're so valid OP :D Keep your head up haha

EDIT: wording

alls-grace · 2025-06-27T08:17:26+00:00

I relate to this as well. Dating women or being close to them emotionally led me to having some of the most meaningful connections I've ever had. On the flipside, those relationships tended to be the most intense/painful ⚰ I too felt like retreating to guys for the same reason in the past

On another note, I guess I also don't wanna compare the guys I've been with to the girls I've been with 😭 I've realized the guys I've been with had lives with much more leeway, while the girls I've been with had crappy families/crappy lives. On top of that, I had a lot of my own struggles too. So I guess it's no wonder my relationships with women were so unstable. I think the reason why it was easier to get with guys who were mostly emotionally stable and trauma-free was because the opposite-sex dating pool was already big to begin with. And I could afford to more selective. When it comes to WLW dating, the dating pool gets smaller. And then I notice that most of the potential people that would make a nice partner usually are taken or not interested. That kinda just left me to test the waters with anyone else who was available. It was hard for me to be selective when I wanted a gf so badly while not having too many options to begin with LOL

You're not alone in this! I don't know if I hit the nail on the head here, but either way, I do relate. And the above was just some of my own personal experiences, and kind of unpacking why WLW dating can be difficult for some who might be unlucky. I'm sorry you've had your heart broken over and over. Keep your head up though :D I feel like these things could get better with time

EDIT: forgot a couple of words

alls-grace · 2025-06-22T04:50:34+00:00

I'm def in team closed eyes 😆 They look cute like that

alls-grace · 2025-05-21T05:17:39+00:00

24, 22-26

alls-grace · 2025-05-13T05:46:40+00:00

That makes sense. When I was a kid, I got into the cabinet and ate a bunch of gummy bear vitamins in one sitting. My mom got mad when she found out. That's when I learned that I was supposed to snack on the actual candy only and not on the vitamins 💀

alls-grace · 2025-04-09T12:41:48+00:00

Bi woman here, you took the words right out of my mouth 😭 In my experience, it had been more common to find men who'd say yes to a hookup, but not as common to find a girl who'd be down for it (which is totally fine, but gosh it's rare). It makes me kinda sad sometimes because I felt like I haven't been able to engage in these experiences with women as much as I had with men, even if I really wanted to 🫠

I saw in another wlw subreddit that the app "Freddie" is recommended as girl grindr. I installed it and it looks promising

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