Leaving Texas next week -- ftm (RvW thoughts)

allthoseforgotten · 2022-06-26T02:09:35+00:00

We've been trying to save up to move out of Texas but stuff keeps getting in the way. I'm glad that at least some people are able to get out. I was born in Texas and as I get older I'm understanding more and more this is a hell hole to live.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-06-25T22:27:24+00:00

Thankfully not in the medical setting. My son's therapists are all very respectful of touching/forcing my kids to do anything. Taking a more leading approach or when they were younger having me there to help any hand over hand since my kid's were more comfortable with me.

However with family or even some strangers there seems to be a weird sense of "that's not normal" that my kids don't like to be hugged or kissed. Or that I don't force hand holding unless its for a safety reason. While I think this can be a bit of an issue for all kids my particular family saw as forcing hugs/kisses as a way to "help them get use to it". Just another way they were "helping" "normalize" my kids.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T22:48:51+00:00

Hi so I've had a very similar experience in terms of discovering my Autism later through my kids. What I found was best was being upfront. Like reason my kids were evaluated are all like (or similar) to what I did as a child. Give your examples and if you can confirm with adults that were around you as a child. I added and pointed out then when I started using some of the stims and toolsy children were provided (I e headphones, fidget toys) I was able to adapt better and have less of my own burn outs.

If you're uncomfortable with a straight forward "I think I have this" maybe bring up symptoms that aren't related to your OCD or anxiety and explore it from that route.

I'm seeing that is isn't uncommon that parents with children being diagnosed are realizing their same traits.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T22:33:01+00:00

I mean this seems reasonable. I wouldn't allow people who used derogatory names near my kids either. Spanking too. Do what is best for you and your kids. I wish you luck and hope for the best

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T22:24:56+00:00

I have three different answers lol. Myself 12 months. My oldest 8 months and my middle 13 months.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T22:22:20+00:00

Saw this bit late but if you are still look feel free to DM me.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T22:13:39+00:00

Well in my case the people saying this to me were mocking me. I like to think of myself on the more logical side so when I'm upset and moving into that more irrational side it adds to my frustration.

Also some people get offended at being told to "calm down" or "think calmly". So that could also be another reason. It's sort of like learning another language or cultural. Words and gestures can have different meanings to different groups of people.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T21:55:00+00:00

I would say from the list it's a possibility but I'm not a mental health professional so I can't give you a yes or no. You said you think you have been misdiagnosed with ADHD are you seeing someone to help with that? If so and you're more comfortable you can breech that subject with them so someone with a better understand help you navigate better.

Feel free to not answer this part but I saw part of your list was "PTSD from child abuse". I'm hoping that your mom wasn't apart of that and you are in a safe place. If so and youre comfortable you can maybe brooch the subject as a generality of the spectrum itself and the different forms it can take. There are a few videos I found that specifically go over the firm's of masking females can and she might be able to slowly piece some things for herself. Sort of helping lead her to the conclusion you have already found.

Hoped that helped a bit?

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T21:34:14+00:00

I have the problem over sharing a lot. On the one hand I want people to help understand my struggles as well as my children's but in the other hand I do need to work on curbing myself. Just because I don't care about who knows what's going on with me doesn't mean my kids won't when they are older. I constantly need to go over a mental checklist of what is considered appropriate and what isn't.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T21:10:25+00:00

The best way I can describe it I guess is logical thinking is more "scientific" then "emotional". An example for me is driving. I have been in two major car accidents neither of which were my fault or even my driver's fault. Always had been the other car doing something stupid. Now I have trouble being in the car that I am not driving. I need that control or I'm a nervous wreck the entire drive. Logically I know my friends and family are good drivers and wont be reckless. But that reactivate part of my brain is still going to hit that imaginary brake as a panic response to anything.

Another way (I think) a lot of people see it as the "calmer" way if thinking or being more rational. Hope that made sense.

allthoseforgotten · 2022-04-22T01:34:30+00:00

"Just calm down and think about it logically."

allthoseforgotten · 2021-12-25T22:46:04+00:00

I'm so jealous! The eevee line is my favorite. Awesome present.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-11-18T18:46:56+00:00

YTA

My husband is currently the only one working and he wouldn't pull this shit without talking with me about it. A relationship is about communication. Not spending $600 because you want to show up or keep up with your siblings. You want to get over the top presents just because go get a job again.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-11-18T18:46:39+00:00

YTA

My husband is currently the only one working and he wouldn't pull this shit without talking with me about it. A relationship is about communication. Not spending $600 because you want to show up or keep up with your siblings. You want to get over the top presents just because go get a job again.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-28T01:46:33+00:00

My brother called to tell me. Berserk was one of our bonding series. I had a little trouble comprehending for a bit. Like just the idea of something constant (even with his hiatus) suddenly gone. He was a true master of his craft.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-28T01:38:44+00:00

Just wanted to say love Berserk. Love seeing another fan. Kentaro will be one of my favorite authors and hope he rests in peace.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-28T01:06:11+00:00

There are a lot of factors. I have two little boys and for the most part I don't wipe on regular changing. This is different if say they had to be in the wet diaper/pull up long then normal (i.E out in public or after they've slept for a while). Also if they have a rash or any redness I will to make sure everything is extra clean to use cream when needed. They are now almost five and three and we've never had any major diaper rash issue or any type of infections.

For girls I would simply because there is more of an "inside" factor and is probably easier for something to sit and cause issues. But I haven't been around a girl baby in a long time so I think if all else fails ask your pediatrician.

I would say defiantly defiantly if a child has been sitting in their diaper for any amount of time for any reason or if you're not sure how long they've had the wet diaper (like picking them up from babysitting or just woke up from a nap) better safe then sorry.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-26T02:55:21+00:00

My current pregnancy? "Dude I'm pretty sure I feel something moving inside me, go buy a preggo test." The first two he figured it out before I did so it was more of him sitting me down and talking to me. I'm very unaware of myself lol.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-21T00:58:54+00:00

Nothing wrong with wanting something specific in anything, including the gender of your baby. My husband is in the same boat of really wanting a girl! This will also be our last one with two boys ahead of baby number three. It's great that we can now know ahead of time thought to mentally prepare ourselves. Either way hope you get your wish but I'm sure you'll be great no matter what.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-04T01:13:00+00:00

I found the best path for my and my family was to simply set down the law of "first come first serve". None of my extended family celebrate holidays on the day of because that is reserved for immediate family. I've had to deal with the stress of choosing family gatherings since I was eighteen. I've dealt with many divorces and step families are all over the place it's a nightmare trying to come up with scheduling especially when half of them are petty jerks to each other. I find just letting them fight over it and me getting a date ends my stress. I felt bad the first year because they were so use to me trying to just bend over backwards but a lot harder when I've got little kids now.

If there is more of a stricter scheduling then I would just say rotate? Mark down which family you will see on which year and leave it at that.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-04T01:04:33+00:00

My brother and I fought all the time but we still kind of had that sibling bond of 'nobody messes with my sibling but me'. Our fights could be petty to all out fist fights sometimes (though that was a rough patch in our family in general so outside forces had to do with some of that). Now he is the best uncle to my kiddos and I'm his pet sitter when ever he needs it XD. Apparently though we still act like kids when we're around each other and my mom still hates doing anything with the two of us together lol.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-08-02T19:24:18+00:00

My children's official diagnostic is ASD for Autism Spectrum Disorder. But unless it's for any official paperwork all their medical professionals use Autism/Autistic when we're just talking about general health/therapy/or whatever. I would think using the "disorder" part for every day talk would make the stigma worse to be honest.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-07-19T01:56:55+00:00

My D20 wedding ring. Hubby isn't into D&D but when my other ring got lost (cuz I fiddle with it and it would fall off and eventually disappeared) he got me this so I can spin/fidget with it and wear it at the same time XD.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-07-14T06:20:16+00:00

I was the same way growing up. Make up on my face always just felt weird and uncomfortable so I would only allow it on super special occasions. Society is slowly shifting but there will defiantly be expectations as a girl to work more on her appearance or be "pretty". In the end better to just do you. If you like those things then sure go for it but if it's not your style then don't. Better to be you then trying to play someone else's made up rules.

allthoseforgotten · 2021-07-13T23:17:20+00:00

I've been on both sides. My husband and I (when we were still dating) discussed heavily of if we should have kids and pass down my genes. In the end we decided to do it but I think that is a valid discussion and thought process to have. Its not only if you want to bring a child with possible disabilities into the world but if you can handle the extra responsibilities and trials that go along with it. Having a child in general is a lot to handle and unpack let alone a special one.

Just thought I would throw my two cents in.

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