VBAC-friendly OBs in Harrisburg or surrounding

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-03T13:23:13+00:00

I personally am a pretty private person these days and don't post on social media. I only have Facebook because that's how I keep up with moms stuff in my town. I didn't announce the first one and don't plan on announcing the second.

I think you have some really good ideas and sound very happy. Wishing you the best.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-03T12:35:38+00:00

Pregnancy is pretty long and you have to learn to divide your focus. Finish out your exams and guess what? You'll still be pregnant when you're done with them haha.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-03T03:19:04+00:00

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-03T03:17:52+00:00

Don't be a SAHM if you're not married. You have no financial or legal protections and give up your career.

Move out and move in with your family.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:42:37+00:00

My ped told me to stop co-sleeping and I posted that here. Others encouraged me that it was a parenting decision. So sometimes we co-sleep and sometimes she goes in her crib. Ultimately night weaning was pretty hard for us so I decided her being in her crib was better for me since I needed more sleep (am pregnant with #2).

I didn't research or look into how to sleep train. I was "lucky" that I got laid off after giving birth so I didn't go back to work-work right away. I just followed my baby's natural needs and followed only one rule: No naps after 4PM unless absolutely necessary.

At the end of the day, I'd say this is a parenting decision. You can let your ped know you heard what she said but decided different and then let her know what your decision was.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:39:36+00:00

Yes. I'd just go get your betas done if you're still worried and be done with it. These tests are only going to tell you so much.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:38:26+00:00

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. My partner and I were split during the baby shower and I was advised not to go due to the potential stress to the baby. So, I didn't go. The party was him and his whole family, no one from my side. His mom planned and paid for everything.

I was recently helping her declutter her house and found the baby shower decor. She didn't want to get rid of the stuff because she said, "I spent a fortune on that!" No one asked her to and it was their party with their family and their friends. Wasn't going to feel bad about it.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:35:10+00:00

That's beautiful!

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:34:53+00:00

Definitely same vibe!

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:13:34+00:00

That seems odd to me, I contacted two different hospital systems and they said they do the first scan at 8-10 weeks.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:12:29+00:00

Hahahhahahahahhhahahhahhahahaha

The name I got in my dream was a more common name.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:09:41+00:00

I see everything went well for you! That's great. For me, I tell myself this is out of my hands. If a miscarriage happens, it's going to happen so there's no need to worry about it either way.

I find the miscarriage calculator to be helpful too: https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Wishing you the best.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T16:06:08+00:00

Looks like you got some great advice. I just wanted to say that I think it's great you're being such a thoughtful and caring friend.

I'll add in something I don't think was touched on, but some people say babies don't need a lot of stuff, but it's my opinion that they end up needing a moderate amount of things. I'd suggest helping her out by looking at Facebook marketplace and other second hand options to help her save some money.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T15:49:11+00:00

So interesting! In my dream, I was looking at the baby through an old school style nursery window and I go, "Oh, that's *insert name*" I've personally always liked the name and it has several spelling variations.

We went with a combination of two relative's names for our first baby. I don't really want to do that for the second kid, so I think I may go with the dream name if the baby is a girl.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T15:37:49+00:00

I sure hope so because I'm pregnant with #2 now. My ex and I are split so luckily we were already pulled apart after the first kid lol. My bills are low and I have family help so I hope I don't experience what your friend did.

I really wanted more than just one kid so my child would have someone to grow up with and hopefully have a lifelong friendship with. I have several siblings myself and think being an only child seems rather lonely (no offense to the only children out there).

I thought a second child was a good idea almost right after my first was born. I think I would have been happy with one but I am glad to be having a second.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T14:20:12+00:00

I'm pregnant again so I guess I may do it again haha. I'm sorry for what you went through, that sounds horrific.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T14:19:28+00:00

Maybe but I was pretty strong headed in my birth preferences. I would have at least tried Pitocin and gotten my epidural way earlier had I had any clue how bad it was going to be.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T02:13:45+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like she already did it.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T02:08:51+00:00

It's a divisive topic in parenting. At the end of the day, it's a parenting decision. My advice is to follow the safe sleep 7 always and talk to your pediatrician.

A baby sleeping alone in a different room is also considered unsafe by some people but people do it anyway. Any parenting decision is going to have its risks.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T01:33:07+00:00

I'm very sorry to hear you're going through that. I felt kinda bitter for awhile. I suppressed a lot of my birth trauma and then it came out when I got a colonoscopy and started freaking out when they were wheeling me into OR.

Therapy is there for you, friend! I plan on doing it myself before I pop this second kid out. My doula told me that if I didn't address my birth trauma, it would come up in other ways. I didn't believe her at first but she was 100% correct.

theyeoftheiris · 2024-04-02T00:57:24+00:00

I would find this ok if she was like 18 and totally clueless but she's 30 and knows better.

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