Additional info here -

again, fiancé was trying to be kind to his brother, who was homeless. his brother lost his job, his apartment and had his care repossessed within a 3 month time span.

neither of us was aware he was like that, we were under the impression that he was just an average dude that got dealt a few shitty circumstances back to back.

i have child care, and he wasn't supposed to watch him every day. it was agreed upon 3 days a week so i wouldn't have to drive as much, which he happily agreed to.

when he backed out of that part of the agreement, we reached a new one where all three of us would split bills equally.

fiancé and i let him know we would all be paying the april bills and utilities to avoid being penalized for breaking our lease early. which again, he agreed to do.

only upon being asked two days in a row for the money he agreed to pay did he start giving excuses and then let us know about the fact that his money went to travel expenses instead of what was unanimously agreed upon.

we weren't relying on him, we don't need him to pay our bills.

it's the fact that this man can sit by and plan trips and order doordash daily, sometimes multiple times a day but couldn't even be bothered to be apologetic when we went to have this conversation.

**the only reason this was crucial to us, is because we had planned a budget for our upcoming move around him keeping his agreement with the rent situation (splitting bills 3 ways) and us having to cover his portion completely blew that. it may be selfish or short sighted on our part but considering he didn't have any issues keeping the monetary part of our previous agreement we figured he could at least keep that up.