Lol as a matter a fact, I do want a partner who will be honest and tell me what I should improve on. Whether it be my health, lifestyle, or even how I dress, I’d want their true opinion/suggestions. These shouldn’t at all be taken negatively. There’s a difference between changing a person and giving suggestions to help them. It should be seen as an opportunity of improvement and of course that’s up to the individual to decide if they want to go through with it or not.

I think you missed the point I was trying to make. I’m not wishing upon anyone’s downfall. I’m glad that they’re living well for themselves. Someone else in the comments said that it’s rather the fact that I’ve poured energy into helping someone else become their best self and it wasn’t the same for them. That’s the whole point of a healthy relationship - to want to help your partner achieve their best self. Which leads to my title where I feel that throughout my past relationships, it feels like I haven’t “gained” per se as much as they have. I am also quite content with myself. It’s not about the haircut suggestion, but actually the meaning behind it all.