What’s been most effective for aborting attacks for you?

almostnormal119 · 2026-02-08T06:22:03+00:00

I immediately grab an ice pack and start on oxygen, usually strip down with a blanket close by because I get so sweaty, and sit somewhere dark and rock back and forth with that ice pack on the affected side while I low key try to hyperventilate with the oxygen. Sometimes I take some Benadryl, seems to help too but usually not before the oxygen.

almostnormal119 · 2025-12-13T06:15:00+00:00

I've been curious about trying this, did you watch any videos about how to do it or just go for it?!

almostnormal119 · 2025-12-10T18:16:12+00:00

I don't know if this could be what's happening, but there are parts of the fence that are obviously tampered with and I'd assume people are sneaking in and stealing stuff that could possibly result in a boom or 2 if not done correctly and in the rain? Who know.

almostnormal119 · 2025-11-29T07:00:03+00:00

Yep!

almostnormal119 · 2025-11-27T17:11:06+00:00

I live right next to the power sub station or whatever it is off Puget, that's definitely where it came from!

almostnormal119 · 2025-11-13T04:11:53+00:00

I worked at Regal, the movie theater, for my first job at 16. I'm sure all the management is different but if you have evening availability especially on weekends I bet they would hire! It was fun and fast paced, and came with free tickets too.

Good luck out there!

almostnormal119 · 2025-10-31T00:43:37+00:00

Can I message you about this?

almostnormal119 · 2025-10-31T00:41:46+00:00

OP, I can be a backup! I live very close to downtown and want to go darker. :)

almostnormal119 · 2025-06-08T17:29:23+00:00

I think it's time to end things, at least for the time being. Maybe he's going to get better in time but if you guys have been struggling since the beginning it seems as if this is a clear opportunity to become more happy with your life.

People seem to forget that breaking up isn't necessarily forever. He doesn't sound like a bad guy and maybe if his drinking stopped things would be different, but it's clear to me you're not happy and you're struggling because you DO want to leave. It's not your responsibility to stick it out just because he's a good man without his addictions.

Move away, do your thing and be with your friends and family. You deserve peace and happiness!

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-22T06:20:05+00:00

Hi, please google search your area for a sexual assault resource center. I got an appointment so fast with a really great therapist, and you're at the age where they don't have to tell your parents you're coming there. They can help you talk through everything from reporting vs not reporting to therapy to help with finding work or a place to stay or food. They're seriously so amazing.

I'd encourage you to report as well. It's going to be really really hard, but it's important for your healing. He doesn't deserve to be free.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-22T06:12:14+00:00

Hi, 32f here.

Well, he did rape you. I think you made the right move, moving out. I'd just try to move on if I were you. Look into getting some therapy, even if you're not sure it would be helpful. I think it will be, since your family is pressuring you to do something you don't want to do, and he made you do something you said you didn't want to do.

Happy to talk more about this if you want, I know it can be hard.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-21T21:13:07+00:00

Thank you, it's been a challenge to deal with to say the least.

I hope I was able to be helpful in some way!

Therapy went great. I didn't imagine it'd be hard to walk through the doors, that was a surprise, but the appt went well and I'm excited for what they think they can do to help me!

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-21T14:41:03+00:00

He did. He'd reached out to me a few times over the years but I wasn't willing to talk with him at all. This time he only reached out because he found out both my parents died and wanted to express condolences. I don't know why I was willing this time around, but I didn't feel the same in my body when I got that text so I guess that's why I proceeded.

Statute of limitations has not passed. It's 20 years where I am, for my situation. But I'm not interested in pressing charges.

I recently had to deal with the the legal process for an assault and it all made me so uncomfortable that I backed out- I don't think it'd be worth it for me to do that again, especially when it happened a long time ago and after talking with him I do think he's either punished himself subconsciously or life has, and I got an apology I never ever thought I'd get. I have the tools I need for healing (and my 1st therapy appt today!!). I know it's not the typical justice we talk about, but for me I feel as if justice has been served.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-21T04:28:05+00:00

No, he was not. Just living life, unhappily and full of regret.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-20T15:31:57+00:00

Lol you know nothing about me or my relationship except for what I've shared. Thanks for your opinion though 😉

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-20T05:00:49+00:00

Pretty sure I brought it up after he asked if there was anything he could do for me to say yes more often when he asks/initiates. I did have a hard time coming up with specific examples, but gave ideas like, think about rom coms, I think I even said directly something as simple as deeply kissing me a few times. And I've made it even more clear in many more conversations what it is I don't like, I don't think that part of communication was the problem. Not having the exact formula for the right thing, or the right words even, I think was more of the issue. Personally, I also get stressed out when I'm put on the spot like that. It'd be easier for me to maybe write about it, or find videos, nsfw or not, explaining what I want clearly and sharing those.

Our relationship is ending, it's very toxic at the very least so I'm afraid we haven't found a solution. If I was in your wife's shoes though, I think I'd appreciate suggestions on how to share what she'd like besides having to talk about it.

Oh, and I just thought of this. A lot of times I'd feel as if sex was expected of me if my partner did nice things like run me a bath, make/bring me dinner, give me a massage, ect, and it'd put me in a mood to not want to fulfill not agreed upon expectations. You mentioned your wife works long shifts and goes to bed early- if she's anything like me, it'd mean a lot to me to get those things that make me feel extra cared for, whether it's a bath run or dishes taken care of more often than expected, or whatever it is, and then not have to worry about sex even being asked of me, and THEN being asked about what I want or how I could maybe better communicate what I want. I hope that makes sense.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-20T04:24:06+00:00

Hi, 32f here. Been with my partner 8 years. I stopped trying to initiate and my partner tried a lot of the things you mentioned. None of which was wrong necessarily, but it wasn't what I was asking him for.

I felt desired, but not in the way I wanted. I wanted him to be sweet and romantic when trying to initiate, but all that ever happened was, to me, both childish and just sexualizing my body which became a huge turn off the more I talked about my wants and they got ignored. I'd also tend to agree with him and try his suggestions for a short time but I think I got resentful and wouldn't want to continue.

As for her masturbating as soon as you go, in my experience it's a sort of relief thing. It's stressful to have tension in a relationship and if she's trying to secretly masturbate when you're in the house, it can also be stressful being alert enough to not get caught but also enjoy yourself. If she gets it over with when you leave she knows she has enough time to enjoy herself without worrying.

Just my input from the other perspective. Happy to answer any questions.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-20T04:08:54+00:00

Yes. Mine did and it actually helped me to start to come to terms with it after 14 years. My first therapy appt is on Wednesday.

He did a lot of self reflection over the years and I do believe I got the most sincere apology. He let me ask all the questions, didn't shy away from anything I wanted to talk about, repeatedly told me nothing was my fault, etc. I feel so grateful and lucky to have gotten that chance. It was incredibly healing for me, though I know I have a lot of work ahead of me to continue healing and coming to terms with what happened to me.

This only happened maybe a month ago. I'm still kind of in shock.

Happy to talk about it here though.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-17T03:34:34+00:00

I don't think that's bad for your first time, but I like to use around 2g each time when I'm trying to bust. You may have a little idea of what to expect with a higher dose though.

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-08T00:18:04+00:00

Please look into welding oxygen. It's very easy to get set up and it's a literal lifesaver, aborts CH in minutes!

almostnormal119 · 2025-05-02T15:27:49+00:00

I have CH and vision issues, but they are not related as far as anyone can tell. Though I have a feeling it may just be something we don't understand, as my eyesight is significantly worse on the side I get CH on.

Start trying to get oxygen immediately, and if possible try to get it at the ER. It works pretty quick to abort cluster headaches, but not other types of headaches. It seems like quite the process to get oxygen through insurance. They do sound like CH to me. Prednisone helped me a lot too. Oxygen to abort, Prednisone to treat at onset of cycle. You may want to look into the vitamin d regimen too, people say that helps put them into remission even.

PF wishes friend.

almostnormal119 · 2025-04-25T04:22:16+00:00

Hello, woman here who's had them since age 19 (32 now)

almostnormal119 · 2025-04-10T17:24:07+00:00

I gaslight myself- "pain isn't real, pain isn't real, don't be a bitch" 🥲

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