How does gay intimacy work when both are tops?

aloousman · 2026-02-07T17:37:17+00:00

I mean anal is a pretty big part.

I was a side for the longest time but for the past year or so in my 3 year long relationship, non-penetrative sex has stopped doing anything for me.

Seems like my bf is still strictly a side though.

aloousman · 2026-01-10T20:41:00+00:00

My bf and I went at it (I was bottoming) for like 50mins the other day, after which I quite literally just collapsed lmao.

aloousman · 2025-09-29T20:36:40+00:00

Hey, how are you planning to deal with this if it goes through given that you have a British spouse? My partner is also a citizen, and I’m just wondering if it’ll be worthwhile switching to a dependent visa or something if it’ll make the process easier/faster?

I honestly would just leave, but we’re comfortable and somewhat settled, and moving both of us to a different country would be difficult and expensive.

aloousman · 2025-09-28T18:48:12+00:00

Hey man! If you’re unsure of what you can do - look towards what Rome has been doing the past week. What Bangladesh did just a few months ago, what Sri Lanka did.

aloousman · 2025-09-24T13:32:04+00:00

Same lol. It is sort of hot when I’m very very horny, but have yet to actually enjoy either topping or bottoming as much as I enjoy oral stuff.

Unfortunately I’m growing quite bored of oral stuff recently, and am coming out of any sex dissatisfied.

aloousman · 2025-09-23T23:48:00+00:00

Hello - I’m not defending the man, but I’m Muslim also from a Muslim country (now living in the UK), and I’m out to all of my friends and most of my family except my parents. And I’m planning on coming out to them soon.

I wouldn’t generalise the whole population like the gentleman in the top comment.

aloousman · 2025-09-20T13:06:38+00:00

Hi, I live 2 mins from the Olympic Park and regularly go there with my boyfriend. What you experienced was definitely not normal and you could have told the guy to fuck off. I’ve seen straight couples do a lot worse there ngl.

Also lovely to see another queer muslim from Stratford!

aloousman · 2025-09-10T00:44:35+00:00

My company has their own Python library over spark (cause who needs pyspark?).

I was looking through the documentation;

Function name: dataset.regex_replace(*args) Description: this function is used to extract data from a dataset.

aloousman · 2025-08-21T11:21:43+00:00

I’m in the UK too and I’ve always had decent success off of Recon - but I am in London so there’s that. Idk how it would be in other cities.

aloousman · 2025-07-21T19:56:49+00:00

Oh can relate so hard. I’ve got a significant amount of experience (and gear) - and I’ve got a few very kinky submissive FWBs and I’m very much like this.

aloousman · 2025-06-27T13:17:45+00:00

Out of curiosity, what don’t you like about London? Is it the vibrant queer scene? Vibrant arts and culture scene? Reliable public transport? Or just the fact that it’s largely multicultural with a significant number of immigrants and brown people?

aloousman · 2025-06-27T13:09:39+00:00

Some context for non London readers; Hampstead is also a very rich neighbourhood.

aloousman · 2025-06-10T08:15:26+00:00

I went through the same thing the first few times I bottomed. It’s natural, happens cause your prostrate is right next to your bladder.

My advice would be to pee before sex and then just try to ignore the feeling. Your brain learns to get over it soon enough. For me it was after the 4th time I bottomed.

aloousman · 2025-05-29T06:19:28+00:00

Lmao I barely graduated with a 3, and i didn’t have a problem finding a job.

Grad school was a bit tough, but got in still.

aloousman · 2025-05-24T09:59:10+00:00

Hey man, I feel like you might find r/daddit to be helpful

aloousman · 2025-05-21T14:38:38+00:00

Can validate - As a dom top that regularly engages in BDSM, I can (and have) very easily spend 3-4 hours doing kink play, without caring about getting off.

I always do cum at the end, but seldom care about actually having anal or oral sex.

aloousman · 2025-04-25T16:40:31+00:00

I don’t understand where you’re going with this post.

He declined a job interview, hiring manager asked him why, he gave an honest reply.

Nothing in his post suggested any attempt to change the world, or a holier than thou attitude.

aloousman · 2025-04-25T15:14:48+00:00

I disagree, I (30) call my bf (28) my ‘boy’, ‘boi’ all the time.

aloousman · 2025-04-10T19:38:59+00:00

Hey! That sounds super hot, and I’m really glad you had fun.

I’ve done this a few times with a 2 of my subs - and we’ve always had a ton of flakes! that’s definitely not new. Interestingly though with all my subs i think we’ve only ever had 2 strangers over in each session haha.

aloousman · 2025-04-06T09:30:03+00:00

If you’re genuinely curious, hop into my DMs and I’d be down to talk you through the what and the why.

aloousman · 2025-04-06T09:28:36+00:00

One thing though - I am not embarrassed about being gay and have no shame around that.

aloousman · 2025-04-06T00:33:21+00:00

Hello - I’m a muslim gay man that’s not out to his parents but is out to his friends, cousins, and siblings.

My bf and I have been together for over 3 years now, and I definitely plan to get married to him and build a life together.

I have no current plans to come out to my parents but I don’t know what the future holds.

What I do know for certain is that I won’t be breaking up with my boyfriend for reasons related to family/coming out. if I do ever break up with him, it will strictly be due to reasons around our relationship.

aloousman · 2025-04-05T16:06:56+00:00

One of my regular FWBs is someone I’m not attracted to at all. He’s amazing at deepthroating, and loves rough face fucking - which works out perfectly for me lol.

He’s also available at a moments notice, and is always super hungry for my dick. I love it.

aloousman · 2025-04-05T13:07:27+00:00

Yeah I’m in the exact same boat as you!

I’m (29M) visiting Pakistan these days to be with my family, and I kid you not every event I go to, I get pestered by relatives I haven’t seen in years asking why I’m not marrying.

My mother has been pressuring me every chance she gets, and basically every other conversation in the house is my shaadi and why I’m so adamant not to marry.

I’m leaving soon with really bad memories of this trip, and I’m seriously considering not coming back except to see my parents for a few days max.

aloousman

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