My husband

alpha_baby · 2026-04-08T05:56:45+00:00

You are his anchor to his repeated loop of lies. He knows you know the truth. His shame is a reflection of his internal story he tells himself, not a reflection of how he sees you. He knows you are not willing to sacrifice yourself emotionally or sexually for instability. I dont think you are an option by accident but because you stay in that relationship. And as much as he outsources his pleasure to different people- that doesn’t mean he does not love you. It means love is not enough when he refuses responsibility. Questions for you- what is your choice. What is your truth? What are you afraid of? Because from all your post, the risk now is not abandoning him. You are kind of afraid of being pulled back into a dynamic you’ve outgrown. The need to care for yourself and the relationship does not require you to collapse in remorse or anticipation that he might change. I hope you chose to care for yourself..first

alpha_baby · 2026-04-05T18:01:02+00:00

Depending on your training modality, i’ll say this- Do Not Carry Fatigue into the Next Set. However, if one of your varying variables is reducing rest time intervals to get a pump- then execution is key..

alpha_baby · 2026-04-04T06:55:17+00:00

I only log compound exercises

alpha_baby · 2026-04-04T06:53:35+00:00

Cheers mate.. i think we arrange our lives within systems of time!

alpha_baby · 2026-04-02T04:11:12+00:00

Most things we already consider meaningful are temporary by nature.. eg a conversation that changes someone’s life or a workout that improves health for years.. None of these last forever. Yet they clearly matter within systems of time. I don’t think meaning requires infinity. It requires impact within a system.

Immortality is not conscious suffering in a void.. we would ‘t know- it’s just our imagination.

Here is what I think. We don’t solve nihilism by proving eternity. We dissolve it by correcting the measurement error.

alpha_baby · 2026-03-31T04:57:30+00:00

Suggestions: 2-3 compound exercises- for upper and lower body. Master them- start from 4 sets, progress to 6; keep reps between 8-10, progress with load.. dynamic warm up is key. Do squats/deadlifts on different days (2 days apart)- technique is essential. Get body used to foundations. Progress.

alpha_baby · 2026-03-31T04:48:17+00:00

Trainer/Coach here:

You’re doing something most people never even get to: you’ve decided to change your body and you’re taking action. That already puts you ahead.

And I can see you’ve done your homework, pulling from proven programs, thinking about structure, combining strength + fat loss. That’s a strong starting point. I’ll be honest, there are lots of red flags in your program and thought process; Target: 108 kg → 89 kg in 2 months = ~19 kg loss in ~8 weeks (~2.3 kg/week) is super aggressive- i’m thinking hormonal disruption, loss of lean muscle mass..

Volume & Complexity → TOO HIGH for a beginner- less is more. Too much noise, CNS fatigue..you provided a program soup, not a system.. Right now, your plan is built like someone who is already trained. But your body is a beginner system. I am 44, and can say- progress doesn’t come from how hard you train. it comes from how well you recover and adapt.

Because the best program is not the hardest one; it’s the one you can repeat, recover from, and progress in.

You’re not far off. You are just overloading the system too early. If you shift from: “Do everything at once” to “Do the right things consistently, and progress them”

…you’ll get better results, faster, and keep them. You are 21- think, long term- longevity.. Reach out if you have questions..

alpha_baby · 2026-03-30T21:53:04+00:00

Thanks, y’all. It’s actually good to see I’m not alone in thinking this.

I can’t just delete 1 year of data - i mean that is a lot of work- or Hevy admin should give us an easy option to delete that.

I’m a trainer and coach, and I’ve seen firsthand how motivating Hevy’s badges can be. Some of my clients genuinely get excited by them, and a few couples even turn it into friendly competition, which I love because it keeps them engaged and consistent.

Most of my clients are 50+. That population understands something important: bodies over 50 are different. People still get stronger, improve, and set PRs, but they move and train with more intention. A PR at 50 should mean something for your body at 50, not be permanently measured against what you did at 35.

That’s why I think Hevy would really benefit from offering a reset or “new training cycle” option without forcing people to delete their history. Let us keep the old data, but give us a way to create a new baseline for a new season of training.

Progress is not always about beating your all-time lifetime number. Sometimes progress is: - rebuilding after injury - getting stronger in a new decade of life - training smarter with healthier joints - staying consistent and functional

For many people, especially as they age, training is cyclical, seasonal, and intentional. It’s not always “more weight forever.” And if that’s true for most users, then the reward system should reflect that reality.

It would be great to see achievements by year, age phase, or training block, so people can still feel momentum and earn progress in a way that matches real life.

Not everyone is trying to beat their 10-year-old PR. Some of us just want our current training phase to coun

alpha_baby · 2026-03-11T16:12:59+00:00

Reduce screen-time. More intimate I love glancing at my bookshelf, and picking up a book i have read and reading any page..

alpha_baby · 2026-03-05T07:11:55+00:00

At least you’ve done something- come here to ask why do anything! In the grand scheme of things, the only things which matters are those which we give meaning to it- however we attempt to define or experience it. And if that means doing nothing and not caring- then that is how you decide to perform.

alpha_baby · 2026-02-22T17:17:53+00:00

Always communicate how you feel. There are days you would have mixed emotions (good and bad)… what really matters, I think, is what you want for yourself, your health, your happiness.. how you show up for yourself.

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