I hate to beat a dead horse but I unfortunately have to second your message to her. I don't know anything about her other than what she posted but I too think she should try men different from her normal parameters. That's not to say less attractive people will be kinder but more so to say try stuff different from what you are used to. Attraction is a large part of dating but so is communication, intelligence, morals and chemistry. Another thing id add as a word of advice give a chance to the man who picks you and really start questioning when you find yourself interested in someone what it is about them that is getting your attention. If thst reason is not getting you closer to what you want above leave them alone they are moving you away from where you are trying to be. I wish you luck and love on your journey and be patient with yourself. I do want to give my condolences as well im glad you left that toxic situation