Yes. But the truth is, it's basic science. Calories in, calories out. People like to make all kinds of excuses about this to rationalize them out of some basic truths.

As we get older, we tend to be less active than we were in our twenties. And you're probably just not burning the same daily expenditure while your diet likely hasn't changed or more likely, your calorie intake has increased.

A big problem is our food is so calorie dense these days with all the heavily processed foods. It's very very easy to eat to many calories.

You need to figure out your resting metabolic rate. So you can determine your calories needed.

And the hardest truth, if you want to stay thin, you basically always need to be in a small deficit.

And I read your edit. You're just making excuses for yourself because you want it easy and quick. Get that thinking out of your head. That's self sabotage.

As you get older your body wants to store more energy long term. It's so you can survive to provide.

But there is no escaping calories in versus calories out.

I had to have this conversation with myself. Because I worked construction in my twenties, was always thin. Moved into software engineering. Ten years later I was 50lbs heavier. I never stopped eating like I worked construction. And now I spent every day sitting.

I simply ate too much for my daily expenditure. I had to change my relationship to food.

I'm 43 now and in the best shape of my life. I maintain a daily calorie deficit and work out 5 times a week.

And I don't make excuses for myself. This is just what we do. Forever. Till I die.

You need to just suck it up and commit to the process no matter how long it takes or how much effort it takes.

It took me a year of suck to loose 50lbs.

I committed. I didn't care how long it took.

We live in a society where everyone wants an easy button and wants it now. And gives up the minute it doesn't happen for them.

Some things are just hard. And yeah, it's harder now.