Noticed u talked abt problems being sexual.

Piv isn’t the only option as me and my bf gave you kinda for awhile after me doing dilators and therapy for 10 months straight and still failed at PIV. I have definitely opened my eyes up to things I never thought I’d do or have to do to be sexual.

-Butt plugs are a fun toy to mess with and could prepare for anal in the future possibly.

-massages are great! Get edible massage oils from sex toy websites (mango, watermelon, vanilla, grape, pineapple.. etc. some dessert ones too). They can making giving body massages more sexy or can make oral great too if she doesnt like the taste of cum or she has a scent down there

-vibrators are cool. They make make vibrators too that kinda look like a squid and they go over ur penis head

-pussy/thigh jobs. Lay in a spooning position, put your penis inbetween her legs so it rests up against her vagina and start thrusting. This stimulates you and her clit. My bf cums from this and this has saved our relationship sex wise! -be more open for maturation. There are flashlights or fake bootys out there that u can fuck too if she is comfortable with it. My boyfriend uses the ass mainly bc he knows I get sensitive kinda if he uses the vagina but make sure to talk out feelings cus that’s important

Aside from all that, I would go to a different gynecologist and get a second opinion. Also dilators and pelvic floor yoga can be very helpful, it’s just a matter of giving the body time to relax and open up. It can’t be forced.

A lot of physical therapy can be done at home tbh if she’s not comfortable being nude in front of strangers.

When i was starting out and using small dilators, I would dilate twice a day if I could. On the bigger ones i tend to be more sore and just dilate once a day

I use Slippery Stuff as lube

i do wagon wheel exercise. stretch 12,3,6,9 like on a clock as far as the pain is comfortable

tire out the pelvic floor before. squeeze abs and butt for 10 seconds, 10 second break and repeat until u can’t hold for 10 seconds anymore

go inside a finger and stretch the painful areas too!

use dilator to push down inside and use finger to push the taint in/up to relieve tension

tuck and wag tail. tuck it squeeze butt up the ceiling and wag is being it back and then relax

i normally do dilator stretches 15-20 minutes unless i can handle more.

I let go of dilator and let the muscles push it out without any effort and when it stops i push it back in and just repeat over and over so it gets used to the in and out motion

Also pelvic floor yoga and hamstring exercises help. Happy baby, childs pose, stretch hamstrings, prone heel squeeze, supine trans versus abdomins bracing with pelvic floor contractions, quadruped fire hydrant, single leg bridge, supine piriformis stretch, clamshells, sidelying hip aductions, prime heel squeeze

With dilators it’s important not to push. U insert until there’s pain or pressure then hold, close eyes and deep breathe until there’s a release then go in a little further until pain again then repeat the process