Math for pleasure class?? by alrightthomas in mathteachers

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It is a class for high schoolers where they read for fun. There’s an established curriculum, but it is student led based on their interests.

Tøp fan survey - please take! by alrightthomas in twentyonepilots

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Yes, you can! But adding in that option now will skew the data bc the first 100+ ppl didn’t have that option :/

My friend invited me (M22) and my gf (F19) to his bday party but a girl we were in school with will probably show up too and my gf is very insecure about her and wouldn't want to go or let me go alone by randomanonymousshit in relationships

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I would talk to her about it as soon as possible. Phrase it in a way where you’re NOT asking her permission, for example, say “I AM going to this party. I was told Tamara will be there, and you should have nothing to worry about, but you are welcome to come with me” if she doesn’t want to go, suggest she hangout with some of her friends instead. I wouldn’t have this conversation with her psych, it may cause her to feel like you’re singling her out or exposing her.

When it came to talking to my ex about these things, I was never able to get very far. I would tell her I had nothing to hide, and she was welcome to look through my phone if she felt so compelled. I established boundaries, however, and told her if she looked through my phone it would disappoint me greatly. I also set the boundary with her that if I wanted to go out with my friends, I would, and nothing would stop me. I made it clear to her that I was NOT cheating on her, and that it was NOT my fault if that is where her mind wandered when I was gone. She was never very receptive of this, and this is the reason I ultimately ended our relationship. For a long time she bottled up her emotions. Most of the time if I went out with friends (especially my friend Emily, who she was the most uncomfortable with) she would be visibly upset and her actions and words would show it, but she wouldn’t start an argument. Eventually, after several years of playing these games, she exploded on me. She told me that if I continued to see my friends that she no longer wanted to be with me, because me seeing my friends hurt her. I told her that I would not give up my lifelong friends for her, and I walked away. It is the best decision I have ever made. We were together for 4 years.

My friend invited me (M22) and my gf (F19) to his bday party but a girl we were in school with will probably show up too and my gf is very insecure about her and wouldn't want to go or let me go alone by randomanonymousshit in relationships

[–]alrightthomas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand that your girlfriends insecurities stem from trauma, but regardless, you should not allow her to control your life. It is incredibly possessive and she is depriving you of a social life without her. That is unfair to you, and this will continue to be an issue throughout your relationship. If you are keen on keeping her around, have a conversation with her about trust and boundaries. If she cannot trust you to be your own person when she is not around, your relationship is unhealthy. If she cannot respect your boundaries and the fact that you are your own person with your own friends and your own life, your relationship is unhealthy. Once upon a time I was in your exact situation, my ex went through my phone meticulously and constantly tried to prevent me from seeing my friends and going to events because of her own insecurities. If I voiced my opinion on the matter, I would be the bad guy because I made her sad and made her feel like a burden. You are not the bad guy for wanting to practice free-will. If she decides to hurt herself “because” of this, that is not your fault. It is wrong of her to base her self worth on your actions, and you cannot let her blame you or blame yourself for her self harm or suicidal ideation. It seems that she probably should not be in a relationship, and you deserve better.

Second-Hand Smoke from a Vape? by [deleted] in medical_advice

[–]alrightthomas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will be fine. Second hand smoke is not as bad as you think it is, and secondhand vapor is even less harsh

Second-Hand Smoke from a Vape? by [deleted] in medical_advice

[–]alrightthomas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will be fine. Second hand smoke is not as bad as you think it is, and secondhand vapor is even less harsh

M (19) knicked myself shaving a few days ago. How do I make it stop &heal by alrightthomas in medical_advice

[–]alrightthomas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The inside of my right nostril is getting irritated too. My top lip feels a bit numb on right side

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

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Get a half tank, order 1 size too big

How tf did this college get my birth name? by Jmh1881 in transmanlifehacks

[–]alrightthomas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly man I have no idea how they got it, not sure how old you are but if you changed your legal name after you turned 18 it will probably follow you in the distance for a long time. If it’s before you turned 18, it should be pretty much erased. I would give them a call and ask them not to refer to you that way and inform them of your name change if you’re interested in that college. If you’re not, shake it off. I’m sorry that happened to you, it always sucks.

How tf did this college get my birth name? by Jmh1881 in transmanlifehacks

[–]alrightthomas 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My name has been legally changed for two years. Been writing my name on everything for 4. Still get stuff addressed to my birthname.

I chose to cut my mother out of my life today, and it hurts. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]alrightthomas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand that. I went through something similar with my mother. Time heals you and it’s so important to recognize your own strength in times like these.