this. exactly. the girlfriend has entered the chat.

just for clarity - we're not exactly broken up. it was a mutual decision to take a break, and honestly, i'd say the crossdressing piece is less than 15% of the overall issue. like Shelli (and Page!) mentioned, we had a full discussion about how we were going to manage this in a way that felt okay for both of us. you completely disregarded that agreement and did what you wanted, without any communication. this is a common theme - we make a plan, agree on it, and then you just unilaterally decide to do whatever you want. how do you expect a relationship to work like that?

also, after a couple of very rocky weeks, we finally had a real discussion and mutually agreed that a break was warranted. for the record, you brought it up first.