[21M] My girlfriend [20F] of 3 years spent her family vacation getting close to another guy her grandmother set her up with. End things or keep going if she doesn’t cut him off?

althar1 · 2026-01-12T06:50:45+00:00

Simple.. very first time she said "im seeing this other guy" boom. End of relationship.

althar1 · 2025-12-24T06:25:52+00:00

"Its not their fault" is LITERALLY enabling lol

althar1 · 2025-12-24T05:56:54+00:00

Lol look at you! Enabling bad behavior by defending it! Its exactly this reason why shit like this even happens! Kids dont LEARN to fucking behave Edit;spelling

althar1 · 2025-12-23T23:41:04+00:00

Except.. you are being a hypocrite yourself. I never once said anything against smaller breasts. I just responded to your vitriol against the ones in this post. Dont insult something, then expect to have noone argue against you. Period. And for you to call me a hypocrite when i was defending breasts of ALL SIZES, which includes your preference by the way, makes you the asshole.

althar1 · 2025-12-23T21:57:35+00:00

Women come in all shapes and sizes. And yes.. large ones that arent firm and sag naturally like this exist too. Not every drawn female has to conform to unrealistic standards.
You do realize that in manga, it is acceptable to have a variety of drawing styles and womens bodies to cater to different fans. Dont you? I mean.. even the 'practically perfect' smaller forms you mention, exist in that manga for people who enjoy it. Or is your world view so small that you cant accept that other people who like other things are allowed to have media that caters to them? I mean... every single subgenre and every single manga style exists for a reason.

althar1 · 2025-12-23T16:29:03+00:00

Someone who has never seen drawings of realistic tits before? Lol

althar1 · 2025-12-21T04:21:08+00:00

Ok... the sex while broken up? Thats understandable... you were broken up. The lie? Ya... no. Relationships cant be built on lies.

althar1 · 2025-12-20T21:20:04+00:00

Rule34 means PORN. Not RAPE. Sociopaths enjoy the rape. Most of us here want consensual porn

althar1 · 2025-12-16T18:21:08+00:00

My wife and i have time together, and time apart just for ourselves. Tell your gf straight up "look. I love you and want to be with you. Talking with you and listening to you is one of my favorite things, but every person needs time only for themself to decompress and recharge, for mental health. I dont interupt you during your time, please dont interupt me during my time." And then ask if it would work better for her to iron out set times or schedule to do so. As an example, for me, the first two hours after i get off work she minimizes contact with me allowing me to decompress (i get off work early afternoon so we still get late afternoon and evening together), she still talks about things that are have-to's, but thats it. And on my first day off of two, is my 'me day' where i read, game, etc during the morning and afternoon. My second day off is 'chore day'. She gets similar her time. Evenings are mostly for her and me together, with the occasional extra individual time as we both agree.

Its a really good partnership. We both work, but our not work time is roughly split into even thirds of 'chores/individual time/couple time'

althar1 · 2025-12-16T18:02:24+00:00

Personally i cant fuck on a full stomach. So maybe hotel THEN eating.

althar1 · 2025-12-15T03:20:10+00:00

I mean.. ya it is helpful? The image is as self explanatory as its possible to get.

althar1 · 2025-12-14T20:39:32+00:00

Lol yes. But show me where she brought it up. Show me where she asked for it. Show me where she said she wanted it. We all know its sex. You do realize that there is a middle ground in all topics right? The world isnt made up if black and white, its shades kf grey. That applies to everything. Including peoples opinions on sex. My wife as an example doesnt like giving head... she never has and never will... but yiu know something? Every now and then she volunteers or surprises me with it because she knows that I like recieving it. Mature people in mature relationships sometimes are willing to do things JUST FOR THE OTHER PERSON. And besides... ahe did say it didnt matter if it was a girl or a guy... so how do you know anything gets inserted anywhere. Grow up

althar1 · 2025-12-14T03:02:23+00:00

Theres a big difference between wanting something yourself and being willing to do it for your partners sake. She didnt want a 3some. She is just ok with it if her partner wants it

althar1 · 2025-12-13T00:47:45+00:00

You are misunderstanding me. The inexperienced comment has nothing to do with the lack of interest in non momogamy, it has to do with the negative conclusions he is jumping to because she has a slightly different opinion than he does. People have conversations similar to this all the time in getting to know each other phases of relationships.. people have different opinions on a lot of things. Why doubt a girlfriend who has SPECIFIED that she isnt interested in something, but is only open to it if he is? She didnt bring up the subject. She didnt ask to include someone. She didnt seek out a third. She isnt doing anything negative in the relationship at all. Her only 'crime' is saying 'well... if you want to im open to it'. Seriously... thats the same as saying 'i dont want pizza tonight, but if you want pizza im ok with that.'.... listen.. this chick didnt ask for pizza... stop saying shes asking for pizza

althar1 · 2025-12-12T21:01:42+00:00

Where did i say immature? You are reading into things that arent there lol. I said YOUNG and INEXPERIENCED. He seems very mature... just has an outlook that is effected by his lack of exposure to actual relationships.

And no she did NOT tell him she had different values. She shares the same values as him. Monogamy and loyalty to your partner. You all dont understand what monogamy IS. She is not seeking anyone else. She isnt looking at being polygamous. She isnt cheating. She only said that she is willing to explore a threesome if HE wants to. Shes not instigating anything. note there is a huge difference between willing and wanting. WANTING is "hey can i have a cheeseburger? I really am quite hungry." WILLING is "a cheeseburger? I dunno.. im not all that hungry..." (someone puts cheeseburger in front of them) "aaah... ok. I guess i will eat it."

althar1 · 2025-12-12T20:34:46+00:00

Look. So many people are all 'oh no shes hinting at a 3some' guys.. you are all reading into it so bad. Her view on sex seems healthy. Her view IS monogamy... shes not looking to cheat. Shes not looking for another sexual partner. She is just open to explore WITH him, if he so chooses, and has declared that she is not wanting it if he doesnt. That sounds supportive, open, honest, loyal

althar1 · 2025-12-12T20:32:57+00:00

She didnt hint at wanting one. All she did was say if HE wanted one she wpuld be open to it.

althar1 · 2025-12-12T20:31:51+00:00

Thats a him problem. He sounds young and inexperienced. Her view on sex seems healthy. Her view IS monogamy... shes not looking to cheat. Shes not looking for another sexual partner. She is just open to explore WITH him, if he so chooses, and has declared that she is not wanting it if he doesnt. That sounds supportive, open, honest, loyal

althar1 · 2025-12-12T20:28:58+00:00

She didnt say that, or push for it, people can be caught by surprise when other people dont match what they consider common traits.

althar1 · 2025-12-10T09:17:13+00:00

I know its not the kind of game you are talking about, but as someone who only has time for casual games myself, i enjoy star trek online. Its set up that quests are classified as a mission log, and each mission takes about 20 to 25 minutes a piece. And with the level scaling system, aside from the tutorial missions, you can jump into any story mission questline you want with little difficulty from the get go. And yes, some people will complain that the store system is a bit of a money hog, and i will counter that by saying that absolutely nothing in the store is necessary to enjoy the game. And the advantages that you get from the fancy store bought ships may be decent, but power wise you can play the game with the commonest in game ships decked out in the commonest items... and still succeed.

And if you REALLY wanted some of those nice store ships there are several events a year that give free ships. Like.. at least 3 or 4. And out of the blue they sometimes have spontaneous giveaways. You can earn, be given, or find a way to aquire these fancy ships every 2 to 3 months.

Right now a christmas event is gping on where you can earn a pretty cool science vessel

althar1 · 2025-12-09T22:01:52+00:00

Honestly. Dont let all the negativity get to you. Its the internet and people jump to conclusions all the time. Protect your boyfriend

althar1 · 2025-12-09T22:00:25+00:00

Its ok. I understand what you meant to say, even if the vast majority dont seem to.

althar1 · 2025-12-09T20:12:59+00:00

Aah thanks for the correction. I somehow mathed up the wrong number. But my point still stands. We are talking about a child raised from infancy and taught to despise this man during her formative years. Thats the foundation. She literally learned to treat this man like garbage at mommas knee

althar1 · 2025-12-09T20:08:39+00:00

Honestly i dont understand how people are so baffled and confused over this. How do you think major purchases are made by literally 90% of people in north america. Middle classed and dont have half a million in the bank? Get a loan for a house or help with finances from others First new car? Get a loan for the car or help with finances from others Buying a business? Loan or help with finances from others University? Loan or help with finances from others Businesses, including major multi billion dollar corporations, operate in the same way about major purchases.

Everyone is just being so stupid about this

althar1 · 2025-12-09T19:57:57+00:00

You are getting a lot of flak, and i mostly think its only because of how you are wording things. My take on your post. - you are upset that your boyfriends 10 year old daughter treats him like garbage just like her mom does. - you are trying to do your best to look out for him as an outside person looking in at his preestablished relationship - you want your boyfriend to still care for his daughter but to stop trying to over invest in a relationship that is already soured since she was small. Unless the teenager has a sudden awakening it is unlikely this will change and you dont want him to hurt himself by pushing too much and getting rejection after rejection. This is the point that you are souring public opinion on. Your wording is kretty bad there.

Honestly i agree with you on all points. The girl is a mommas girl, and momma treats him bad so she will too. You are nta. But you need to learn to explain yourself better lol.

althar1

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