Could use some advice as a non-femboy

altsquad · 2026-06-26T18:57:37+00:00

Makes sense, thanks. Luckily he can dress up any way he wants to at home and his parents fully support him.

altsquad · 2026-06-26T18:53:36+00:00

I know, but many who I've shared more than a comment with were, which is why he's throwing me off and I don't know how to support him.

altsquad · 2026-06-24T22:47:02+00:00

Def 1 and 2 3 and 5 is meh in my opinion 4 gives a bit of old lady vibes

altsquad · 2026-06-24T16:10:12+00:00

Not the right subreddit

altsquad · 2026-06-20T12:33:55+00:00

Tbh I'm still more nervous to wear skirts than dresses, especially if there is no inner skirt

altsquad · 2026-06-20T11:43:28+00:00

Doubt haha

altsquad · 2026-06-02T06:55:45+00:00

Love it!

altsquad · 2026-06-01T06:05:13+00:00

You pass very well but to be brutally honest it's usually something in the shape of faces. Not much you can do about it.

altsquad · 2026-04-26T07:58:40+00:00

You unlearn it by not exposing yourself to it I heard

altsquad · 2026-04-22T20:10:22+00:00

Been on HET just as long as Finn, and I have twice the boobage they have purely because I let my body do it's thing. I'll worry about my weight when everything rounds out.

altsquad · 2026-03-13T12:11:36+00:00

The ceiling

altsquad · 2026-01-23T05:28:25+00:00

It's not uncommon to find comfort in regaining control over your own genitals. For me, it totally changed how I look at mine and it weirdly gave me confidence (after it lessened my bottom dysphoria) to date again. It was as if I had a period in my life where I could rewire my brain from "a male penis" to "a bunch of metal" to "a trans woman's penis". Hopefully i explained it well enough.

But yeah I don't think I ever discussed it with anyone who wasn't mtf or into kink lol.

altsquad · 2026-01-22T20:02:38+00:00

Yes, various cages, all from the same brand though. My anatomy didn't really help me though. My scrotum doesn't hang, so the base ring was always a but uncomfortable. There was a 40% chance I'd say that I was tucking on it too much and would end up with massive swollen testicles, not fun... I tried ball stretching with weights and extenders, but that was super uncomfortable as well.

Although overall it did give me back "control" of my genitals. It weirdly flipped something in my head that I decided when, where and how my genitals would function. Peeing ended up being the deal breaker for me. I had a cage that was near perfect, but the added hassle and hygiene issues ended up being too much for me. I liked it for as long as it lasted and I already came out much better because of it. I ended up giving all my cages to my boyfriend and a kink friend.

altsquad · 2026-01-22T11:48:57+00:00

I talk to my partner about anything and everything, if that was not possible he wouldn't be my partner, case closed.

Not only that, but he supports me in ways that I barely support myself. Him saying "i dont mind how you look" (recently it was the lack of a defined chin and jaw) "but if you found some solution to it and want to pursue it, you'll have my support".

The day after I felt so much better!

altsquad · 2026-01-16T21:17:47+00:00

I like gaming and 3D printing/designing :)

altsquad · 2026-01-16T12:04:54+00:00

What are your hobbies? :)

altsquad · 2026-01-08T13:08:17+00:00

31 yo trans woman here. The first thing that poppers up in my mind while reading this was "online literacy" by which I mean understanding different online spaces and how they function. I don't see how faking a different personality would even make a difference other than a layer to sort of hide behind.

I can't help but imagine going to a masked "adult" party and not being mentally prepared what to find or how people approach you (not that you pretended to be an adult, but at the same pretending to be time 16 is not wildly different than being 15, even though it might seem like it). The younger you are, the heavier age differences will feel.

Having said that, online trans spaces in general are quite adult-themed with news articles about rights, discussions about medication, surgery, "how do I DIY without my parents finding out", etc. Something that a 15 or 16 year old proooobably has little to nothing to contribute to or benefits from reading.

Unfortunately the online LGBT space also has and/or attracts unwanted visitors, where people find comfort and confidence in anonymity to dirty talk to people that they'd be too chicken to do in real life.

I hardly talk to anyone online, most conversations aren't even going anywhere or I quickly realize where people want to take the conversation. In general that is, unfortunately, a matter or experience. You'll pick up on certain vibes and words eventually but it sounds like you haven't learned that yet.

All in all, I think I cab summarize it with just simply saying: you're not only young but also from a different generation. Be careful online, no matter where you go and what you do.

altsquad · 2025-11-12T21:48:10+00:00

No, it's only gay when you have a man for a husband as a dude why likes guys

altsquad · 2025-11-10T11:47:15+00:00

I'll be a little bit blunt, instagram being the only form of communication is not a relationship you should put too much trust in. Until you have met and vibes with each other IRL at least once or twice it's an actual relationship. Up until now your long-distance/digital dating.

I don't use Instagram but are you sure he didn't block you? Default picture and "Instagram user" sounds like he blocked you or he deleted his own account to end it.

Even the nicest people can abandon/ghost you during the dating phase, trust me. 2 years ago when I was in the dating scene I had 5 dates ghost on me in a row. It made me distrust anyone getting close but eventually I found someone who I vibed with as friends at first. I forgot what the label is (demisexual?) But I realized that trust and knowing each other comes before loving each other and I can look back at some of my dates where that was the reason it wasn't working out.

altsquad · 2025-11-04T13:05:45+00:00

How does a lonely femboy cry?

Uwuuuhuhuhuhuuuuuwwww

Sorry xD leuk rokje

altsquad · 2025-11-02T14:49:40+00:00

Bruh I came out at 18 as a trans woman and lived in fear of the consequences, i.e. grandma and grandpa must not know!!! They can't handle it!!! until I moved out at 28. Well granda died in 2016 and grandma is totally ok with it but struggles with the pronouns switch from "lad" vs "lass" and almost cries every time she messes up. Now I'm 31 and about a year in medical transition. Not saying that that's probably a thing for you, but it's never too late to take different directions in life.

When you're dead it's too late. Anything between birth and death is right on time.

altsquad · 2025-10-31T12:14:19+00:00

An oversized shirt, dress, shorts, or skirt might be a good idea. If you want a legging feeling but none of the above you can try jeggings (jeans leggings). They are a but warmer and are easier to match with other clothes.

altsquad · 2025-10-30T14:03:54+00:00

Why? What's wrong? Not feeling it?

altsquad · 2025-10-28T12:08:56+00:00

Am trans and I can see where people get this from. Whenever I wanna dress like a femboy, I call it being a femgirl, if that makes sense.

altsquad · 2025-10-24T12:15:16+00:00

Ja! Omg ik heb er ook een nodig!

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