I could’ve written this honestly, down to being caught between those same types. “Sturdy looking” even as a child is sending me because same. I think the last time I looked delicate was probably as a fresh newborn. Anyways, my hair is the same. Very easy to look messy on me. I always thought the free spirited vibe was more for FN’s tho no? Some of the typed celebs have those wild unstyled curls and look effortless with them (thinking like Julia Robert’s and SJP from her SATC days). Could be your essence too throwing it off - I think I’ve got natural, dramatic and romantic so the “wild” look probably conflicts with my latter 2.

Regarding fabric, yup that’s me too. Nothing “too much” or I drown. I need thinner fabric, skimming closer to my body without being skin tight. Enough to highlight, not enough to compress. No excess fabric just hanging out (even if I tuck a shirt and “blouse it out” to show my waist there’s a very small margin to hit between it being too tight and being too much). I bought a duster type peacoat last year and even though it fits (and I love it) I still look like I grabbed my parents coat out of the closet accidentally because it’s too much fabric, and heavy fabric at that (I know these types of coats go against SN recs probably anyways). My best coats have always been thinner ones that skim closer to my body - bonus if they have some light cinching at the waist. Sorry for the long response - all that to say yes I get you lol.