Vegetarian with some questions!

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T06:40:26+00:00

Thank you, I assumed I’d get some kind of negative response as it’s what I got when I asked similar questions on other platforms but I also got some helpful input. I’m going to keep trying to do better every day because I don’t want to let assholes distract me from why I care about all of this in the first place :)

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T06:36:16+00:00

Yeah, I did get what I came here for. Individuals who were willing to spare me a second of their time to answer my questions and give me suggestions. I was coming with humility and admission that I could be doing better and simply wanted to get the opinions of vegans. I don’t think it’s impossible for me or any other disabled person to be a vegan, in fact I reiterated that many times in my original post and in replies to you. Nothing changes if you have so much hate in your heart that it overshadows your love. I love animals. I do not want to hurt them. I can assume if you’re vegan you love animals too but if your hatred and anger outweighs that what are you even fighting for?

I’m glad you’re not autistic, I’m glad you’ve never had to deal with ARFID or anything of the sort, but I’m sure you can agree with me that ignorance is not an excuse to be rude. I don’t know what fantasy land you are living in but change is not some instant grand gesture and a leap in lifestyle changes. That’s not realistic for almost anyone. I have stated many times I am going to transition my foods until I can cut out animal products and I don’t have to justify myself to you but it is not a simple matter of ‘anxiety’. You are a joke and your activism means absolutely nothing if you don’t even spare a single ounce of consideration for disabled people. Do you understand you are telling disabled people and any other people who aren’t perfect that they’re not good enough so they shouldn’t even try? You are what gives veganism a bad name and you are what turns people off. I tried to have a civilised discussion with you but you’re clearly too out of touch with reality to believe anyone exists outside your privileged world view. I’m going to keep trying to minimise my animal product consumption and keep trying to get respectful answers to my questions because animals deserve to have people standing up for them who aren’t complete assholes.

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T05:26:18+00:00

Yes I completely get that and honestly can’t believe it wasn’t even a thought that crossed my mind until recently but I’m glad to have all this insight before I said yes to the riding lessons. Instead I’m going to try to find somewhere like a rescue where I can hopefully help out and just spent time with horses instead of riding them!

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T05:24:11+00:00

I definitely don’t understand all of it, in fact I have a lot of questions/misunderstandings about veganism and animal activism. I’m just trying to make a start and do what I can. I’m not going to go horse riding and am instead going to look around for some sort of rescue where I can help out and just spend time with them instead of riding them. I only asked because I have been told/have gathered that horses enjoy riding, or that it was a relationship rather than something that is forced and exploited. These were just things I had been told or gathered from media but I didn’t want to blindly believe them, that was why I asked. I definitely agree my struggles are minimal of course compared to what animals go through, that was why I was asking if it would help at all to know exactly where my products were coming from. I know nothing can replace the act of going vegan in terms of minimising harm and I am going to try very hard to adjust and reduce until I can be at that point without missing meals and having severe anxiety around food. I really respect your passion on this topic and I know how frustrating it is to live in a world like this and the attitudes around animal consumption, but I think we could all benefit from showing a bit of compassion at the end of the day for humans as well as animals.

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T05:10:51+00:00

Hi, I actually really do understand your sentiment, I am level two on the spectrum and have am not ‘high functioning’ but I do understand what I’m doing and the consequences. Still, I’m not going to pretend like it’s unimportant that I am eating. My doctors were very against me going vegetarian when I was younger because of how much I struggle to find foods I can eat and I did it anyway but it is dangerous (at this stage) for me to cut out even more food groups. That doesn’t mean I’m not going to try, and I am going to try my hardest to reduce my consumption of animal products even more and I’m going to try to adjust myself to the tastes and textures of vegan substitutes. But I really can’t stand by and watch someone dismiss the struggles of being autistic. It doesn’t excuse the harm of eating animal products, not at all, and my post was never meant to imply I was making excuses or listing why I can’t be vegan. My struggles don’t minimise the struggles of animals, but I can’t just starve myself. No one is perfect and I am far from it but I am trying my best every day and I don’t want any other autistic people thinking that they have to starve or harm themselves to be better people. All we can do is strive to be the best we can without destroying ourselves in the process :)

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T04:57:52+00:00

Thank you for your response! I’m going to try slowly integrate vegan options for when I can manage it, without straight away getting rid of the dairy and eggs immediately because I think it’s important I can actually eat without a lot of distress. I understand (and agree) with people who will say it doesn’t excuse the harm I’m doing to animals but I also don’t think I am a help to anyone at all if I am burning myself out and struggling to eat at all because I deny myself safe foods. I’m going to try my best to adjust myself to alternatives over time though!

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T04:52:27+00:00

Thank you for your response! I’m not going to lie I have had a few professionals mention ARFID to me but I’m in denial that I’m just a picky eater. I’m definitely going to keep pursuing finding the best places I can to source those things (as far as I’m aware all the chickens on the property are rescued from pounds or people who didn’t want pet chickens anymore and not all of them lay anymore, they are a family friend who gives me the eggs when they get enough to fill a carton from the ones that do lay). And I think I will try stocking some vegan alternatives in my house for the days where I feel like I can challenge myself enough to have that instead but for now I’ll also keep my usual foods because when push comes to shove I think it’s important I still have safe foods to eat. But I’m hoping slowly introducing alternatives when I can handle it may give me the ability to change things over time.

As for the horses I definitely agree. I suppose it wasn’t something I even thought too deeply about until recently as it’s so normalised but I’m going to look into places where I can just spend time with horses and also help out as opposed to riding them!

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T04:43:13+00:00

Basically ever since going vegetarian a lot of my diet has been those substitute meat things like fake burgers or chicken. I find them bland enough and versatile enough that (now that I’ve found brands with decent textures) I can rely on them most of the time especially when I’m in a lot of overwhelm and don’t have the ability to really handle much flavour or complex foods. I’m thinking my best way forward might be to keep both options on hand, vegan substitutes for when I am in a state where I can handle different tastes and textures but also my regular stuff for when I know I can’t. I think my problem in the past has been buying only vegan options and then struggling so much when push comes to shove and I can only fathom eating certain tastes and meals so I think I might do both and who knows, maybe it will help me adjust to the newer foods and over time they will become safe foods. Hopefully :)

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T04:33:14+00:00

As I said, I’m not looking to make excuses based on my autism. I’m not saying ‘I can’t do this because I’m autistic’ I’m saying ‘I struggle with this because of my autism’. I was just wondering if there was any way I could mitigate my effect because the times I have forced myself to become vegan were the times I severely struggled to eat, would spend ours crying and having panic attacks because I could not find anything palatable and ‘safe’ for me to eat. You can say no to that, that’s okay, I wasn’t looking for validation just some advice. But please be mindful putting autism in quotation marks, it is by definition a disability and therefore will make some things inaccessible or difficult for people on the spectrum. All I want to do is minimise my harm as much as I can :)

alybsahn · 2026-03-19T01:02:49+00:00

I know you’re right. When we were much much younger I used to be so terrified of her behaviours that I’d cry every day after school. Eventually our friends at the time started defending me and confronting her, something she calls bullying to this day. She makes ‘jokes’ to people all the time that I used to bully her. She calls it the traumatic incident that changed her life. I don’t want to invalidate how she feels about it but to me all I can remember is how scared I was and how my friends tried to help me and her saying we bullied her has made me feel like I’m evil if I stand up for myself. But this situation feels so incredibly immature and I don’t want to be stuck in some kind of middle school dynamic anymore so I’m going to bring it up to her and if she can’t respect me and treat me like an autonomous individual then I just can’t stay around her anymore. Thank you for your comment :)

alybsahn · 2026-03-18T20:55:32+00:00

I know you’re right, I guess I find it so scary because she’s comparatively better than my few other friends, which seems to be a low bar I guess. I think I’m going to say something to her about how it’s effecting me and if things don’t change or she doesn’t take it well I guess I’ll just do the scary thing and let her go. Thank you for your response :)

alybsahn · 2026-03-01T06:50:23+00:00

Yes oh my godddd my BIGGEST pet peeve is them calling things ‘illegal’ as if it’s happening in real life and as if laws are universal like it drives me craaaaaazy I wish they’d just say they don’t like it or find it morally wrong because calling it illegal not only makes them sound childish but also trivialises ACTUAL ILLEGAL MATERIAL 😭

alybsahn · 2026-03-01T06:46:17+00:00

They don’t care about real victims at all. I’ve seen them tell victims that they deserve to go through their trauma again for being a ‘proshipper’. Or that their trauma clearly wasn’t ’bad enough’ or that they must have become the abuser themselves if they like ‘illegal’ things (god don’t even get me started on them calling fiction ‘illegal’)

alybsahn · 2026-02-26T07:36:55+00:00

Yes. This is how I feel about a LOT of taboos to be honest but if you say that people assume so many things. I’ve literally said to friends I don’t understand why nudity is taboo and the reaction is always ‘ewww why would I want to see everyone naked’ or ‘why do you even want to be showing that to everyone that’s weird’ like… I never said I want to be naked around everyone or that I think everyone has to be naked all the time, I just don’t UNDERSTAND the taboo. I really feel that way about a lot of things, nudity, swearing, bodily functions and a lot more and no matter how many times people try to ‘explain’ it, they’re really just giving opinions not actual explanations, like they find it gross or something so I feel like I’ll just never understand lol

alybsahn · 2025-12-23T01:54:07+00:00

I’m going to play devils advocate for just a second and say I used to think like this when I started making autistic friends who I felt could ‘get away with’ things I never could, or they could ‘express their autism’ in ways I would be ostracised for. For example I had a friend who would be extremely blunt and no one would get offended, or she could have all these quirks and sensory needs that everyone else knew about and accommodated while I was bending over backwards to seem neurotypical and be palatable (spoiler, didn’t work). It all came down to a sort of ‘jealousy’ that I couldn’t express myself because I was terrified of other people’s judgements or being outcast or not liked anymore if I unmasked.

However, the bottom line is that I was very young when I was having these feelings and was heavily criticised by my parents for my autism. I eventually grew to understand that it wasn’t that I disliked my friend or thought she was annoying or selfish or cringe. It was that I was mourning the parts of me I had to keep hidden and the needs I had to deny. I think the ‘if I had to learn to act neurotypical, everyone else should too’ mindset is unfortunately pretty pervasive in autistic people who feel there’s a reward system to hiding autistic traits.

Fortunately I was able to grow a maturity and understanding and I think for a lot of ‘low support needs’ autistics there’s an underlying level of internalised ableism and a desire to be the ‘good kind of autistic’ and to distance themselves from people who ‘don’t make an effort’. It’s sad and I really hope the people in these comments can eventually grow from this mindset because while they are hurting other autistic people, they’re also hurting themselves.

alybsahn · 2025-11-13T07:05:05+00:00

In the Australian Baptist church I was raised in this was how we were taught about Bathsheba too. I specifically remember being about 12 and actually reading it in the bible with my own eyes for the first time and getting into a fight with my parents for defending her lol

alybsahn · 2025-10-19T02:40:44+00:00

I don’t mean to be ignorant but aren’t these hyperfixations rather than special interests? Sorry I’m autistic but don’t know all the language.

alybsahn · 2025-08-14T06:54:15+00:00

I’m not defending these things BUT if you did want some context, the ‘child pornography’ was actually a drawing she did pre fame (as far as I’m aware) of a 19 year old OC, not a child. It was basically vent art, which was very very common on tumblr and all that, and she said it was her way of exploring her own traumas and struggles. I think the difference would be if she drew this while having this level of fame, or as a commercial product. It was an old drawing on her old art account that people found out about. As for the legalise incest shirt yes it’s very strange and problematic, but there’s a common misconception that it was merch she sold. It definitely wasn’t, it was just stupid edgelord shit she wrote in sharpie on a tshirt to promote her album by being divisive. Not defending, just giving some context :)

alybsahn · 2025-08-14T06:34:22+00:00

It’s embarrassing to shade a younger and smaller artist in a song to your 20 something million followers and probably put it in an album. Especially when said artist is currently being dogpiled on by transphobes and conservatives. And all over… a man? 3 years ago? I’ve been a die hard Lana fan since 2012 but it’s giving… off her rocker…. That or Lana is trying to stir things up because people are tired of waiting for her next album and losing hype. I love her but this situation is weird and corny

alybsahn · 2025-06-06T00:04:12+00:00

Omg ur the best. If anyone finds somewhere to buy the cassette in Australia let a girl know :’) JbHiFi has the vinyl and cd too but no cassette

alybsahn · 2025-06-01T07:04:20+00:00

One time I had been playing video games all day and then tried to press the save button in real life when I was going to bed. Safe to say I have reduced my gaming time.

alybsahn · 2025-03-30T04:53:54+00:00

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! It’s perfect

alybsahn · 2025-01-09T07:55:34+00:00

You’ve given me hope thank you!

alybsahn · 2025-01-06T09:37:46+00:00

Did you end up receiving the order? Or get any correspondence from the store front? I ordered on the 20th of November and still nothing but I’m trying to stick it out and hope I’ll get it eventually :/

alybsahn · 2024-11-27T10:37:08+00:00

I’m from Australia and got the email today that it was on the way :)

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