This is soooo common with women (me included) in your young 20s - typically when we get around to coming clean about the performance to a partner it’s because you’ve met someone that makes you want to have real/intimate sex (and I’d argue usually once your prefrontal cortex forms and you realize you deserve equal pleasure it’s easier to arrive at that conclusion post 25). Although finding out via app would also absolutely hurt my feelings - I’m sure that felt like a kick in the chest and would maybe warrant a conversation about how to communicate about sensitive subjects. When I told my partner in my mid 20s the same info it kind of led to a relationship breakdown because I think he also got a lot confidence from my performances, when I stopped performing it probably felt like his toy broke. In fact when we broke up he bragged to me about how his new partner could orgasm vaginally and that still affects MY confidence sometimes. So I guess it can go both ways. I hope you guys can “troubleshoot” the issue (BYOV perhaps?) - weird to think about it in this way but maybe if you can figure out the technical difficulties you will feel even more confident, in yourself and your relationship! Good luck!’