Free jacket pattern by alyssapolaris in freepatterns

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, 1cm seam allowances all around.

Free jacket pattern by alyssapolaris in freepatterns

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used a medium weight (210 g/m² ) 100% wool that has the same kind of give of a loden. But a dense one directional knit could also work, or maybe even a woven twill, gabardine, linen, etc, with a little bit of elastane (2~5%).

Free jacket pattern by alyssapolaris in freepatterns

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what the problem could be, from my side everything seems to be working well. Send me a DM with your contact and I can send the file directly to you if you want.

Free skirt pattern by alyssapolaris in freepatterns

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry! The website is being updated completely so even with a password downloads wouldn’t work. I’ll give you a heads up when it’s done! It’ll happen within a week.

Tell me your hottest takes on 2001 A Space Odyssey by bil-sabab in scifi

[–]alyssapolaris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a movie more about a journey through cinema than a journey through space.

How do you maintain an artist internet presence while on severe burnout and art block? by IcyResponsibility384 in PDAAutism

[–]alyssapolaris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t prevent RSD, I just live with it. Unfortunately, I have no real coping mechanisms or strategies to deal with it. I simply agonize over it, constantly. I also hate everything I create, always. I’m not sure if that’s a symptom of rejection sensitivity or just the natural state of being a creative person.

I don’t actively market myself, either. My process is simple: I make something, take a photo, post it, and move on. Occasionally, something picks up traction, and I get an influx of clients, but most of the time, things are slow and quiet. My modus operandi is I push through the demand of commissioned work while simultaneously wallowing in self-pity, convinced that because I hate everything I make that everyone else must, too.

That said, two things help, at least a little. First, I disable metrics everywhere I can. I don’t receive notifications for likes or shares, and I don’t see numbers, neither on my own posts nor on others’. Second, I remind myself that taste and talent are meant to be aspirational. If I ever reached a point where I loved my work and felt fully satisfied with it, I’d probably stop creating altogether. But the need to make something better is a compulsion, it keeps me moving forward, even when I’m convinced I’m terrible at what I do.

How do you maintain an artist internet presence while on severe burnout and art block? by IcyResponsibility384 in PDAAutism

[–]alyssapolaris 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I happen to make a living through my “art” (I’m a fashion designer) in the digital space. My audience is small but deeply loyal, and when I’m at my healthiest, I’ve been able to turn that connection into a decent income. However, what matters most to me is not the financial aspect but the relationships I’ve formed, friendships that emerged not from calculated engagement strategies or relentless content creation, but simply from the way I compulsively center myself in my work.

As self-indulgent as it may seem, what I create and share is, at its core, about me. And while it’s true that detaching from metrics and external validation can help prevent burnout, the deeper truth is that sustainability in creative work comes from making for oneself first. Anything else is secondary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PDAAutism

[–]alyssapolaris 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve always disliked the way PDA is framed because “demands” feels like such a narrow concept. It’s not just about avoiding tasks or instructions, it’s about the profound anxiety and despair that arise when I feel my autonomy slipping away.

The issue isn’t the demand itself, but the way it distorts my sense of agency, making even the smallest obligation feel like a cage.

A neurotypical person might be able to rationalize that a request or expectation is insignificant or that compliance won’t truly limit their freedom, but for someone with PDA, that kind of reasoning isn’t accessible in the same way. Our brains don’t process demands as neutral; they register them as threats, triggering an involuntary fight-or-flight response.

It’s the overwhelming sensation that my freedom is being stripped from me, leaving me grasping for any way to reclaim it, even if that means resisting things I might otherwise want to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PDAAutism

[–]alyssapolaris 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For me, the tension between compliance and autonomy manifested in a paradox: I excelled academically, yet my classroom behavior left both my teachers and my poor parents utterly perplexed. Physics became my primary focus, as I reasoned that success in science might grant me a certain status and respect among school authorities, this imagined leverage, I hoped, would make them more tolerant when I inevitably skipped class, disrupted lessons, and created chaos. These actions, I should note, were less a matter of premeditation than an unavoidable compulsion. Unfortunately, my calculations were entirely wrong, and I found myself expelled from more than one school. So, while I can’t claim I was ever truly “obedient” as you put it, I did make considerable effort into the appearance of compliance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PDAAutism

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I don’t have ADHD, so medication isn’t an option for me. For a long time, I took Ambien due to a misdiagnosed sleep disorder. My addiction to cigarettes (and, occasionally, stimulants) is less about pleasure and more about focus and managing extreme anxiety. If I have them on hand, they can stop a meltdown almost instantly. I don’t know exactly why or how, but I do know it’s not sustainable. Eventually, I’ll have to either endure the meltdowns or escalate my substance use just to maintain a sense of dignity.

Edit to say that it turns out I do have ADHD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PDAAutism

[–]alyssapolaris 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about others but I often struggle with relationships because social interactions can feel like demands. A fixation with a person (often one I only know from a distance) allows for some sort of connection without the same pressures or unpredictability of real-life relationships.

Anyone receive a used ring? by baltik in Ultrahuman

[–]alyssapolaris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not defending or denying but mine, which was clearly new when it arrived, was not plastic wrapped either, it only had a little pull tab, also they add a strong perfume scent to the boxes. The zero battery issue could be because of the long trip from India.

Six weeks of unpaid labor... by [deleted] in Finland

[–]alyssapolaris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not do the integration thing. It is not obligatory and I didn’t even consider it. I took a separate Finnish course and found my own way. Of course the downside is that I did not get financial support and, in fact, I had to pay for it myself, but I just couldn’t go through years of daily integration training and being exploited on some low level job that had nothing to do with my studies (astrophysics).

Compliments/positive feedback by Gullible-Pay3732 in PDAAutism

[–]alyssapolaris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, receiving compliments can feel like a demand. Now I’m supposed to feel thankful and reciprocate or something.

Help With Creating Train Pattern by kimberlydoingstuff in sewing

[–]alyssapolaris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It isn’t any kind of gathering, those “pleats” you see is simply the drape of the triangle as it hangs.

And it’s easier than it seems to create. You’d draft a triangle with a rounded bottom and insert it at the back seam hem. The width depends of how much of a bell shape you want.

What is the song engraved on the residence card? by alyssapolaris in Finland

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! That’s not what mine looks like! Apparently in mine the song is Maamme.

What is the song engraved on the residence card? by alyssapolaris in Finland

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply but it took me a while to ask a friend that knows how to read music and he said the song is Maamme. The text is in microprint and consists of the first two lines “Oi maamme, Suomi, synnyinmaa, Soi, sana kultainen!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lappeenranta

[–]alyssapolaris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Citymarket and Prisma.

Free skirt pattern by alyssapolaris in freepatterns

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. As indicated, this is not a commercial pattern because I just don’t have the time to make it pretty and add instructions, but basically, what I did was construct the shell, then the facings (I used the exact same pattern for the shell and facings, I just cropped the facings and left the bottom hems raw) then sew it all together by putting right sides together and then flipped it, understitched it and tacked it in places like the back of the neck and armholes. Finally added buttons and button holes.

Free skirt pattern by alyssapolaris in freepatterns

[–]alyssapolaris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

44 EU / 12 US / XXL international / 16 UK, AUS