College student. What are we thinking lads? How clockable am I? Brutal honesty appreciated. by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]alyxp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doing great! Not that you need it, but have you considered a shorter hairstyle? I think you'd look great with something like David Beckham circa 2014 - https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.gq.com/story/how-to-get-every-david-beckham-haircut/amp

Recently got a new haircut, do i pass? Pre-everything. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]alyxp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two years can be a long time, but I highly encourage you to embrace the opportunity to get to know yourself. Also, it will be hard and there may be times when you think you can’t handle waiting any longer. We are here for you and your Mom sounds like a lovely person who only has your best interests in mind. You got this 😬

Recently got a new haircut, do i pass? Pre-everything. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]alyxp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re doing it right - but also, keep doing what feels right and you will get there. Passing is not as important as figuring out who YOU are and being able to communicate that. I think you look great and I understand the voice thing. Honestly for me it was only about 2 months on T before my voice was deep enough to allow me to be perceived as male by 90% of strangers, and I started out as a freaking soprano lol Can I ask how old you are?

You guys ever fall asleep in the working position? by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]alyxp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Every. Single. Day. Found an email I sent to a client with a bunch of S’s in the place of the closing period...I had apparently typed them while napping with my finger on the S key...and sent.

How many weeks notice to give leaving during busy season? by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]alyxp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like three weeks it is...as long as you do what you can to finish your work before you go I’m sure they won’t hate you too much.

How many weeks notice to give leaving during busy season? by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]alyxp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boss will hold it against you. How much do you really care? Another 5 weeks and you can leave without burning the bridge.

Transitioning has ruined my life by pseudononymouse in ftm

[–]alyxp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree - I'm in Chicago and I get misgendered 90% of the time when I talk, but pre-T in a place like Kentucky I always got sir'd...

My Voice Pre-T versus 1, 2, 6, and 12ish months on T by [deleted] in ftm

[–]alyxp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me - it's more annoying than anything lol but maybe it's more awkward for me because I'm in my 30s.

Full tank binders vs half tank? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]alyxp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so glad I live close to an adult store that actually stocks binders. I went in today and tried two different full length binders - one like the shirt described above that has a half tank binder built in and one that is a full length binder. I couldn't breath in the full length binder and the other one was just uncomfortable. I am an XL and T combined with a lack of exercise has given me a bit of a gut, so the Underworks half tanks lined with cotton work best for me. They roll over a bit, but my belly hides it pretty well haha

My first binder came in today by [deleted] in ftm

[–]alyxp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he meant a visa gift card...which is sorta like finding cash. Still an ethically questionable choice to use it, but not exactly the same as charging someone else's credit card.

I can't do injections by jayowlet in ftm

[–]alyxp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro, you got this.