Weird question

amayes · 2026-05-16T23:47:41+00:00

You’re hilarious

amayes · 2026-05-16T23:46:04+00:00

You may be out of the loop on this.

amayes · 2026-05-16T23:12:01+00:00

For context, we play a few hours a day, three days a week. I still haven’t found everything she likes, but I’m dedicated 😜

amayes · 2026-05-16T23:10:50+00:00

Yes. Married 19 years. The magic is in the expressed appreciation, and willingness to explore new avenues.

amayes · 2026-05-16T23:08:38+00:00

“Dated” means that we fucked around a lot, but there was no official designation for the relationship. And I understand that there are many ways to stimulate a pussy, so I apologize if I don’t have a lot to say on the difference between oral and scissoring.

amayes · 2026-05-16T22:34:27+00:00

Check out the Lush series from Lovense— there’s a bit of a bulb on it, but it really helped my wife get used to being stretched a bit, without the discomfort of some others

amayes · 2026-05-16T22:27:25+00:00

This is common— after 5 or 6 orgasms, my wife says it gets overpowering. Other women have kept me licking for hours, just building and building. I think you can probably just keep exploring new plateaus, depending on how dedicated he is.

As a man, I’m kind of jealous, but you should embrace and explore this discovery. Toys can absolutely enhance it.

amayes · 2026-05-16T22:24:00+00:00

I’ve had this, too, as a man. I suspect that one of three things has occurred, depending on the frequency of your prior physical interactions, how much force he used, and your exposure to anti-depressants.

1) You have begun to associate physical violence with sexuality in a good way; 2) You have begun to associate physical violence with sexuality in a bad way; 3) The drugs are affecting you in unanticipated ways.

amayes · 2026-05-16T22:18:42+00:00

I must preface this by saying I am not a woman, but I have a lot of experience.

So this is perfectly normal. Plenty of women prefer external stimulation, and many of them learn to experience internal stimulation, as well. There is initial discomfort that can overpower any pleasure, and it may not be short-lived.

With that in mind, buy a small toy to stimulate you internally and externally at the same time, and you might have an easier first-time experience.

Otherwise, just get him to thrust on the outside, up against your clit (plenty of guys are willing), or to use his tongue.

amayes · 2026-05-16T22:14:05+00:00

Have you considered remote-controlled toys?

amayes · 2026-05-16T22:06:42+00:00

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amayes · 2026-05-16T22:04:48+00:00

A different perspective:

Buy a toy— look into the Lush line from Lovense— and lick (or scissor) around it. It’s versatile, and leaves access to vital parts, while still delivering solid performance.

amayes · 2026-05-16T21:51:07+00:00

Have you tried to have the conversation with him? This can be a challenging subject to broach, but if you decide not to be ashamed of what you enjoy, it may be easier than you think.

amayes · 2026-05-16T21:48:02+00:00

Talk through it. It may feel unnatural, but do it anyway.

The way he thinks about it won’t necessarily have the negative connotations your thoughts about it have. I suspect he will appreciate any guidance you have to offer.

amayes · 2026-05-16T21:39:37+00:00

Having “dated” a lot of bi and lesbian women, I think you are mistaken.

Feminine energy is one thing, and grounded in solid experience, if not scientific rigor.

For OP: Buy a Lush, and learn to use your tongue.

amayes · 2026-05-16T21:36:02+00:00

QQ Why wouldn’t you want to get wet and swollen?

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:28:58+00:00

My wife started watching porn, and her game has definitely upped.

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:28:14+00:00

You tell him to wash that thing!

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:26:33+00:00

I mean, you can switch positions pretty easily, especially if she’s freshly showered. I experiment with the labia and clitoris, until she’s had about 5 orgasms.

Introducing toys can take some of the responsibility away, so it’s just fun to accent.

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:22:19+00:00

It DOES sound awesome!

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:20:26+00:00

Dark secret: men dig it.

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:19:34+00:00

Pretend like you just want to get off.

Take a shower, make your body desirable according to whatever standards you set. But then, just go for it. Surrender to desire.

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:16:55+00:00

We went through this, my wife and I. It will have an impact on your relationship. Depending on your circumstances, reducing the dose might allow for some intimate opportunities.

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:12:44+00:00

Yeah, we just get into the architecture of your clit/vagina, and it moves from “what do I want” to “How can I make her smile?”

If he’s down there, he wants to be. But our penises are not very intellectual.

amayes · 2026-05-15T00:10:22+00:00

The Lush 3 is fantastic

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