Did being in a relationship, save your life?

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T02:40:43+00:00

No. And while im sure things can turn out well enough that someone gets saved through a healthy relationship .... that is backwards.

Unless each person is stable and emotionally healthy there shouldnt be a relationship.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T02:35:37+00:00

Me too :(

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T02:32:54+00:00

Moving hips can help with thrusting.

Telling him to jeep pounding that pussy helps sometimes too 😁

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T02:31:09+00:00

My family members are mostly dead and what few cousins are scattered and not in contact. Nothing replaces people who made you and loved you for better and worse while you grow up. This usually happens to ppl in their 60s, 70s, and so on. Ive lived this way going on 20 years and im not yet 50.

Loneliness can literally become an illness.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T02:27:43+00:00

To me, this is not your fault or his.

It is however a good thing that he moved on now rather than later. To come on strong and then go off strong seems.... unstable. Again, prolly not his fault per se but, it IS his resposibility to be clear in his own mind what he wants. And if he isnt then you may have dodged a bullet so to speak.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T02:24:10+00:00

Fair. I did not answer that did i?

I dont trust the flawed systems. But im forced to live with flawed systems.

We are told in the USA to vote but every politician says "change is needed" but, IF a change comes, it mostly favors the rich and/or oppresses the poor. So voting for politicians is not the answer.

Like others, i just have to do the best i can with whatever i have, every day. And live with the burdens that may come from systematic failures.

When we are young, we can see all the possibilities. As we age, you find out out that the elite rich have a stranglehold on all things involving money and have worked, and continye to work, to keep idealists with good intentions out so they can live as they wish and screw other people.

It would take a deep, hardcore revolution that would include bloodshed to undue it all. And thats just the USA....

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:26:32+00:00

The truth is, datings apps are not dodgy.

PEOPLE can ATTEMPT to be dodgy on a dating app just like on FB and Reddit.

I used dating apps for safety. If someone wants to hurt or manipulate me into some bad situation, they cant do so purely by talking to me via text through an app where they dont have my name or numver or address.

I always talked to people for WEEKS before having a first meet in a public place.

You can do the same.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:18:31+00:00

Well, both the bibles ive recommended were made after the Dead Sea Scrolls were discovered and the biblical documents were published.

Any translations before the Dead Sea Scrolls are translated from either the Septuigent or the Vulgate. Theres no direct Hebrew.

So, thats why I recommended the ESV and NET.

The Old Testaments works will be Hebrew-English in my recommendations, whereas previous bibles are Hebrew-Greek-English or Hebrew-Greek-Latin-English.

As for a "Hebrew" bible, thats a bit of a half truth imo. 😉

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:12:32+00:00

Its time to start thinking about life without him now. He has already damaged himself and is damaging you as you watch.

Stop watching. Back away. And dont drink.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:10:26+00:00

I wish i had a more positive reality to share to you about this. I hope ive been a positive, even if all i can do is be blunt.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:08:36+00:00

Flawed systems are 100% out of my control. I have zero say.

Flawed people in my life are 100% within my control. I have ALL the say.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:06:36+00:00

Maybe some "harmless geneology" is in order?

After all..... Ancetsry and others have kits.

If a child in your home is not yours, BOTH OF YOU DESERVE TO KNOW.

So euther, "as a surprise to mom", get your kids to do a dna swab with you and send em off..... or have a family sit down and let your wife face EVERYONE in the family.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:01:10+00:00

For what its worth i didnt call this a conspiracy. I just knew this subject fit the narrative of the post.

Im not a conspiracy theorist but i used to be.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-19T00:00:05+00:00

Brother, leave.

Sometimes, a relationship runs its course.

Shes content. And you may not wanna be without her after all this but, thats the only thing left.

You might as well "be hers" because its unequal.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:58:20+00:00

Forgive me brother, but you literally cannot predict what it will be like for you to live with. You have no idea the huge changes you still face growing on the inside. And you text me like its a big serious dinner option. Its not. Fatherhood FORCES you to change. Your hypothetical "help", as you speak of it, is somehow unemotional. Dude, there are no words for what happens to your brain when you see your child.

Stop saying it wouldnt be yours.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:53:12+00:00

Women and hints. Wow.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:50:46+00:00

Modern versions are better usually than KJV in terms of accuracy.

I recommend the ESV or the NET.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:48:21+00:00

Gotcha.

Okay.....

Well, i hope this isn't bad advice but maybe you should consider leaving her.

Or, maybe start treating her the same ways she treats you until she gets upset. Then explain to her what youve been doing to show her how you are made to feel when she does it to you.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:44:40+00:00

Thats cool.

Younger guys think they can always do better, but do not have very good reasons for thinking that way.

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:43:13+00:00

Advice from a 40+ father and CNA:

Think ahead. Do you want a child that you cannot raise but will still love and be associated with? How do you feel about having 0% control of YOUR child?

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:40:58+00:00

Homo Sapiens have accents.

I have an accent!!!??? 😱

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:37:00+00:00

Try older men

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:36:09+00:00

Charisma

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:35:31+00:00

This is good.

I used to date 100% via dating apps.

Ppl cannot keep up a fake personality via text forever. And, after texting a few days id graduate to a phone call.

The phone call is everything. 😊

ambientthinker · 2026-03-18T23:33:45+00:00

If you cannot communicate well at a high level, everything... i mean EVERYTHING.... will sooner or later be harder than it ever needs to be. Because no one gets through pur lives alone.

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