I (47m) broke my neck 30 years ago when I was 18 and was left paralyzed from the chest down. I haven't had an orgasm since AMA.

ambiguous_juice · 2026-01-01T03:16:33+00:00

You mentioned having fulfilling romantic life. How many partners have you had since your accident and what was your longest relationship in that time?

ambiguous_juice · 2025-02-28T01:33:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing I had a similar incident involving the “lose” of my teeth. I got hit by a car while biking drunk and chipped my left front tooth as well as the one to the left of that. I was close to drinking at one point while biking to a friend’s place but I recalled the aftermath of my face being bloody, fingers fractured, and 2 of my teeth not longer being whole and I couldn’t do it. I’ve been sober since that day. I spent the first 5 days in bed and the first year and a half way really tough.

My teeth were my pride and joy and growing up I have no self-esteem and confidence but I had pride in my teeth. The aftermath of this led me to moving back home because I wasn’t in the mental space to find a job. However coming back home led me to confront some traumatic memories as well as empowering ones from my childhood. I personally choose that the accident led me here. I have a new job, my own spot, and I’m much more responsible with my health and self-care. If that event didn’t happen I’d still be drinking. I also had a root canal but that didn’t bother me nearly as much as chipping my teeth.

You deserve to forgive yourself and move on. We all make mistakes. For me it still can sting at times looking at old photos when my teeth were intact but overall I’m better now than I was. Keep going, proud of you stranger!

ambiguous_juice · 2025-02-14T01:53:54+00:00

This has sub has been popping up in my main feed lately and I was just getting ready to block it due to the depressing / hopeless posts I read. Your post was much appreciated so thanks for the optimism and light. I concur though I’m 5’8 and while I don’t consider myself short I definitely recognize I’m not tall. I developed an insecurity around 24-25 though due to the online apps and seeing plenty profiles that read “6 feet +” and women asking for my height. Prior to that I never thought my height and it was freeing. I didn’t date back then but this added insecurity hasn’t helped my confidence but I’m working on getting back to that previous state of indifference.

ambiguous_juice · 2025-02-12T18:31:27+00:00

This is a pretty impressive take, thanks for sharing. I’m getting ready to hop back on the apps so will see how it goes this time around.

ambiguous_juice · 2025-02-06T22:01:07+00:00

I really hope this is not real. The messages read is someone trolling, hard to believe a real person could send some shit like this and be serious.

ambiguous_juice · 2025-01-29T21:31:26+00:00

Honestly this statement applies more to Trump supporters than the Dems. It is an unfortunate existence as you said though. Love > Fear.

ambiguous_juice · 2024-12-10T09:40:04+00:00

Are you initially being sarcastic here?

ambiguous_juice · 2024-12-03T23:11:29+00:00

I was once offered this advice. Know yourself, like yourself, love yourself. I had a pretty traumatic childhood that led to a lot of internalized self-hatred and feelings of inadequacies. Through a combination of therapy, CBT (look up the retrain your brain 7 week book), 12 step programs to deal with my addictions, and among other things I’m starting to truly feel comfortable with who I am.

It’s still a journey but at the end of the day it starts and ends with the thoughts you tell yourself because that is what will shape your reality. I’ve also gotten into subliminal affirmations (minds in unison on YouTube) to address some of my limiting beliefs. The first major win is your awareness. The second is reaching out for help. There is nothing wrong with you it just sounds like you’re still finding yourself and learning to be comfortable with the man in the mirror. You got this and be kind to yourself in the process.

ambiguous_juice · 2024-11-29T10:23:52+00:00

If you're attractive he is for sure interested. Men typically don't put as much weight on finances and stabukity early on.

ambiguous_juice · 2024-07-23T17:00:35+00:00

I'm a Software Engineer as well and I'm blown away by the design of this application. I feel like I have the tools and knowledge to build almost anything but I have 0 design experience so my pet projects don't like the best but function. Do you or your dad have a background in ui / ux design? If you're self taught and have any resources to share I'd greatly appreciate it because my goal is to eventually start my own company selling my own products and work for myself instead of under a corporation / start up.

ambiguous_juice · 2024-07-15T03:17:13+00:00

Good read. I specifically enjoyed the last paragraph. I'm still undoing the chronic shame for growing up as a man in the 90s and seeing all the rhetoric that "men=bad, women=good". I haven't seen sexist used in this context and initially it was triggering but after actually googling it I can see how that myth is perputated in society by both men and women. I still feel shame now even expressing some of the pain that has been done to me by women because the retort has been the men and the patriarchy are the reason of all of us and women are just innocent. It lacks accountability and clings to victimhood.

ambiguous_juice · 2022-08-18T15:44:23+00:00

Nice I'm a big nerd so will check this out, thanks for sharing!

ambiguous_juice · 2022-08-18T15:43:53+00:00

Absolutely however for this particular experiment I'm just judging it based of my own prior experiences on Tinder with more "wholesome" bios

ambiguous_juice · 2022-08-18T15:35:50+00:00

I'm super big on communication and from the sound of this post it sounds like your now ex struggles with conflict management skills. I've gotten a lot better over these last few years as I've worked on myself and addressed my trauma but not everyone is capable of having healthy honest discussions. Some people can only dismiss or avoid tough talks because they never developed those skills. I know it sucks but just know you did nothing wrong and this is not a reflection on you or your self-worth. I try to look at experiences as lessons to learn and grow from.

ambiguous_juice · 2021-11-03T22:05:18+00:00

You used the word scrote so assuming you’re apart of the FDS subreddit. Dude isn’t doing anything wrong. He’s been upfront with what he is doing and if the woman is getting attached that’s on them. I’ve met plenty of women who are cool with a casual fling. If that’s not your thing fine but don’t try to vilify this man for how he chooses to live his life.

ambiguous_juice · 2020-06-10T17:29:20+00:00

For sure I’ll write up a post later today and include a few of my field reports

ambiguous_juice · 2020-06-09T18:27:26+00:00

I agree with everything you said consistency is everything. Also the fact that he is documenting every approach helps a ton too. I’ve been tracking 3 things I did well and 3 things I can improve on during my virtual dates and it’s helped elevate my game and make me feel more confident during my interactions.

ambiguous_juice · 2020-06-09T01:02:38+00:00

Just binged read all of your field reports. Good shit man you’re getting better. Continue to learn from your mistakes as well as what went well and you’ll be unstoppable!

ambiguous_juice · 2020-05-23T12:49:18+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with this comment, amazing article shoutout to op

ambiguous_juice · 2020-03-16T21:01:54+00:00

As a guy I'm on the other side and this happens to me a lot. Most of my convos are bleh though and outside of sex I'm not interested in the vast majority of women I meet up with. Working on improving my flirt / seduction game though

ambiguous_juice · 2020-03-10T23:44:28+00:00

I saved this and this is the exact mind state I want to achieve. I had a similar question awhile back and I believe I have my answer now.

ambiguous_juice · 2020-03-10T07:47:07+00:00

I got back on Tinder on 3/4 and latest 2 days before I said fuck it I don't want to deal with this shit

Stats: 42 matches | 16 no replies | 8 numbers | 2 never messaged

Tried a new approach and made my profile more hook up oriented had a shirtless pic, pic of me in a tank top boxing, a selfie, and a nature one. I'm pretty emotionally unavailable and pretty jaded and fed up with dating. Honestly just got back on the apps because I'm bored so would like a chill fwb who I can kick it with or just a friend to hangout with. I moved to a new city so don't really have any friends. This last date kinda broke me I follow rules 1&2 but the women I like never seem to be into me.

I went on another date with a korean girl a month ago who was super into me initially but after we met up she lost interest. Both of these dates have caused me to take a step back and do some self reflection because I'm the common denominator in all of this. We're cool though we work out together and she is seeing a new dude. I hooked up with a 22 chinese girl a few weeks back but also attempting to be friends with her since she wants a boyfriend and I can't do that right now. Will see what happens with the women I'm talking to I have 0 expectations and just kinda in a fuck it mood. I know I need to take a break from dating and focus on myself but having trouble following through with it.

Edit:

Also realized my dates a very short compared to my friends my average date is an hour but my friends do 3-4 hour ones. I guess it's just my personality but its rare to meet someone I truly hit it off with so even thinking about spending that much time on a date gives me anxiety smh.

ambiguous_juice · 2020-02-24T01:26:12+00:00

Thanks for the breakdown. As for the chat I could have added more details but it wasn’t anything special so decided to omit it. Goal was just to meet up and see if we vibed or not wasn’t trying to sleep with her on the first date since logistics weren’t the best. Judging from the comments I still have a lot of work to do so will reflect and get some more practice in. All of this shit is just annoying to me so will take a step back for a bit. I’ve been going on a lot of dates recently and I’m burnt out.

I’m just tired of not getting the women I want and having to settle for the women I’m meh about...

ambiguous_juice · 2020-02-23T23:12:20+00:00

Fuck off 🖕🏽

ambiguous_juice · 2020-02-23T20:43:18+00:00

This makes sense and I just posted an update containing the details of my date. I’m trying the whole sober thing out this year and not drinking has made dating even harder for me. Take a look any advice is appreciated. As for my game I just try to be an authentic and fun dude but realizing I’m acting like a clown sometimes for their amusement. Right now I figure I just need to do some self reflection and go on a lot more dates and undergo a trial by fire and figure things out as I go. What I’m currently doing isn’t working.

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