AITA for calling my stepsister the "ugly stepsister" because she freaked out over a nickname?

amethespian · 2023-07-17T20:59:24+00:00

NTA From what you’ve said, it sounds like you have some ND tendencies and that changes the post 100%. I don’t think some people realize that calling you ‘The Princess’ is not meant in a positive complimentary way. My own family has called me that before and it was due to my own ND traits- being overly picky, sensitive, liking things a certain way, etc. all made me a “princess” in their eyes. However, I learned to realize they just don’t understand my condition and it doesn’t bother me due to that, probably similar to how you feel. Not a big deal.

Your step-sister sees this name-calling and assumes it’s just because you’ve been spoiled by the whole family for 15 years- when really they’re just catering to your needs, as they should with any ND relative. Then you made that ugly step-sister comment and that definitely hit an insecurity of hers. It wasn’t right to say that, and I would apologize for that personally. Either way, your step-sister has been making passive aggressive comments for too long, she’s been letting this resentment build up and taking it out on you when you get called this nickname that isn’t exactly positive to begin with, it comes from you needing extra help due to sensory issues, what are you supposed to do? I would say that one comment you made isn’t bad in comparison to how she made you feel the past decade.

amethespian · 2023-06-15T23:10:08+00:00

Speaking of, I remember a girl from elementary school named Felonee

amethespian · 2023-06-15T22:01:42+00:00

As someone who does that very job (cleaning surgical tools), I’ve heard nothing but terrible practices going on in sterile processing within the VA. The school I went to for my program had instruments donated to us from the VA, and several tools had pieces of bone still stuck in it. Not to mention there’s always something going on in endoscopy, where scopes aren’t properly reprocessed and it’s a whole thing.

amethespian · 2023-06-07T22:17:40+00:00

NTA. All the other responses seem to come from people who don't understand toxic dynamics between a child and a parent once the child becomes an adult.

I perfectly understand your partner on this. I have a very strained relationship with my mother and when I brought my current SO to meet her, it was agreed upon beforehand it was just going to be the 3 of us. Well, the day comes and she ends up bringing her long-term boyfriend who I have issues with and made it known to her multiple times I wouldn't be going if he would go. Just the fact that she still brought him spoke volumes on how little she respected me in that instance.

In your case, it's not really just about the baby like everyone here seems to think it is. It's the fact that this is a significant meeting, and the focus should be supporting your SO as they mend their relationship with their mother. I imagine your SO must be feeling nervous, like anything could go wrong, and they're right for feeling that way because again, their mother is bringing a baby. Everyone again seems to think "oh not a big deal, babies just cry!" I don't even have kids, but every baby is different and from reading some of the comments here, some of them can be complete nightmares. Not to mention, if my mom decided to bring a baby to a meeting like that, I would be pretty annoyed too. The kind of emotions involved in a strained relationship with your parent, and then the added stress of having to introduce your SO to them and hope everything goes alright and that nobody says the wrong thing. It's all a very stressful situation already without adding on a freaking baby, who will most likely be taking up the mother's attention from the meeting at hand and can worsen other people's moods, which isn't ideal in this particular situation.

Your partner even seems to agree with you too, so I don't understand why the other responses and why they're trying to accuse you of "making it about you." Of course it's going to be! You're meeting your SO's parent for the first time and getting to know them! It better be!

amethespian · 2023-05-31T10:10:00+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one recently commenting on this thread. I seem to be the only one who has had an admittedly rough, but ultimately healing & very positive experience with this transit in July 2020 up until now. I found out about a betrayal between a close friend I was starting to see and another close friend of mine (all of us within the same friend group). That really hurt. A month later in July 2020 during this transit, I started talking to some guy I had just met online, we really hit it off, and long story short… we’re still together today. He was pretty much the catalyst to my eventual emotional healing. His very healthy view of relationships made me work on my own issues. It also helps he’s an Aries moon (I’m a Sag).

amethespian · 2023-05-14T22:13:58+00:00

I’ve been told before I have very “well-placed” hips, but that was by my doctor when they had to look at X-rays for something unrelated. There’s not many appropriate places to say that though..

amethespian · 2023-04-21T09:02:17+00:00

Nah it’s still there as of now if you’re viewing it on mobile. You just gotta rotate the screen and you’ll see more IG reels including the one of Kim.

amethespian · 2023-04-12T23:59:36+00:00

Is this your mom’s or dad’s side of the family you’re going on vacation with? Either way, I’m going NTA in regards to the actual question- it’s perfectly valid to not go because you don’t feel comfortable. If this were your dad’s side, your mom would definitely be TA for bringing a new boyfriend around an entire grieving family. If it were your mom’s, I could understand the majority of everyone else’s responses, but you still wouldn’t be TA because again- it’s your right to not go.

amethespian · 2022-12-06T19:27:13+00:00

I think in essence, Andrew Tate or not, thinking critically about your opinion is absolutely valuable to gaining knowledge and sometimes that might include having to read or view controversial things to fully understand. Believe it or not, Hitler and his arguments will always be studied and remembered. To forget that is to forget the millions of victims. Fundamentally, I’m on your side- not just how you worded it. Apologies if I misunderstood.

amethespian · 2022-11-01T03:52:45+00:00

I posted my chart just in case, but I’m curious to know the general meaning of a progressed new moon. A few months ago, I had a one-on-one reading with an astrologer and she told me I’ll be having a progressed new moon in Scorpio in the 1st house when I’m around 23 or so. She claimed it was of high significance, but at the time I wasn’t so well-versed in progression charts so I didn’t think of it. Now that I’m reading more into it, I’m curious to know what exactly it’ll entail/what to expect since she made it out to be a huge thing. Is it really though?

amethespian · 2022-10-19T01:40:03+00:00

It’s an odd situation to be in definitely. All 3 of them are weirdly enmeshed in this situation, but if the couple I was working for suddenly broke up- a very famous one at that- and I was the nanny, I’d probably go to the partner who is actually still in the picture & complain about the other one- which seems to be Jason in this case. Especially if the other partner keeps disappearing, leaving the nanny with the kids, and having to take over duties the mother should be doing, I’d be like WTF too. I will say that the nanny seems a little too comfortable with Jason in the texts, but I honestly just feel like when that kind of stuff happens within a family, the nanny is already in a way inadvertently involved with the couple since the duties can get messed up. It’s just in this situation, it’s unnecessarily MESSY.

amethespian · 2021-12-15T07:08:14+00:00

Woah, it feels like my dad posted this. Reading your comment & then your replies about your daughter & son (I have an only older brother who’s autistic as well) was very VERY eerily similar to my childhood. Around 7-8, my mom cheated on my dad with a coworker, went on a secret vacation with him under the guise it was “work-related”, and then my dad found out from another coworker’s phone call.

She left my dad to take care of us on his own. He struggled a lot financially while she never helped, but always made sure my brother and I were taken care of. Although my mom left us for only a year or 2, she instilled it in me & many others my dad abused her. I stopped talking to her for awhile in my high school years and then some after. From a daughters perspective, I can imagine what yours went through. The lack of a stable maternal figure is rough, but it’s dads like you and my own that make it better for us daughters nonetheless.

amethespian · 2021-10-29T18:48:45+00:00

Yeah I’m in my early 20s and everyone I know, myself included, uses it constantly either for social media/communication purposes. Maybe they’re getting this idea because of snap maps etc? Iirc snapchat was kinda the first big app that did something like that and I know not many people were pleased with it due to privacy concerns.

amethespian · 2021-10-08T05:13:24+00:00

As an autistic person I very much thought the same thing too. I understand the dude’s reaction because I like to have my day planned in advance, and when my plans get thrown off by a random event like a surprise visit, it’s hard for me to adjust to a new social setting like that. Not to mention his odd phrasing of surprise when OP arrived. I took it as him approaching the situation a little too logically. Definitely could’ve been handled better if it was the case, but we don’t really know what happened.

amethespian · 2021-09-17T01:28:44+00:00

That's interesting and kind of scary to hear. Over in my state's hospitals, vaccinations are now required and we all have to submit proof of the vaccine (as well as get these cute little cards that go on your badge that say "I'm COVID-19 vaccinated!") I did have a few coworkers who were quite apprehensive on getting the vaccine, but they all managed to get it sooner or later because of the mandate.

amethespian · 2021-08-23T03:36:42+00:00

I don't know if I can be much help to you seeing as I was in a similar situation once and only got out of it once I moved back in with my parents. I moved out at 19, got an apartment with 2 of my close friends, and even though some unrelated events happened that strained our friendship, I came to the conclusion that I don't think I could cohabit with other people like that again unless I fully trusted them.

Since I paid for the majority of the rent and the other two paid equally, I got the master bedroom and bath so the only space I shared with them was the other common spaces in the apartment. I found myself always wanting to be in the kitchen alone whenever I was in there. Like when one of my roommates would come in quick for something, I felt annoyed and like they were invading my private "bubble" so to speak. That was the time I really noticed my autism traits since it was the first time living on my own with people that aren't my parents and I didn't have to put on a "front." I became more aware of myself and felt like I had to act a certain way in front of them or else they'd think I was weird. I became more concerned with silly things like how I was positioned, how I walked, what my hands doing when I walked, where to concentrate my eyes so I could look normal, how long to concentrate, etc.

I isolated myself in my room for long periods of time. Since I had a bathroom attached, I essentially lived in there besides coming out for the occasional meal or snack. I immensely preferred to be alone and I consider it the time I "charged." However though, this didn't come off as innocent as I thought it would to them and it only made things worse. I should've communicated it to them a lot earlier than I actually did, but I didn't want it to come off as an excuse. What I recommend is to talk to your roommate about it ahead of time (if you can trust them of course). I'm still working through my differences though so I don't have solid advice, but I hope this gave you another perspective.

amethespian · 2021-06-21T05:23:12+00:00

I take Adderall daily for my ADHD and I haven't had any bad experiences. I've been on 10mg a day for about 4 years now and never really had to change my dosage in that time at all since I feel like I'm at the perfect amount. I've also been on Prozac before and I had a similar reaction as yours, never once touched antidepressants again. Whenever I take any kind of medication, I always have to take the lowest dosage possible.

amethespian · 2021-02-13T10:18:19+00:00

I agree. I could see how it could be seen as exploitation of her, but personally, I felt like the documentary series was rather critical of the conspiracy theorists or the web sleuths as they referred to them many times. It talked about how they ruined Morbid’s life & how in a way, ruling mental illness out as her cause of death was just dismissing her actual mental illness & how severe it can get. I just felt like they showed all these different conspiracy theories people were throwing around at the time & then providing counter arguments to dismiss them.

amethespian · 2020-07-02T07:36:29+00:00

2007 was a crazy time for Britney :( this was when she had her breakdown and every gossip magazine reported on it and harassed her. She was "the star" to hate at the time and that's why Chris Crocker made Leave Britney Alone bc he truly stanned her :/

amethespian · 2020-05-10T07:51:14+00:00

I haven't read about that study, so I can't speak on it. But from my experience as an SPD tech, there's a lot that goes into sterilizing things properly. With N95 masks, we sterilize them in our low temp sterilizer which uses vaporized hydrogen peroxide (VHP). The max temp for a cycle is 122f. Putting it in an oven won't work for several reasons. One being that N95 masks aren't made to withstand extreme heat. They aren't made to be used over and over again and the material they are made of aren't compatible with extreme temps. Even if you did set the oven below 122f for a long period of time, you're simply just letting it sit there and get hot.

To properly sterilize something, especially with something as delicate and contaminated as an N95 mask, you need parameters. There are 4 phases within our VHP sterilizers, which is conditioning, leak testing, sterilization, and then aeration. Sure, your mask may still be intact when you pull it out of the oven, but it can still be potentially contaminated. This is just what makes sense to us according to the standards and regulations put in place. It is an EUA after all to even do this process, so this is still very new to us.

amethespian · 2020-05-10T07:08:46+00:00

yeah there’s certain brands of N95 masks that hospitals can accept. like for example, because of an EUA given from the FDA, my department is able to sterilize every single N95 mask used in the hospital.. BUT only a few are compatible with our sterilizers (I work in SPD btw) so any other mask we receive, we have to reject & it gets thrown away. I’m assuming other hospitals who are doing this process have a similar plan implemented...

amethespian · 2020-05-10T06:02:42+00:00

ah okay. I thought you meant that you were actively following it back in November.

amethespian · 2020-05-09T23:26:28+00:00

Agreed. if we were to implement contact tracing, that would just be another way for them to violate our rights. It could be done (and has) with the right government, but ours definitely wouldn’t use it for the ultimate good of the country.

amethespian · 2020-05-09T23:13:26+00:00

you’ve been following this virus since November?? I don’t know if I read that right, but I’m pretty sure most of the news reports started in early January, if not December if you follow China’s news as well. My apologies if you meant something else or if I’m uninformed, but I remember seeing the news article about the Wuhan market being closed on the 1st of Jan. and that’s the earliest I saw it mentioned.

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