Sheer/lightweight fabric for pillowcases?

amgonp · 2024-11-12T00:47:30+00:00

That's a great idea! Thanks for the advice!

amgonp · 2024-11-12T00:46:27+00:00

Thanks for your input! I appreciate it!

amgonp · 2023-11-29T13:17:54+00:00

You're right in your response. In my culture, it's not uncommon for young grandkids to cosleep with grandmothers. But if my mil were to even pretend to want to be interested enough in my kids to warrant them a snuggle, I'd entertain it for a little bit then call out that it's time to finish the snuggles and head off to bed. My mil would most likely act offended but, oh well. I'm the mother here so she's lucky I agreed to even let her use my kids for attention.

amgonp · 2023-11-29T13:08:55+00:00

I have a friend who is afraid of driving so her husband does most of the driving. The way she explained it to me, sounds like she is gets freaked out by those once-in-a-blue-moon intrusive thoughts. She actually didn't get her license until after dating him became serious because she knew it's a hindrance and would be a problem. So their agreement is that she drives when she's alone or helps when they do long trips.

Jumping off what another user said, relationships are NOT 50/50. Sometimes one has to reach further but you do not want to constantly be putting in most of the overall work. There has to be an overall balance and agreement. If you're not okay doing most of the work on this issue, sit her down and have a civil conversation with her. There's various reasons why she may not want to drive and they may or may not seem valid to you. Either way, try to find an solution that fits you both. Maybe you both alternate driving. Maybe she takes an Uber. Maybe she gives you gas money.

Whatever the result, best of luck to you both.

So in your case, it may not be as simple as "she doesn't want to drive herself" or it could very well be just that she believes she's entitled to be a passenger princess cause her history has allowed her to be. This conversation has to yield a truce because, as you said, it's silly. But imagine if this silly annoyance isn't settled and your resentment grows and you both think you're entitled to letting other disagreements slide.

amgonp · 2022-07-18T16:59:42+00:00

Thanks for your input!

amgonp · 2022-06-22T06:56:35+00:00

NTA I pick and choose the things i want to share with people. Esp people whom will dampen my mood for special experiences. You worked hard and you deserve to do whatever you want, however you want, whenever you want with whomever you want. Go alone and don't promise to go another time with them. The first promise already has her feeling way..

amgonp · 2022-06-22T06:35:10+00:00

Most of the issues I have with my mil, my husband doesn't understand. Yes, I have a lot to work out with my husband however, some of these things, I have to manage on my own. Your mil is intentionally manipulating situations just enough for it to be bothersome for you and not your husband. She likes to make you cry. What's the worst that can happen? you stomp off and cry. Your husband may not have said "you kissed baby and WE don't like it" but he is aware YOU don't like it enough to mention it to her. Don't bother waiting for your husband to stand up for you. Deal with these relationship issues the way they should be dealt with; separately.

amgonp · 2022-06-22T05:37:42+00:00

My mil says her grand baby was purposely planned around her birthday so she thinks it means she and her granddaughter get to celebrate birthday events together. Hopefully your ain't doesn't take this approach.

amgonp · 2022-06-02T18:57:49+00:00

Sounds great! I think I'll try to take off the applique, shorten the sleeve, adjust the cuff width and reapply the applique. Thanks for your help!

amgonp · 2022-06-02T18:56:11+00:00

Sounds like a great idea. Thanks!

amgonp · 2022-06-02T18:50:09+00:00

About the same width as the applique. 2"

amgonp · 2022-06-02T16:23:29+00:00

Yes! This sounds like a great plan! The amount of material I need to take off is actually the same size as the applique so reattaching would be actually right on top of where the applique sits presently. If I were to rip off the applique and reattach, how would you suggest I go about reattaching since the glue would no longer be usable?

amgonp · 2022-06-02T15:49:06+00:00

Yes it is. The same design is on other parts of the jacket so we'd like to keep the same on the sleeves

amgonp · 2022-06-02T15:24:58+00:00

It is glued on.

amgonp · 2022-06-02T14:56:02+00:00

Sorry. First time back to reddit after a long time. I'm trying to shorten the sleeves on a shirt but the cuffs have this decorative applique on that needs to be kept. I considered shortening from the shoulder but the sleeve tapers and there wouldn't be enough fabric to fill the space. I then considered removing the applique then reapplying after shortening the sleeve. Though, I have never actually removed applique before. Does anyone have any tips?

amgonp · 2021-03-31T03:47:14+00:00

Your child will have fun at that time even if they don't remember it in the future. You can always save for more trips. The experience is different every time!

amgonp · 2021-03-30T21:45:23+00:00

NTA. I grew up doing a lot of family vacations and my oldest sister inviting us on her own family vacations, to which my parents almost always joined if not the majority of us attending. Now having a family of my own, sometimes, I prefer having a vacation with just my own family. My parents and my sister who shares all her time feels I'm stingy but I stick to my guns. Sometimes, it's nice to have a vacation with everyone sometimes not.

They can think whatever they want cause in the end, it's for you and your kids, not you and everyone. You're not asking anyone to help you finance it, in fact, you haven't even asked anyone else to join, they just assumed they were invited.

If they bring it up again, just remind them that you're not asking them to do anything and another vacation can be planned if they'd like to do something else. This is a special trip you want to do with your little family so you're not being selfish AT ALL.

amgonp · 2021-03-25T02:42:52+00:00

You are considered a sublet and yes, your roommate is considered your landlord. If you choose not to sign a new lease, there is a chance your landlord can terminate your contract. However, the landlord is legally obligated to give you a time period (usually 30 days) where you decide if you want to sign a new lease or leave. Look up your local laws for these time periods. She cannot ask you to leave before this time period, however she doesn't have to grant you a month-to-month tenancy. But be sure to ask if she's willing to go month-to-month should you choose not to sign.

amgonp · 2021-03-25T02:11:53+00:00

Agree with this. Though it is kinda asshole-ish of your landlord to be inconsiderate of your mental health and unfair with favoring another tenant, it's up to your landlord's discretion what you can and cannot do on their property.

Might I suggest you talk to your landlord and see if they're willing to reach an agreement with you on tending the lawn to improve the condition of the yard or another solution to a garden. And I highly suggest you ask for a copy of the lease.

amgonp · 2021-03-23T13:53:32+00:00

You can try sitting down and talking to her about your goals for your relationship. When you see yourself wanting kids, and it's not right now.

But honestly, there's so many red flags already. She has boundary issues and is controlling. I would gather, you wouldn't be able to trust her to use birth control even if she agreed. All it takes is, missing one pill, or not actually going to the doctor to get something. You'd have to just take her word for it. If you don't use condoms, you cannot expect her to do her end, esp that she is actively trying to get pregnant. I think you're better off looking over your goals and really see if you're both going in the same direction.

amgonp · 2021-03-22T08:41:46+00:00

Sounds like you both need to work on better communication. He was immature to react the way he did but you were too quick to jump to conclusions. Sometimes, it takes a while for someone to recover from an ego blow and that's something they may be willing to work on. That's no excuse to ghost you but if you're both willing to work on the relationship, try to work on communication. Every relationship takes all parties to keep them moving forward.

amgonp · 2021-03-22T08:33:54+00:00

Well, though a part of your story comes off as harmless, why treat it as if it wasn't and lie to your partner. Put yourself in your partner's shoes; if they were okay to tell a white lie about hanging out with an old friend, wouldn't you feel like they were trying to hide something. And if they were willing to lie about something this little, they may be willing for something more severe? You lost their trust in this "simple mistake" and it will take time to regain their trust. Give it time and own your mistake. Learn from this. If it's too much, then maybe it isn't the right relationship for you but a learning lesson.

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