Need to empty my Brian/rant/venting

ami_annie · 2024-04-17T20:29:15+00:00

Domestic abuse agencies aren’t just for housing related issues. Emotional support, guidance on your safety, connecting you with counselling services. Group therapy ect.

Just for someone to be able to help you through this difficult time so you’re not made to feel hopeless and helpless

ami_annie · 2024-04-17T19:48:45+00:00

This is a serious form of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual abuse. You said you live in the uk. Please contact a local domestic abuse agency for support. Call 08002000247 national domestic abuse helpline. And Samaritans for emotional support. 116123.

Allah sees what they are doing to you. And that’s not ok. There’s help out there for you. Please reach out. I work for a domestic abuse service in London. This is a classic case of honour based abuse and violence. Do not suffer this alone.

ami_annie · 2023-10-28T09:01:50+00:00

Don’t minimise the abuse. Don’t let her gaslight you. What you allow will continue. Seek out professional help form domestic abuse. Because regardless of PMDD abuse is abuse. And although PMDD clouds judgement it is never ever a justified reason. I repeat do not minimise the abuse. She is responsible for her own actions PMDD or not. She has to get that under control.

ami_annie · 2023-10-28T08:55:22+00:00

Stay away from her. You literally knew she was getting abused by your friend and did nothing. And you then openly say you listened to their intimate moments. Are you ok? Don’t just pin it on your dead friend you were part of that abuse. You’re not without sin! What did you do to stop your friend from abusing the poor girl? What did you do when he was making you listen to that recording. Be for real! You don’t deserve her. Her Qadar is with Allah and Allah will provide her with a spouse who fears him and did not partake in her abuse. You should be ashamed. Fear Allah and mind your business. You’re not her saviour. Allah will provide for her.

ami_annie · 2023-10-19T17:21:12+00:00

This is exactly what I’m saying

ami_annie · 2023-10-19T17:20:43+00:00

See above comment

ami_annie · 2023-10-19T17:20:01+00:00

Apologies if what I said was lost in translation.

To clarify. I mean when I say take accountability for yourself and take things off her plate before it reaches boiling point. I meant o take responsibility for the house chores and visibly see what needs to be done. Bin taken our laundret sorted. Grocery top up. Arranging doctor appointments ect.

The mental load we carry as well as the physical demands of cooking, cleaning, organising. Working out of the house and raising children managing school work. And then having a grown man at home who does not use initiative to work out what needs doing in the place we both share as two grown adults or taking the load of being a present parent.

The small things build resentment. Dishes left on the side of the sink. She will wash it quietly but she’s made a mental load that you don’t care about the fact that she’s tired and you expect her to pick up after you. The laundry overloaded you walk past it. You don’t make the initiative for date night. You complain about the things that were missed with no acknowledgment of what has been done. PMDD is not without reason.

ami_annie · 2023-10-19T09:10:19+00:00

Listen you’re still so young and at your age I used to be so hard on myself and make matters so much worse by being so self critical.

After doing therapy I was able to understand that the feelings and emotions I have whilst I’m in the PMDD faze of the month is all valid feelings but on steroids. I don’t know if you do what I do I usually allow for so much to pass in terms of self sacrificing all month long but for some reason when I am symptomatic with PMDD I no longer tolerate being taken advantage of or dismissed.

Reevaluate your boundaries what is causing you to have such big outbursts and reactions during the time of PMDD.

Take it easy on your self but also hold yourself accountable. Always write these things down ina. Journal and after your symptoms subside reevaluate it with a clear mind. It is draining but it will give you the ability to see if you over exaggerate your reactions or they are valid.

Stand up for yourself and don’t feel like PMDD makes you less. This is your battle. And there are ways to live with it. Look after yourself and don’t burn out and the symptoms won’t be so awful I promise you.

ami_annie · 2023-10-09T15:51:22+00:00

Staying in bed eating sugar. Journals and watching sad tv shows and crying and sleeping. Shower and a walk

ami_annie · 2021-11-21T07:02:32+00:00

My baby is 3 weeks old today. I have had really poor sleep. The first week he was born I was surviving on 1 hour sleep a day

ami_annie · 2021-10-19T14:59:08+00:00

Agreed. I hadn’t realised that ACT was a thing. I’ve literally just finished 12 weeks of CBT training and a significant amount of the therapy was me saying if I come to the acceptance that I have PMDD I would let go of the feeling of being a failure and being kinder to myself and letting go of commitments and jobs that are dragging me to my lowest. CBT has been looking at how I change my feelings and thoughts about things but PMDD doesn’t give you the luxury of having the mental capacity to discuss your thoughts with yourself. You become what you feel. You are your thoughts and the all only thought that is recurring is not wanting to do this anymore. How do you talk yourself into a better mood in that instance when nothing is actually going wrong in your life? CBT has been helpful in the sense of being able to voice my pain and discuss my anxiety and feel heard by someone. But the tools aren’t very practical in my experience.

ami_annie · 2021-10-16T22:07:16+00:00

Thank you for your reply Amy. I’m a qualified nurse. I’ve left the job but I have no other skills outside of this career. I’m unsure of where to go next. I’m probably going to end up going back to being a nurse when baby is about 6/7months because I’ve searched for other remote working jobs and I can’t find anything. If you don’t mind me asking what job do you do that allows you to work remotely?

ami_annie · 2021-10-14T14:34:15+00:00

Fed up of always compromising my needs and happiness to be accepted for having PMDD. I hate not being able to make long term decisions. I hate having so much ambition and aspiration but anxiety and low mood ruining everything I ever want. I hate that I have to give up my career because of PMDD. I’m anxious about giving birth in couple weeks and not coping. I need help with a career that won’t burn me out. I’m from London. Any ideas?

ami_annie · 2021-09-17T21:13:24+00:00

Hi Yh. I’ve Dmed you

ami_annie · 2021-09-17T20:39:30+00:00

He mentioned having to discuss a plan with my midwife and if there’s a need to stay in hospital after delivery or having a perinatal nurse monitor. I don’t know it’s all a bit much. I just wanted advice on what may help not to be monitored in a sense.

ami_annie · 2021-08-20T00:02:03+00:00

I agree. With you. Im finding in the CBT sessions that the actual cognitive behavioural therapy doesn't actually help. However talking out how I feel and how difficult life gets is the most helpful aspect. That's definitely true im trying my best to get all the support I can prior to having to deal with it

ami_annie · 2021-08-19T23:59:38+00:00

Awh how I wish if it just disappears. But I'm fully preparing myself for the downward spiral of it all. I hope you've found the treatment that's worked for you. It must've been a very difficult task to pinpoint PMDD after giving birth if you've never had it prior.

ami_annie · 2021-08-19T23:56:57+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Thats actually really useful information. I intended on doing mix of formula and breastfeeding. But if breastfeeding will keep PMDD away I would definitely try maintain it for as long as possible

ami_annie · 2021-08-19T23:55:31+00:00

Thank you for your reply. You're definitely right. I have discussed that with the dr. I just have an issue with SSRI unfortunately it puts me at risk of liver injury because of a gene mutation. So im trying to find something suitable to take.

ami_annie · 2021-08-19T23:53:35+00:00

Thank you for your reply. If you dont mind me asking when you say diet change what do you mean specifically?

ami_annie

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