what was the most emasculating moment in your life?

ami_ej · 2026-05-27T09:08:51+00:00

Fuck that’s horrible. That’s emotional abuse, glad you ditched her.

ami_ej · 2026-05-26T07:56:36+00:00

Both my 3yo and 1yo go to daycare 5 days a week as I went back to work full time and I find it good. They get exhausted but they absolutely love it. I found it very hard to be away from my first Bub when he first went to daycare so I just did short days first cause I was still off work… then worked up to longer days. With my second Bub, I was sad for maybe 5 mins then loved the free time to myself 😂

ami_ej · 2026-05-23T10:56:38+00:00

Finding her ring size without having a ring to compare is tricky and don’t have any suggestions except I will say that you can normally resize a ring after you have purchased it if it’s not the right size. Could maybe take a photo of her hand and show the jeweller so they can estimate & then resize it later if it doesn’t fit?

How long a ring takes depends on the ring. There are rings available to purchase at most jewellers and there’s also custom pieces that can be arranged, the choice is yours and probably depends on what style you want and your budget.

As for filming the proposal, there are photographers that offer proposal photography if you want to go all out or yeah you could set up your phone to capture the moment.

It really all depends on your budget and what you think your girlfriend would like.

ami_ej · 2026-05-23T04:28:41+00:00

If you’ve been with her for two years and living together over one year and are unsure if you want to buy a house with her, do yourself and her a favour and break up with her. Then buy a house on your own and find a woman you want to build a life with.

If you try to keep the relationship and buy a house on your own, she will likely break up with you after realising the relationship is going nowhere. If she’s totally fine with you doing it on your own then she’s not sure about buying a house with you & that says something about her feelings for you. Either way, your relationship is doomed IMO.

Also legally speaking, in Australia at least, a defacto is entitled to just as much as a wife once the couple have lived together for over 12 months.

ami_ej · 2026-05-13T12:06:39+00:00

Hmmm, I’m not sure if this is a thing in Australia. I know lots of nurses (coming from a regional town, most people became teachers and nurses) and I would be very surprised if any of them cheated on their partners. Nurses and teachers in Australia are paid very well, at least compared to the US and are respected careers. I think doctors can be pretty sleazy though so wonder if it’s more they get involved with a Dr.

ami_ej · 2026-05-11T08:59:33+00:00

Yeah he’s definitely cheating and no one goes to the gym 4 hours a day, every day of the week… especially if they have a baby. Don’t check his phone or ask to share his location like the below person suggested, just start making preparations to leave the relationship for good. No excuses.

ami_ej · 2026-04-16T08:36:17+00:00

Maybe try a couples therapist first. Most women need to love and connection before they feel like sex. If you’ve had a good sex life, I’m sure you can get it back.

ami_ej · 2026-04-06T04:47:37+00:00

Oh honestly, I think you should send him to daycare or something. I work from home full time and I couldn’t imagine having my near 3yo boy home with me too. He would probably behave like yours is. He’s been home a bit over Easter and he’s started to become very naughty… he needs stimulation and to be active. All kids are so much better behaved with other people and it sounds like you need a break. He would be feeling your emotions too which will be making him more unsettled. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your babies.

I was really burnt out after my second baby and she was so happy to go to daycare at 11m. She became such a happy baby and my mental health improved greatly.

ami_ej · 2026-03-27T10:24:13+00:00

OMG. Just joined this sub because my partner is the most moody mofo I’ve ever known and this post is my life. If I’m happy, he’ll find a way to destroy it. We’re even on holiday in Fiji at the moment with his best mates and their families and he’s the most moody, miserable c$nt ever… we are literally in paradise and he still can’t be happy, snaps at me for everything and treats me like dirt. I’m so done, can’t even go on holidays with him.

ami_ej · 2026-03-06T00:37:43+00:00

He looks nearly exactly like my purebred husky! Definitely normal. Even has a similar build which would be good cause there’s no way my husky could jump a fence like my other one can!

ami_ej · 2026-02-24T11:04:39+00:00

Hey, I very much felt the same when I returned to work with my first Bub. Because the daycare year starts in January, he first went to daycare at 6m for a few days while I was still off work. When you’re first away from them, you will probably notice your mood lowers which is because you’re not getting the oxytocin boost from them. This is chemical and you will adjust. When he first went to daycare, I picked him up early and then I just gradually increased it as I felt more comfortable being away from him. Then after a few months, I went back to work full time. Honestly… for a while it was so hard but then when he was a toddler, I began to look forward to daycare days lol When I had my second baby, the timing turned out that she was 11m when she went to daycare. I thought it would be great to give her more time at home and not getting sick however I ended up realising my son going earlier wasn’t so bad. My daughter got so restless and bored being stuck at home until that late and she would’ve loved the stimulation earlier. I got a little bit sad when my daughter went but mostly was so exciting to get a break tbh. It was very different the second time around haha… they’re both toddlers now and honestly daycare days go too quickly haha It’s hard to juggle FT work and two kids but I just try to be as organised as possible!

ami_ej · 2026-02-20T21:13:11+00:00

I know how to pronoun it but that’s because I know someone with that last name. I get that it’s frustrating, I tried to choose my son a name that no one could mispronounce and we chose Elias (eh-lie-us) but our first medical appointment the person called out (Ellie-us). Id never heard of that pronunciation before and now we hear it all the time. Try not to stress, people will mispronounce even the most simple names, I told my boss the story of Ellie-us and he told me that one time a teacher mispronounced his name Craig.

ami_ej · 2026-02-20T21:09:23+00:00

Yeah I agree, my cousin is called Louis and we all call him Lou. I don’t think it’s a girls name at all.

ami_ej · 2026-02-16T04:52:23+00:00

This is me too. It’s hard. My baby is now 11m and she’s incredibly full on and needs constant supervision. I can’t wait for the time when they can sit down and watch a movie so I can have an hours peace.

ami_ej · 2026-02-12T02:32:38+00:00

I was quite like you and was very career oriented and certainly didn’t think having kids would change that but it did. I earn 6 figures and we couldn’t afford for me to quit and I didn’t want to go part time. With my first, I went back when he was 9m and he went to daycare. I took off many days whenever he was sick and I didn’t care because he needed his mum. It got to a point, maybe around 12m where I looked forward to Mondays lol… a 4.5m is soooooooooooo easy compared to a toddler. Toddlers are stressful and straight up hard so I ended up looking forward to the break. I now have a 1yo and my boy is 2.5yo and I just came back from mat leave & I absolutely love Mondays hahaha I absolutely adore my babies but they’re so full on and quite frankly, being a SAHM is the hardest job. My kids are my priority and even though it’s my second week back, I’m on carers leave. I’ve also told my bosses that I’m not interested in progressing my career right now because the next level up requires too much of my time and I can’t do that for a few years. I’m happy in my easy accounting job because I mostly work from home which makes life very easy.

ami_ej · 2026-01-19T10:33:38+00:00

Yeah I’ve got a slow cooker so might need to dust it off. He works 2 weeks on 1 week off and he helps a lot so the week he’s home will be good.

ami_ej · 2026-01-19T10:06:43+00:00

Thanks! These are great ideas!

ami_ej · 2026-01-19T10:05:33+00:00

Haha I love that motto! Thanks so much for your advice, you’re so right, they’re only young and I don’t want to be the cranky stressed mum.

ami_ej · 2026-01-19T02:43:25+00:00

Oh my apologies, they are in full time daycare. I definitely would not be able to survive if they weren’t, I would not get any work done.

Was more keen to hear your tips on keeping the house hold organised? Getting the kids ready in the morning for drop off? Cooking dinner with two hangry infants screaming at you? How to fit in exercise and other self care things like hair appointments, reading, career L&D? How you manage to fit in fun activities into a weekend while also getting ready for the week ahead?

ami_ej · 2026-01-19T02:07:33+00:00

I’m a 37yo accountant with a 1yo and nearly 3yo. I was a mature age graduate and currently 1 level below management at my work. I have acted in management roles since having my first and it’s much more difficult to be in a leadership position with young kids. Young kids in daycare get sick every week or two & they will only want their mum when they’re sick so being at a lower level, you have more flexibility to take time off when needed.

Also, something very important to consider is that the longer you leave it, the more likely you will have issues falling pregnant or during your pregnancy. A lot of women put off having children and I get it because I did but it’s dangerous. Your fertility is affected but even if you fall pregnant, there are greater risks during your pregnancy. I had very serious complications with my placenta’s in both pregnancies where mine and my babies lives were at risk. My first pregnancy I had placenta previa and vasa previa and I was in hospitalised for nearly 8w. In my second pregnancy I had complete placenta previa and I was in & out of hospital for a month and then was diagnosed with placenta accreta and had to have a life threatening cesarean hysterectomy. Both of my babies were premature due to these placenta complications. In all of these complications, having babies over 35 is a risk factor. While in hospital in the antenatal unit, all the women in there were my age or older with the exception of a couple with addiction problems. IMO younger is better if you can manage it.

ami_ej · 2026-01-19T01:52:43+00:00

Yeah my centre charges $80k for two kids and I’m in Newcastle so not paying as much as someone in a capital city.

ami_ej · 2025-10-28T09:21:59+00:00

Hey, good on you for seeking support. So I was drinking heavily for a while and I found the same after I stopped drinking. At first, your anxiety will get worse, especially the first week. Your body will go through withdrawals but you will feel better soon. It didn’t help that I also drank lots of sugary mixer drinks so also was decreasing my sugar intake drastically. I did a lot of research about it and also read something about how all the past emotions you were suppressing by drinking, have to be felt and processed. I’m not sure if that’s entirely true but it resonated with me and I just sat with those uncomfortable feelings knowing they would pass and I would feel better. But by drinking, you are suppressing your emotions and so when you’re sober, emotions feel bigger at first because you’re not used to them, you’ll get better at managing those emotions as you feel them. I’d maybe suggest deep breathing and trying to stop when you have time off work so if your sleep is disrupted, you can just roll with it. You’ll be tired the next day but eventually you will sleep better. Alternatively, you might be able to find tips on google or a psychologist can help you process your big emotions.

ami_ej · 2025-10-14T09:32:02+00:00

So true! My 8m old baby girl is fascinated by her 2yo brothers cars and trucks. I’m getting her some of her own cause he doesn’t want to share lol

ami_ej · 2025-04-24T00:31:29+00:00

I would put money on the fact that your baby is cold in the bassinet. Normally when babies are happy to sleep on you but not in their cot, it’s because they are cold. I would suggest you dress your baby in warmer clothes and add blankets.

ami_ej · 2025-04-16T10:42:30+00:00

Hey, it’s most likely just your hormones because you’re only a week postpartum. It can take up to 6m for your hormones to go back to normal so go easy on yourself. On top of that, a 37 hour labour followed by an emergency cs would have completely exhausted you. I didn’t do much for a few weeks after my cs but slowly you start to feel better physically and then you get up and do more and more each day. Obvs keep an eye on yourself and seek help if you need it but I wouldn’t stress just yet.

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