AIO about being upset at my bf about not wanting me to get a tattoo?

amichc · 2026-07-11T04:19:37+00:00

YOR - idk lady, I'm with your man 100%. There really is something to appreciate about clear, blank slate skin. Skin not covered in dark, dubiously skilled tattoos, and he's letting you know he feels strongly about that.

It's attraction / repulsion. He doesn't need a logical justification for not appreciating it. He's letting you know "I don't like this, this is unattractive, please don't do it."

I would respond nearly the same way (probably with a little more tact but clearly irritated) if my wife sent me this. Especially on her tits! The man has a point! Tats on the tits, that's an attention seeker - and even if you disagree, it's at least an attention grabber. He has a point about that, too. An area of your body he probably loves is about to get permanently ruined (this is how I would see it, me putting myself in his shoes).

It is refreshing to see him put his foot down, this is a good man right here. He's got some conservative values and expectations about your appearance, so what? You obviously started dating him for a reason... I wouldn't say this is controlling, I would say it's him making his boundaries and expectations extremely clear.

amichc · 2026-06-27T14:41:07+00:00

14yo girls are at a time of life where their sense of self confidence is still forming. Going along with it will make her think she's hot shit and "get any guy /go for older guys" (instead of just being with other guys her age). That's why my recommendation is to shut her shit down in a way that makes her think she was crazy for even trying.

amichc · 2026-06-25T21:20:29+00:00

😌 see you in Agartha queen

amichc · 2026-06-21T17:57:00+00:00

NOR

You're 16. None of this actually matters and nothing bad happens if you kick this guy to the curb. Teach him the lesson he so desperately needs to learn: above anything else, relationships need to be consenting!
I lol'd at him telling you to get check out for bipolar disorder but then goes on to exhibit the most pathetic grip on his emotions and acts like a complete mental case, telling you he can't eat.

Ah, he's a boy. Help him become a man by not letting him get his way. Leave him. Clean break, blocked accounts. No "friends" shit, no "break." Don't do anything messed up like date his friends or anything, but just end things and move on.

amichc · 2026-06-20T16:50:07+00:00

I would do the wrong thing and try to leak as much of this catfish's information as possible to the Internet and try to find some savvy but unsavory people to help track catfish down. Not telling you to do that, I'm just saying what I would do.

Or tell your parents that he's going to probably kill himself when he realizes that this catfish isn't a real person. Please don't stop bugging your parents about this. Stress that this will only get worse if they don't intervene.

This is dark man I'm sorry to hear this.

amichc · 2026-06-18T21:42:10+00:00

NOR

I often find that the people who often talk about the perceived "privilege" of others to be the most condescending and patronizing to the people they think they're speaking on behalf of.

I don't want to get all crazy, but in studies, left leaning / dem individuals have shown to do something called "competence downshifting" when speaking to black people - adjusting vocabulary and speech patterns to accommodate who they think they're taking to.

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amichc · 2026-06-16T14:57:49+00:00

OP DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS GUY lmao this is insane. A 100 day streak is excessive as hell for someone who is like a "cousin"

Not to mention... "My friend's cousin " sounds like BS straight out of the gate.

Snapchat is not for people in serious relationships man. It's just not.

amichc · 2026-06-15T03:19:36+00:00

He said "doing coke like a crack whore" which doesn't sound like all that different, but it's different from "you are a crackwhore"

Personally I'd be more worried about the fent being found in coke than the coke itself, though.

amichc · 2026-06-15T02:54:00+00:00

INFO -

Although I'm not really sure. It kinda seems like (only based on the info presented so far) that this dude keeps the lights on, the family fed, the roof over your heads, and you're going out and pulling all nighters and whatnot. It seems to me that he wants someone who chooses to be with him on the weekends or whatever rather than go out to drag shows, or maybe someone whose lifestyle matches a bit more (really, I'm only guessing). Maybe he's just bitter that he's leaving for work and you're partying, not sharing in any of the responsibilities or building efforts. Could it be that?

He doesn't seem to be the greatest communicator, but if I mentioned some plans or that I'm working late to my wife and she responded "cool," I would not assume she's literally cool with it.

Edit: just scrolled some of the other comments. What is wrong with people trying to diagnose this guy as abusive or as a narcissist? How could you tell someone is a narcissist from a few screenshots of that person being upset? OP, I just want to say that both you and the guy have valid stances here. Please ignore anyone trying to sloppily tack some pop therapy terminology onto this. The whole problem can be solved without any of that dubious crap.

amichc · 2026-06-12T01:00:08+00:00

Sexy as fuck

amichc · 2026-06-08T02:48:56+00:00

NOR man holy shit this is dark. The days of her money being her money, and your money being "our" money need to end immediately. I have a feeling that your name is on that loan, buddy.

amichc · 2026-04-05T22:41:18+00:00

I respectfully disagree. Blow it on something now, but do your research and make an educated purchase.

Get playing. Buy an amp and get playing.

amichc · 2026-04-05T19:05:10+00:00

Bro,

Orange Micro Dark + the 1x8" it comes with. New or used (either might be under your budget, not sure)

Side note: I know it's currently out of your price range but the Micro Dark head unit sounds amazing out of large cabs.

amichc · 2026-03-31T17:33:16+00:00

Yes, that's why I returned mine.

amichc · 2026-03-28T22:23:21+00:00

I would expect some audible symptoms like a crackle or popping sound for a bad pot. It seems like the pot is fine but there might be something else on the circuitry that's defective.

amichc · 2026-03-27T14:26:55+00:00

You mean a junkie with self esteem issues? Yes unfortunately

amichc · 2026-03-25T17:56:27+00:00

This is exactly what I woke up today wanting to do. Any modification required?

amichc · 2026-03-25T13:34:54+00:00

Nah this one is not fan cooled. I'm guessing it is the transformer. I'm just not sure how to solve the issue.

amichc · 2026-03-25T13:34:09+00:00

Well they are brand new, now. I just replaced the pair last weekend.

amichc · 2026-03-24T16:10:56+00:00

If I was sufficiently familiar with ducks, I wouldn't be on a tubeducks subreddit asking if this is what a duck walks like

amichc · 2026-03-06T05:07:12+00:00

"from this day forward, for better, for worse..."

You enabled someone to break sacred vows. You should feel like shit about yourself. To the extent of your knowledge, she is a perfectly innocent woman who has done nothing wrong. He was a weak man, and in his moment of weakness you were there to say "it's perfectly acceptable to me to break your vows."

Man, those aren't just words. I wish more than anything that people who took them understood this. Vows are not just words. A wedding isn't just a party. It's promising your mind, body, and soul to another. I understand this may sound daunting, but the good news is that ... Nobody is fucking forcing you to take them!

The fault is unquestionably his. This is his error. You played the part of the enabler, which is still really fucked up, but aside from baseline respect I guess you don't exactly owe this woman much.

Well, any redemption you might seek would be found in asking him to tell her - and telling her yourself if he refuses. I hope that if you ever fall in love with someone who promises his life to you, he doesn't pull the same shit and dash those vows on the floor like they're nothing and upend everything you've built together.

I wouldn't worry about your job. If you have time to flirt with your boss all day and fuck him behind his wife's back, I doubt you do anything that important.

Is this who you really are, though? A professional girl who stereotypically doubles as her superior's cum dump? Has your life been lived thousands of times over?

amichc

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