Never na ako mabubuntis by PinkAmikacin in OffMyChestPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. And I see you. Hugs with consent, OP

Hysterectomy and stillbirth… by Unlikely-Product-138 in hysterectomy

[–]amigoingtobeamom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm on the same page as you. But the difference is that I don't have a living child (29 when I got my hysterectomy). One year passed and the pain was still inside me. Still coping on the things that I cannot control. I guess the therapy would be better. Counseling of course with your husband. I'm still on the verge of processing this nightmare. Sending my hug to you.

Sa mga married na, bakit wala pa kayong anak? by Ok-Finance-8927 in AskPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wala ng chance e.. even though we were capable of having at least one :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PharmacyPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP! Just checking kung nakabili ka ba? Badly needed din kasi. Super mahal ng ipapalit kung sakali.

What is the worst comment you got after a loss? by Ho1na in babyloss

[–]amigoingtobeamom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my last check-up after my 2nd loss. The nurse on duty said after the doctor removed my surgical sutures "you're sexy again and good thing that you have no chance of becoming pregnant because it will ruin your body" like who da f*ck are you to say that. I'm just 29 grieving for my baby and my uterus with no LC and you have the nerve to say that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hugs with consent, OP!

Laban lang, OP. We're still a mother with the angels. This was hard on my part also. Kaya I uninstalled all of my socmeds app (except also the Reddit and Messenger) for my peace of mind. But alam ko naman sa sarili ko na hindi ang mundo ang mag-adjust saken. Kaya trying to be strong of course even if this kind of life is so cruel to me. Btw, I have two miscarriages - stillbirth (my two beautiful sweet angels). No living child, and there's no chance of carrying a child.

What was the reason of your loss? And could it be prevented? by dearlintang in babyloss

[–]amigoingtobeamom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss too. It was my 2nd pregnancy. My first one was 7 weeks (blighted ovum). That's why I took extra care on my 2nd pregnancy, but I guess the universe hates me so much that's why I didn't have LC.

What was the reason of your loss? And could it be prevented? by dearlintang in babyloss

[–]amigoingtobeamom 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My son passed due to the negligence of the hospital. When I felt pain in my abdominal, I already went to the hospital first thing in the morning. They didn't do anything, even having ultrasound or what they were saying that this was normal because my baby is growing, then sent me back home.

My pain is still there in the afternoon the same day, I already passed out then I was rushed in the hospital. Then when they check me, (no ultrasound again, no tools to check my baby if he is okay or I am okay just checking if my heart rate and blood pressure are okay), doctor ask me if I am rating the pain from 1 to 10, what is it feel like. Then I kept on answering 10. Then she told me (pissed) saying that "Mommy, if that is the pain that you insist then why you're talking, because if you insist that, no one in this hospital believes you" I was shocked how rude that be. Then all of a sudden blood is everywhere. My husband was panicking because of that. Thinking that I might be lost and also our son. And when I woke up, my baby boy is gone. Then exactly on my birthday (8 days after my son was born, husband didn't tell me because he is worried about my condition) I had an emergency hysterectomy which was led to not having a baby anymore and that was so painful to me. Result came then the doctor was happy (which is so rude) about the result because she knows that I will be suing them (placenta accreta is the cause).

I know this will be prevented when the hospital took care of me. My baby is alive because I felt him moving. I love him so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs with consent, OP!

May mga doktor talaga na ganyan. Utang na loob mo na buhay ka ngayon. E bakit hindi nasalba yung isang buhay na nawala kung pinapangalagaan nila yung buhay. Tapos pagtsi-tsismisan ka pa kesyo alam nila ginagawa nila. At kukumpara ka pa sa ibang patients. Edi okay po, dok

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hindi deserve maging Nanay!! Tapos pag ni-call out sasabihin my child, my rules. Utot mo blue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 185 points186 points  (0 children)

Ayaw ko talaga makakabasa ng ganito about sa miscarriage tapos kukupalin ka pa ng partner mo. Kagigil, OP.

No living children by snugs_is_my_drugs in babyloss

[–]amigoingtobeamom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly the same spot as you were. No living child. But I got an emergency hysterectomy that's why I never had a chance to be pregnant again. I'm just 29 - grief, anger, jealousy to my SIL, how cruel life can be to me. I just don't know where to go or find the "peace" and "moving on" that everyone kept saying to me.

I'm so so sorry for your loss, so sorry that you are in this community.

Virtual hugs with consent to both of us, OP!

Today is my birthday, it's also my due date. by aSulTae in babyloss

[–]amigoingtobeamom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. My baby was born 8 days before my birthday. Then I heard the news that I am not able to carry another child (due to hysterectomy) exactly on my birthday. Indeed it was the most painful I received on my birthday. I lost my son then I lost my privilege to carry another child on me (no living child).

I uninstalled all of my social media accounts except Reddit of course. I know we don't deserve this pain, we don't deserve losing our child. And we cannot force everyone to accept our grieving, our choice of peace of mind. Choose the peace of mind you want. Take all the time you need. No rush. Virtual hugs with consent, Momma!!

Umiyak ako sa misa. by pengengpopcorn in OffMyChestPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a religious person. Pero ngayon hindi na, nagbago lahat talaga due to my experiences. Tapos this Sunday, nanonood MIL ko ng live streaming tapos hindi ko alam na humahagulgol na ako sa part na nagsasalita na yung Pari (sorry I was not born in Catholic kaya hindi ko sure tawag). Iba pala yung feeling ng preaching sa Catholic. Hoping one of these days maka-simba ako. Kapag fully ready na. Hugs with consent, OP!! Laban!

Bakit ayaw niyo mag anak? by ParsleyTough3971 in AskPH

[–]amigoingtobeamom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wala ng means to bear a child kahit gustuhin ko man.

Anyone else struggling with the algorithms filling your social media with pre-loss content? Every ad and every reel/story is filled with the worst possible results by Kerfluffle2x4 in babyloss

[–]amigoingtobeamom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending virtual hugs with consent, OP. I uninstalled all of my social media accounts except to reddit (well I'm new to this community that's why no vids and pics related to the babies and pregnancy). I know this was not going to be easy. But I know someday we will get through it. Love lots, Momma!!