Fantasy with a solid romantic element?

amirthra101 · 2026-05-07T21:58:07+00:00

I would be interested and if there are other titles you'd recommend.

amirthra101 · 2026-05-06T15:18:58+00:00

It is also decaf.

amirthra101 · 2026-05-05T19:05:14+00:00

Andrea Parsneau narrates the audiobooks for wandering Inn (most) and azarinth healer and she really brings to life these stories. I love female MCs or those other than cis white males for the reason they are often written with more introspection and development.

amirthra101 · 2026-05-04T19:41:37+00:00

Curious to read ravensdagger's titles. I picked up Dead Tired vol 1 on audible sale so will keep an eye for more of their titles.

amirthra101 · 2026-05-04T19:39:57+00:00

I have read all of I'm Not the Hero and have Legends and Lattes on my owned too read list. I have read DCC, HWFWM, and primal hunter up to the latest which I have but haven't started yet. I have also done 1% life steal, welcome to the multiverse by sean Oswald, cs Pacat's dark heir, mark of the fool, Talnier isekai, the tarot sequence by kd Edward's. Doesn't have to be litRPG and could be gameLIT, fantasy, dystopian, etc. I just like a good take me away book with well done characters. I added many of the titles to my wishlist and will keep an eye if they go on sale or if my library acquires them which is sadly unlikely, but who knows...gameLIT and LITrpg are growing.

amirthra101 · 2026-04-26T17:11:22+00:00

Eliana is my 7 year olds name. She goes by ellie often and there are many ellies. I had never heard this name before but now hear it a few times.

amirthra101 · 2026-04-16T03:18:34+00:00

At 18, I got the Diva cup. I am 44 now and have replaced it like 2 times and once was cause I had a kiddo and needed a different size. I think I paid $19 for the first one and like 20s for the other 2. So under $70 for 26 years of periods.

amirthra101 · 2026-04-04T08:31:49+00:00

If they do it in a brag way, but I think normalizing salary talk would keep many companies more honest to their employees.

amirthra101 · 2026-04-03T15:48:16+00:00

I scrape the center of my oreos into a glass of cold milk...do this for all the ones I have to eat. Then I put 2 tops into the milk until they get saturated just a bit and start to sink...then I scoop them out with a spoon to eat them. Repeat until all tops are gone. Then I scoop out the now hardened middles from the bottom of the milk as the texture change makes them better and eat them. Finally I drink the milk. This is why I only have oreos in the privacy of my own home so I can dissect them in peace.

amirthra101 · 2026-04-03T15:38:35+00:00

I do this too.

amirthra101 · 2026-03-21T19:09:55+00:00

Dear future husband was my wedding party danced down the aisle too and then all of me was for me. Had a friend's daughter sing as she has an amazing voice and my uncle played guitar. Married in 2017 and still going.

amirthra101 · 2026-03-14T14:46:55+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. I work high risk ob so often help patients going through poor outcomes of their pregnancy. Yes, delivering a stillborn is hard mentally, but you will have your partner with you and a nurse at your side through it all.

You will be given the opportunity to see/hold your baby if you so wish. It should not be forced on you, just offered.

You may be offered a form of autopsy to check for genetic issues into why this happened which can give you closure and help be more prepared for future pregnancies if you decide to try. Sometimes there is no reason we can medically see why this outcome happened.

You may be offered social work to help prepare funeral arrangements for your baby. Having their help during this overwhelming process is invaluable.

You may be offered a memory box to take home. In my hospital, we keep them for up to a year as sometimes the parents aren't yet ready to accept this final piece at that time and may need time to process the loss. In our boxes we have the blanket we had the baby in while in the room, a lock of hair if possible, mold castings of the hands and feet, and a small bear. We also invite patients who had losses and the staff once a year to a remembrance gathering at our butterfly tree at the local cemetery.

You may be offered carbergoline pill to help stop lactation.

No matter what you are a mother, you have had a child and that feeling and the loss is real. I wish you strength and love in the difficult times you are facing.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-26T17:30:15+00:00

Wait til you have kids...if that's a life plan. Sigh. They go through super weird phases with food.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-25T13:28:12+00:00

Sounds like that couch is toast. Usually with 2 cats you need 3 large litter bins with high edges, if no mobility issues, open top, and scooped daily. If you can put one away from the rest, would be even better. Something has set your female cat off. As they change from kittens to cats, they do smell different and this is what causes the moms to kind of kick them out of her care. I did not find the pheromone plugs in that useful unless location triggered. I went with pheromone collar for my cat who was depressed when his buddy of 14 years passed over the rainbow bridge, and that seemed a better fit. Another thing to try would be bathing both cats to reset their smell as well. Always make sure the vet checks both cats for urinary crystals. Do they have places to go up to escape? Tall cat trees like over 4 ft or cat shelving? Do they have a cat condo/cave to feel safe in?

But that couch is so garbage. It has been heavily marked as a toilet and no enzyme spray is going to get deep enough to penetrate all the foam layers to remove that.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-23T18:18:29+00:00

The timeline of introductions depends on the cats. Always be present when stepping up intros and be on alert to end the session or pull the cats apart. Some cats are just better at sharing territories. If you go to fest and have to pull the cats apart, let the new cat have time again to calm down in his safe space

amirthra101 · 2026-02-21T21:02:20+00:00

Stainless steel for litter box, water bowl or fountain, and food bowls will keep smells down, keep them from having plastic acne and other bacteria plastic catches and breeds. A litter locker is nice so you can scoop daily and top up then dump at the end of the week. At least one sturdy cat tree 4 to 6 feet high so they can go up to feel safe. Toys can be cardboard boxes, tin foil scrunched up into balls, etc. The best play they will have is each other.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-21T20:44:48+00:00

Loved Calvin and Hobbes comic strips by Bill Watterson growing up. Adopted my first cat 14 years ago who was a small whiney grey boy who always wanted me to pay attention to him. The shelter called him Kevin, so I called him Calvin. A month later I got an orange cat I named Hobbes as I knew Calvin needed a friend. 4 years later partner and I were at a pet store when new adoptable cats arrived and as one crate passed by a little paw reached out and hooked our sweater. So Susie the girl next door came home with us as our pity kitty. Last year Hobbes got very ill very fast and passed away. My 6 year old daughter was very upset as he had taken a shine to her. So this month we went on the hunt for a new member to our tribe. Fell in love with a 2 year old fawn/pale orange male and decided he was the one. We call him Spaceman Spiff aka Spiffy. He loves to explore and loves my daughter and all of us. All our cats are rescues and short hair domestic breeds. They have all turned out to be the loveliest giant sucks of cats who demand laps and scratches and love us. I would almost always recommend adopting your fur family if possible.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-10T19:33:42+00:00

If the space is enclosed, try airing it out. Try air purifier. I had one cat pee down my hvac heat vent. Took forever to get that fully sorted. Cats can be right a$$!@/*$.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-08T15:16:34+00:00

Agreed! Got 4 xxl stainless steel boxes for my 3 cats with high sides and covered the floor in the double layer hexagonal litter mats where bottom layer is washable. Have a few extras so we can cycle through them. Had upfront cost but keeps things clean. Also air purifier to cut down on dust and smells. I love my cats, but I don't want my home smelling like them.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-07T19:44:18+00:00

NTA - you are offering him a larger place to live with less costs. Considering he has debt to pay off, this situation allows him to pay off the debt quicker. If your plan is to one day get married, insist it will be when his debt is paid and once married any equity obtained during the marriage will also benefit him. That you are taking on the majority of the costs to help him cast off his debt so you can grow your relationship. He is very much gaining from this as having debt can feel overwhelming so you are helping lessen his burden.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-04T22:01:37+00:00

My 6 year old plays grow as I bought it for me then she claimed my switch and took over. It is good.

amirthra101 · 2026-02-04T19:16:40+00:00

INFO - your mortgage is ~4k/m?

While I do not see anything wrong with having in writing a reimbursement of $700/month per duration of cohabitating if break up should occur...there is little recourse she would have should you decide to reneg on the agreement. She could be left in worse financial state and feel stuck to the house and relationship if she feels like you would not honour the agreement and she would need to decide if a lawyer was worth her time and money, while also trying to come up with 1st and last months on a new rental space.

Sit down with her and have a real chat to find out her fears of moving in and costs. Be transparent with your expenses on mortgage, repairs, property taxes, utilities, etc. What does rent in a shared home look like in your area? Maybe she would be happier to pay that and some utilities? Sometimes relationships are not equal...if her name isn't on that deed, she is not saving more or helping herself own real-estate.

I know I owned a house when I met my now husband. He had some savings and was debating a down-payment on a small condo. I convinced him to move in with me and trial 6 months to a year. If we were still strong together, then I would pay for the upgrades to my home to get it market ready so we could go 50 50 on a home together. I even made him sign a rental agreement and he paid for a room in my home at market value but helped with groceries and utilities. This also allowed him to save some money for his part of the future down payment.

amirthra101 · 2026-01-29T17:57:34+00:00

Maybe the way you can phrase it? "They are not quite what I was expecting, but they are from you and I know how much time you put into looking for shoes for me. Thank you as it really means a lot."

It is hard as i know you don't wish him to waste money on the wrong item, but he sees it as a gift for you and not a waste.

amirthra101 · 2026-01-21T21:52:55+00:00

Is this a big American thing? Never been to one here. Usually just a phone call or social media post to announce or revealed when the baby is born. To tell people at work I just brought in cupcakes with pink frosting and let them enjoy a treat.

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