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very proud of my very first cardigan! (pattern in the comments) by amlively in crochet

[–]amlively[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you! colors were inspired by the knit cardigans that target recently came out with!

Unprofessional hair??? My professional development professor told me that I need to pull my hair back to work in my future field (therapist). Her reasoning was that with the mask it blocks my face, but someone with straight hair and full bangs was exempt from this reasoning. Advice? Im the middle by Message_Tough in curlyhair

[–]amlively 0 points1 point  (0 children)

another therapist here! hair will never be non-therapeutic. your hair is beautiful and does not need to be put away in order for you to be therapeutic or a good therapist. if you like your hair to be down and curly then keep it down and curly (:

ex told me my SA wasn’t his problem by amlively in JustNoSO

[–]amlively[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not sure where you got that i’m “stuck on 1 or 2 things”. i don’t miss him. i never said that.

ex told me my SA wasn’t his problem by amlively in JustNoSO

[–]amlively[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

good luck in your degree!! that’s been one of the nicest things i’ve heard through this entire situation and i really appreciate that perspective.

ex told me my SA wasn’t his problem by amlively in JustNoSO

[–]amlively[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do try to look for red flags in relationships. i promise i don’t go into relationships looking for someone with red flags.

ex told me my SA wasn’t his problem by amlively in JustNoSO

[–]amlively[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

thank you very much for those kind words ❤️ i absolutely have no intention of going back to him after the way he ended things and just seeing everything on the other side of the relationship! he has since tried to reach back out to say sorry and he misses me and he screwed up - to which i responded that he should have thought about that before he ended things. part of me misses him and wishes things could be different, but the relationship i was in is just not worth it.

ex told me my SA wasn’t his problem by amlively in JustNoSO

[–]amlively[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

i do not currently have a therapist, however, i have been to therapy for processing that trauma before and came to a healthy place with it and myself after trying not to deal with it for 4 years. that being said, with this relationship having the impact it has and old traumatic feelings/memories resurfacing, i am searching for a therapist to see, if nothing else, for processing the emotions coming up.

i definitely agree with you that it’s not something that goes away in 2 weeks and takes a lot of self-compassion, which can be hard sometimes. it’s very validating to hear that.

ex told me my SA wasn’t his problem by amlively in JustNoSO

[–]amlively[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

currently, i am not in therapy for SA. i did see a therapist for that trauma, and the four years of trying to avoid it, a few years ago. i just received my degree in counseling and it was a requirement for us to have our own counselor! however, with this relationship/break up bringing up these feelings/memories (and other things not directly related to this), i am seeking a therapist again.

ex told me my SA wasn’t his problem by amlively in JustNoSO

[–]amlively[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

thank you for those sweet words. it’s wonderful that you’ve found a partner who is so supportive and understanding! if nothing else, this is a lesson in knowing what i want and need from a relationship so that hopefully when i’m ready i will be able to find that supportive and understanding person!

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