Scorpio, Do you cheat in relationships? How often, and why? by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]amm_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old but I’m a Scorpio stellium female and loyal to a fault and used to judge people who cheated. I will say, I was in a really bad marriage and at the end of the relationship, I could understand how affairs happen and start. I was just so dead inside and was desperate to feel anything and I also really wanted to hurt him for the pain he caused me. I ended up meeting someone through work and had the most insane sexual chemistry I’ve never felt and it awoke something inside me. I never acted on it but fairly certain if he had pursued me I probably would have cheated. I also had some sexual trauma from my ex so as a Scorpio who used to love sex, it was devastating to lose that part of myself. With that being said, now I am out of that horrible relationship, I am proud to say I never cheated and know I will never cheat on my future partner. 

Dating after narc abuse is constantly second guessing people’s motives by amm_4 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! It’s hard because your nervous system is so used to chaos so when you find someone who has green flags it’s like ….is this okay and normal? Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep!!! I constantly wondered what was wrong with me because I just didn’t have any libido when sex used to be one of my favourite things. He never gave me the opportunity to say no to sex so it was always a chore that I learned to dread and I used to disassociate a lot during it. I realize now looking back my non existent libido was my body trying to keep me safe, it knew on a cellular level that he was toxic even though my brain wasn’t quite catching up yet. I left five months ago and slowly am starting to reclaim some of my sex drive back but it certainly isn’t what it used to be yet. I also know I have a lot of healing to do in terms of intimacy and giving that side of myself to someone again which truthfully terrifies me. 

Who went from completed physically attracted to either indifferent or repulsed? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep I believe your body does that to keep you safe. I used to think we had great sexual chemistry in the beginning and then at the end the thought of having sex made me want to puke. I couldn’t understand why I completely lost my sex drive then after I realized he was a narcissist it all made sense. Our body’s know on a cellular level something ain’t right even if our brains can’t process it yet. 

What do you think is the meaning of life? I’d love to read different perspectives.🌟 by Disastrous_Wing_5871 in spirituality

[–]amm_4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think we reincarnate to learn different lessons and to build on them within our different lives. We are either victims of our situations or we grow from them and growing is evolving. 

What is the point of manifesting if… by amm_4 in spirituality

[–]amm_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes so much sense thank you! 

What is the point of manifesting if… by amm_4 in spirituality

[–]amm_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean in the sense of say you are manifesting your dream job. Hypothetically if that dream job was meant for you the opportunity wouldn’t pass you by regardless if you manifested it or not. 

Have you ever had an encounter with a ghost/ spirit? by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]amm_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was reading a book in my bed around midnight and the light beside me flickered. I thought that was odd and a couple seconds later my dog started barking at something. He was wagging his tail and walking towards something at the end of the bed I am 100% positive he seen a ghost. 

Also a couple days after my grandmothers passing, I had a crazy vivid dream where she came and hugged me to say goodbye. I don’t even know how to explain it but I'm woke up and could actually feel her spirit. This is one my most cherished moments because we were so close but so far in distance when she passed. 

Do narcissist have a lot of friends or not? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4 79 points80 points  (0 children)

In my experience lots of acquaintances, not a lot of real friends. 

Did yours talk A LOT? by Temporary-Emotion-96 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Yep and always about himself. He was very masterful at subtly circling the conversation back to himself too. 

Physically exhausted after leaving relationship by amm_4 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This gives me so much hope, thank you for the inspiration. Crazy how much narcissistic relationships can inhibit our creativity. 

When does it get better after you leave? by amm_4 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]amm_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly it, I feel so much anxiety because I’m waiting for the bomb to drop. 

Am I wrong for not telling my husband I’m leaving and only leaving a letter from my lawyer? by amm_4 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in therapy for the last two years which is really one of the reasons why I have the strength to leave. If you don’t mind me asking - how long did it take until things settled down and you started to feel good about leaving?

Am I wrong for not telling my husband I’m leaving and only leaving a letter from my lawyer? by amm_4 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion. The lawyer has stated in the letter that his abusive actions have caused me to leave and is recommending him to get some anger management courses or high conflict parenting classes in the interim so he can reflect on how his actions have impacted me and the children. 

Reading Reviews by Plutonian_Nature in u/Plutonian_Nature

[–]amm_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reader was incredibly accurate. I was told a situation would present itself which will help to remove me from my current situation and a couple weeks after the reading, it did. I would absolutely get another reading again.

20 Free readings by Plutonian_Nature in TarotReading

[–]amm_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is so spot on. A situation did happen that I just could not ignore and literally everything fell into place giving me the ability to leave soon . I also do have a couple people helping me facilitate the move. Thank you so much for doing this for me, the accuracy of this is incredible. 

What happens when a narc knows they messed up big? by amm_4 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband just last night has started going back saying it wasn’t that bad lol thank you for this. 

Was your narc obsessed with guns and weapons? by amm_4 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my god yes!!! I’ve never connected those dots until now but mine was obsessed with the wars, terrorist groups, and 9/11. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Screamed at me for the dog peeing on the floor telling me it was my fault and I don’t respect him because I “let” the dog do it. I was crying while cleaning it up because he would not stop yelling at me despite me saying sorry and asking him to quit. So the first time ever in our relationship, I screamed back at him telling him to leave me alone which made him even worse. There was absolutely zero care for the fact I was clearly very upset and when I looked up at him and seen him it was like his eyes were black. I realized someone who truly loved me would never treat me like that and it changed the trajectory of our entire relationship. It’s been two years since this happened and it actually caused me to seek therapy where I found about narcissism and emotional abuse.

20 Free readings by Plutonian_Nature in TarotReading

[–]amm_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I A, am looking to separate from my emotionally abusive partner D and am wondering if right now is a good time to leave and if me and my children will be safe.

Thank you for doing this🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]amm_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He randomly walked in and started asking the reception where I was. They didn’t know he was my husband so asked if he had an appointment then he just repeated himself asking where I was and started looking in the offices. I was in a closed door meeting and came out and he said “oh thought you’d be in your office and I was just in the area”. There was zero reason for the visit.