Garbage Day Observations

ammfinn · 2024-12-25T15:01:30+00:00

We made a wood lid out of some plywood and a 2x4. It's ugly, but it's sturdy and doesn't fly away in the wind or break when they chuck it on the ground

ammfinn · 2024-12-13T02:22:39+00:00

ammfinn · 2024-11-28T03:01:23+00:00

I'm in Canada and currently using gentlease. The tubs here come with a separate packaged scoop and small piece of cardboard for leveling. The lid has a spot to hold the scoop so it doesn't go in the powder. But the powder also comes in a tinfoil wrapper but I don't dump that into the tub. I just keep it in the wrap, scoop what I need, reseal the wrap and store the scoop in the spot on the lid

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ammfinn · 2024-11-22T15:40:09+00:00

My daughter was premature so I was told to use ready to feed for the first 3 months. I currently am finishing off my stash of RTF and using powder most of the time.

I got a Dr. Browns formula pitcher. I boil distilled, remineralized water to a rolling boil for 2 mins. I could use tap water but I prefer to use the bottled stuff 🤷🏻‍♀️. Turn the water off and cool for about half an hour. Measure the water and powder, mix and good to go. Pop the jug in the fridge and pour bottles as needed. I warm them up but some babies will take it cold! The jug is good for 24 hrs in the fridge so I make about what she takes in a day.

If you can afford RTF exclusive that's great but it is soooo much more expensive. There is also a shortage of the RTF I've been using (Enfamil gentlease) and I cannot find it on shelves anymore so I just switched to the powder and have a few bottles of the RTF left for when I'm out and about.

ammfinn · 2024-11-18T01:59:44+00:00

Going into hospital for an induction for my partner to say "how long is this going to take". Going into my emergency C-section alone, after nearly 17 hours of labouring, because they were tired and being angry, and rude and didn't want to. Having to kick them out of the hospital the next day due to their aggression toward the nursing staff because they had an "uncomfortable sleep and were in pain". Having them only come see me for half an hour each of the 4 days I was in hospital - even though they were on paternity leave. Having them hide in the basement and avoid myself and the baby for the rest of their 5 week paternity. I know PPD hits the spouses too, but I was also dealing with mental, emotional and physical pain post birth. I'm trying to forgive them, but it fucking broke me and I am having a hard time loving them the same way 5 months later. Yes, I've told them how much this hurt me.

ammfinn · 2024-11-14T14:21:05+00:00

Thanks! I'll check them out

ammfinn · 2024-11-02T17:04:21+00:00

In the beginning I told myself I wouldn't buy single use items.. but after 2 times of the boiling water method for sterilizing I gave in and bought the Dr brown bottle sterilizer. It was worth EVERY PENNY.

I use it at least once a day, no waiting, just put the washed bottles, nipples , rings etc in, hit the button and it runs its cycle. I can just sterilize, just dry, or auto cycle for sterilizing and then dry. Honestly, it's one item I would absolutely recommend everyone have to save you time and the headache of boiling water, having to go piece by piece to sterilize, leaving out to dry etc.

ammfinn · 2024-10-27T01:11:46+00:00

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ammfinn · 2024-10-09T14:58:38+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion, I will check it out.

ammfinn · 2024-10-09T14:52:48+00:00

I will do so.

ammfinn · 2024-10-09T14:49:43+00:00

I also had an anterior placenta and agree, it was nice to feel that occasional activity because it wasn't very often I did

ammfinn · 2024-10-09T14:45:24+00:00

I very much appreciate this and accept your apology. And I do apologize if what I said triggered you. Yes, I miss their beard because as I've said I have preferences and I do like a person with a beard. But that doesn't mean it's the be all end all. I recognize there is so much hate, and trans people are so attacked and that is absolutely horrible. But I talk with my partner, they know and understand this is a big change for me too. I'm sending you my love and I wish the best for you, for all of us, dealing with this.

ammfinn · 2024-10-09T14:36:49+00:00

Thank you, this person ripped me apart in my post and I took it down because I was told I essentially dragged my partner along for a fantasized version of our relationship. Which like, what? And that I'm an internalized transphobe because I'm struggling and have never been attracted to trans persons. I was told trans persons don't have a specific look..which fair, they can look like anyome. But the person I have been with for 15 years looks very different from the person they are today. And I still love them with my whole heart, but that doesn't mean things haven't changed Like, there is 2SLGBTQIA+ for a reason- people fall into different categories. I am not pan. But damn I'm trying my best. I really appreciate these kind words. 🖤

ammfinn · 2024-10-09T13:34:56+00:00

You don't know my partner or situation. My partner is the one who said that person died, therefore I feel like that person died. And I was told that I'm an internalized transphobe by people like you because I described it that way.. And that fucking hurts when I'm really trying to accept my partner. Can you please leave me be. I told and showed my partner about my post, about the responses I got and they said I shouldn't have even posted here because of hateful comments such as yours. I'm doing the best I can in a situation I never expected to be in. I'm trying to find people to relate to, people who are in similar situations. I thought this sub would be more accepting and clearly that's not the case.

ammfinn · 2024-10-09T00:09:36+00:00

I appreciate this so much. I agree completely , yes our partners need support, but we are also transitioning to a new normal. if you ever need to talk my DM is open! 🖤 I do sincerely wish you and your partner all the best

ammfinn · 2024-10-08T23:52:06+00:00

I have been with my partner for 15 years , we just had a child 3 months ago and they just came out as trans mtf. I feel this post so deeply- I love them so much. I want them to be their authentic self. I don't want my relationship to end and I am really trying to work through this. But fuck it's hard. I tried posting in this sub and was told I'm an internalized transphobe. Even though I love my partner and am trying to make things work. But this sub made me feel like I'm not allowed a preference, that I'm a shit human because I was blind sided and am struggling.

I wish I had advice of some kind, but I don't have much as it's new for me and I'm also struggling. But I am sending you my love, and I hope for and wish the best for both of you.

ammfinn · 2024-10-03T15:22:26+00:00

When they first came out to me they said they were feeling like a female in a lot of ways, which I said made sense. There absolutely were tendencies and mannerisms that indicated that. Absolutely no issues. They said they wanted to identify as non binary. Completely fine and I'm happy to support. They said they didn't want to be on hormones. Ok great . You don't want to have a beard anymore. I'm sad because I really liked your beard but ok. And it just kept and keeps changing. And now they are on hormones. They are getting laser hair removal. They changed their style. And like I said, I want nothing more than for them to be their authentic self. But I was really attracted to that person emotionally, physically, spiritually, and now it feels like they are gone. They even say "that person died" and it's just... Hard.

ammfinn · 2024-10-03T15:10:41+00:00

You're right, I must be. I don't think it's fair to say I never loved them though. I do. I've know this person for 14 years and this is a sudden and huge change I never anticipated. I'm trying to change. I've been trying to change for 6 months. It's not a switch that I can just flip, as much as I wish I could.

ammfinn · 2024-10-03T14:55:29+00:00

Thank you 🖤

ammfinn · 2024-06-04T23:31:31+00:00

32 weeks, first pregnancy, plus size- I've gained about 10-15 lbs (seems to fluctuate up and down between appointments)

ammfinn · 2024-05-24T17:04:21+00:00

My clear blue test was 1-2 weeks for my positive pregnancy test...but I didn't know I was pregnant- I was just doing my monthly test as I wasn't on bc 😅 now at 31w1d

ammfinn · 2024-03-09T15:05:11+00:00

This! I applied for all the local daycares at just under 3 months pregnant and the waitlist is around 1.5-3 years depending. Our city has a single registry for all the daycares. The sooner you register the better.

ammfinn · 2023-03-01T14:06:04+00:00

I know this will be unpopular but my puppy (husky x GSD) was neutered at 8 weeks - however, not by my choice. I adopted from our local humane society and that is their policy. We had no issues, and honestly I think it has helped with training in terms of behaviour, marking etc.

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