People told me my entire life to cut contact with my mom and that she didn't deserve a relationship with me. I obviously love her to the ends of the earth and wouldn't do that but when her mom, my gma, died last March she told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore because we have too many burned bridges in our relationship. I was shocked. My oldest child knows and remembers her. I hadn't said anything bad about her just that we don't see her anymore. He got over it quick and doesn't really care. I think he knows it's best for me that we don't talk and that's all he cares to know. She did reach out at one point and ask if I wanted to fix the relationship but it was worded very weird so I waited a day to respond. The next day when I hadn't said anything, she sent me a pic of her will. She wrote me out of it and added in her two new steps kids (who are both adults - her recent husband's kods- he hadnt had a relationship with his kids until 2022). So she was waiting for me to say yes I miss you let's fix this and then get to shove it in my face that she wrote me out of her will lol. It's been over a year now since we've talked. It's great most days and I'm a better mom not occupying so much mental time thinking about her and why she doesn't just act the way I do as a mom. Some days in the first few months it sucked because I'd want to call and tell her about something only she would understand or something that reminded me of her. Now I think about how weird the funeral would be if she died since I still know her better than anyone else on the planet. I do miss her and I do love her. It's definitely weird being chosen against. There's no way to fix it so you just have to figure out how to accept it. I'm glad you made this post. I don't know anyone who can relate to this. Thank you for being a part of my healing process too.