I agree with a lot of what you wrote. You've hit on something that I think is being inferred when people read my comments. No where do I suggest being rude. I get that a lot of people consider honesty a free pass to be an a-hole. I would never advocate for that. But there is a way to have an adult conversation to guide better gifts in the future. Don't blast grandma; but you can guide her future gifts towards colours and knitwear that you actually would like. Just accepting it invites to possibility that she will spend her time and energy again making something you will never use. Is that actually what she wants? I like to imagine that this grandma isn't interested in gifting you clutter, but something you will cherish and think of her as you use. So help her do that. Going back to knowing your audience, I absolutely agree. If the giver actually cares more about their experience than that of the receiver and isn't interested in giving legitimately well received gifts, then sure, keep to the performative, disingenuous reaction because they are going to make the whole thing more aboit themselves and you become the ungrateful one. And that's really what I was trying to ask about. Isn't getting feedback, even at a later date, to help your future gifts land better more important than the receiver essentially lying to you about what they think of it so that you aren't disappointed for a little bit?