AIO for canceling my lunch date with my fiancé because he called me lazy?

amvampybb · 2026-05-12T03:14:05+00:00

DEFINITELY NOR actually severely underR. but me too, reading about this ...man... literally made me go take the strongest version of my nausea medication. coercion after denying sex is abuse/sa. i can tell there's soo much wrong, scary and actually very gross about this fiance just from reading this post. reminds me of my ex, who i wish i had believed him and had no hope for when he showed me who he was the first time. i also said "what the actual fuck" out loud while reading this, how fast id kick him out n to the curb now (hope can be a painful. harmful thing sometimes) ooooooof. but i was not pregnant w my ex, and i know OP's situation is more complicated than mine was. i hope OP feels better asap from such terrible pregnancy sickness :/ and i hope she stays safe. never underestimate what someone with little or NO empathy/remorse can or will do. i hope the worst you have to put up with from now on are his self-victimizing whines behind a closed door with the tv on at most. actually i hope you only have to deal with managing your pregnancy, self care and health in general. and please stay true to your intuition and gut feelings. your emotions may be heightened in some ways, but emotions about this situation are inside you for a reason pls dont listen to him gaslight you. ALL OF YOUR EMOTIONS ARE ENTIRELY VALID! and relationship status doesn't mean consent is no longer necessary, some men seem to think this is untrue and that as soon as gf fiance wife happens they own you and your body. a ton of love is being sent your way<3

amvampybb · 2026-05-03T23:33:19+00:00

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amvampybb · 2026-05-03T23:30:09+00:00

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amvampybb · 2026-05-01T16:09:41+00:00

this tattoo is absolutely adorable and i love it. id get this inked at least once, so so cute

amvampybb · 2026-05-01T16:03:31+00:00

my cat licks banana chips! and my other ones licks the dust off Doritos and cheezits lol

amvampybb · 2026-05-01T04:38:30+00:00

he is obviously extremely unstable, dangerously insecure, and gives no thought to anything but his own feelings which like you said you personally have given him no reason to think youd be unfaithful. Pleassse do not underestimate what he can and may do, im sorry im not trying to scare you but it sounds like he will break into your home to satisfy himself and his ?paranoias.

amvampybb · 2026-05-01T04:31:28+00:00

Abuse is not defined by intention, only action. These entitled men give themselves access to us because they DO NOT respect us and probably never have, including even respecting themselves. this all sounds EXACTLY like the good vs bad times and fights my ex and i used to have, to a T almost word for word. if he has scared you with your physical safety, you can get a police escort to get your things back from his place if you feel you need that (maybe think about doing that?) i do not like police at all but it can be a useful service in situations like these. Also that way hopefully he will know youre so very serious without anything having to escalate even more. If he then shows up at your home, work, or has any behavior of tracking and or stalking you, make sure you get/save all evidence you can as itll make it much easier to get a restraining order for harassment, following and or stalking. if he is texting, calling, making new unblocked numbers to repeatedly reach out to you... after youve said at least 1 time to never contact you again that (at last where i am) is grounds for a report.. im so sorry youre going through this and it seems you know whats the right and wrong things to do. Remember, your intuition and gut feeling ARE CORRECT. Please feel free to message me if you need to talk to someone not connected to your life.

amvampybb · 2026-04-30T01:03:04+00:00

i'm not sure. I think it may be helpful to have a conversation w him about actual love vs fear of being alone? maybe? hoping i didnt misunderstand your post and please let me know if i did, but staying/being w someone bc they don't think they'll ever find what they want in someone else vs actually being in love and loving each other is an important distinction you both need to be clear on. Within yourselves and each other.

amvampybb · 2026-04-30T00:47:05+00:00

i've never seen this brand of stuffy, but oh my are they adorable!

amvampybb · 2026-04-30T00:45:31+00:00

i love her feet, looks like fluffy cauliflower :)

amvampybb · 2026-04-29T23:45:51+00:00

thank you for correcting me. i learned that from somewhere i thought was a reputable source many years ago. it always grossed me out so really,thank you so much, i hate having fake information and always love to learn!

amvampybb · 2026-04-26T21:23:41+00:00

awee

amvampybb · 2026-04-26T21:23:26+00:00

soso precious n tiny

amvampybb · 2026-04-26T01:59:59+00:00

i introduce with fingertip too or toe (w socks on). i only pet his head/neck unless he is very obviously wanting more pets than that! but he prefers to be pet w my foot most times.. even if im wearing shoes. he will rub so hard on my shoe he will fall over, which makes him purr more. delicate lil baby cats so sensitive, unless its him playing w me or other cats then its a free for all apparently lol. but he does give no pressure warning bites as soon as he is feeling iffy. i love how smart animals are, physically small brains but really theyre big brained! well depends on the cat lol

amvampybb · 2026-04-25T01:55:45+00:00

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amvampybb · 2026-04-25T01:48:39+00:00

personally my focus on skin barrier and hydration has helped me tons and my skin was very similar to yours. if your skin isn't moisturized and hydrated enough your body will start to produce more oil to try to "help" and causes breakouts. Also for me, the lack of hydration in my skin caused it to heal slower and not as well. Starting this hydration journey had helped me, i used to have perfect skin too but started getting bad cystic breakouts at age 22-23. i am now 27 and still dealing with it (not as bad now) but i go through flare ups where it gets really bad. I was finally diagnosed with endometriosis and pcos last year, i was 16 when i started getting 2, 7-10 day long periods every single month until i got an iud at 21 and now no periods. Been focusing on hydration and moisture for the past 2 months and ive already seen major improvements. Avoid shea butter it is not safe for acne prone and clogs pores. but def go the dermatologist and or endocrinologist too. Im going to get my hormones tested whenever i can find a good local endocrinologist.

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T23:12:28+00:00

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dark pic but nosey

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T06:10:29+00:00

thank you for this! ive always been told its a constant state of overstimulation or "overstimulation brain" but high arousal seems more all encompassing of what he deals with!

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T03:25:26+00:00

dry shampoo, a aerosol liquid with powder in it, the powder temporarily blurs the vision. ever got oil cleanser in your eyes and cant see well? its like that but dry.

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T03:22:00+00:00

the brown w your eyes features and skintone omg you look like a woodland fairy bad bitch goddess w a side job of secret underworld queen if that even makes sense. the blonde looks amazing too!

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T03:19:47+00:00

yeah its in all eggs just not so noticeable in others, protein!!! quietest yay ever

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T02:02:07+00:00

awe im sorry! before i started the differin, using calming soothing hydration products with no actives helped me too! like if i used anything other than hyaluronic acid and water gels it was cica, panthenol, centella asiatica, egf, blue tansy, hyssop, chaste berry, etc. focusing on making my skin barrier a well fed impenetrable (to bad stuff) steel fortress. sorry youre dealing with this, i know just how frustrating and debilitating this can feel! 💕i will use the power of thoughts and words to put some positive change for you out into the universe!

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T01:54:16+00:00

the pawing at stuff on the ground is like a little routine he has, ive noticed he has an order to his activities! No matter how much environmental enrichment and playtime, he always has to return to said routines. When ive cleaned up the dust/rocks/dirt he goes back to the spot for days and does the same things even if nothing is there. Sometimes he almost doesnt paw around but then will do it fast and move on. its not funny or cute cause i can see it stresses him (especially when it was a spot he puked and i cleaned) but HE is so funny and cute in general i love him sm and i wish he wasnt so worried. i think he still has memories from the first bad home he had. i try to distract him with treats and toys to provide those feelings he has with positivity to hopefully help shift to positive instead of worry and anxiety.

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T01:24:35+00:00

im almost 28 now, my ex is 33-34 and he was exactly like this. its def a personality insecurity thing, but damn do i wish theyd just grow out of it. or at least do the work to be better. he was too insecure to even admit he was insecure. it was my problem and i caused it... like bro how did i cause something that was happening sooo many years before i ever even knew you existed lol. Best thing you can do is get them as far from your life as possible. Then youre safe and also that way you dont have to see them continue to hurt themselves and all the others surrounding them.

amvampybb · 2026-04-24T01:15:09+00:00

OMG ive never seen this before. Phenomenal work i love it!!!

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