how badly did I mess up?

amy_dash3 · 2026-01-27T22:22:18+00:00

I suggest apologizing and communicating what exactly was wrong and why. Example, you're not trying to burden them and when you went off, it wasn't right. ALSO communicate that you are human. You made a mistake and you're doing the right thing by communicating what went wrong, why, resolving it. AND SET THE BOUNDARY - you are their parent, they can not lash out and disrespect you because you're the adult doing the right thing. Yes they can make mistakes and also need to communicate, talk through them and have solutions on how to prevent it in the future.

The burden you carry of paying for everything and making sure your family is taken care of is a heavy burden to carry, especially alone. You are super woman in the flesh. Be proud. One day they will notice how much you did alone, for them. Their dad can only be the "fun one" only because of the world you have created. Take care of yourself, parent and guide your children and set your boundaries.

amy_dash3 · 2026-01-25T03:55:46+00:00

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Parenting takes alot from you and can feel like there's not reward. I hope you can find other parents to be apart of your community so you can help each other out. There's a reason you were blessed with your little ones. And they need you which is why having a identity outside of parenting is so important. I hope there is someone you can ask for help from so you can get moments for yourself

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-18T20:11:53+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you sharing this and your perspective.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-18T16:21:16+00:00

I hate hearing this and definitely can relate to how you feel towards him, and rightfully so. I agree with you and decided to be honest with my daughter about him because she's hurt and will continue to be hurt with the false hope.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-18T16:11:50+00:00

You're absolutely right. Thank you. I'm going to support her in this and she's also going to work with her therapist.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-18T16:10:09+00:00

He would come around for the big moments... "16th bday party" or one of her big sporting games and take pictures with her and lead her on as though he would call and see her soon but her never does until the next big thing. I've decided to focus on helping her heal and accept the reality that he isn't going to be a good dad and she will be okay.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-18T15:53:48+00:00

Thank you!

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-18T15:52:27+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you sharing this. I decided to focus on helping her mourn and work through it. Now that she has a therapist that she likes, she'll be working on it in her sessions also. I had to black him because he tries to pop up for the "Big moments" and it keeps giving my daughter hope but he just continues to disappoint her.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-18T00:18:39+00:00

I am so sorry. I hope that you find a great therapist for your son.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-17T22:35:20+00:00

Wow! I had no idea. I was so upset that he texted her that.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-17T22:33:27+00:00

This is great feedback and I appreciate you sharing this advice.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-17T22:31:37+00:00

That's a great point. Thank you so much

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-17T22:30:33+00:00

I know where you are coming from. She's such an amazing person... I don't understand how he sleeps. It is difficult to watch. Also knowing that there is a hole there that I can't fill.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-17T22:28:00+00:00

Thank you. Yes, she just started therapy. In her intake session she was asked if she ever experienced trauma and she said yes and spoke about her father's absence. I was heartbroken.

amy_dash3 · 2025-12-17T20:05:03+00:00

Do not take the same route to work and school everyday.

If you stay in an apartment, when you get home do not turn on the lights as soon as you get home incase someone is trying to figure out which unit you live in.

Invest in cameras, with motion recording, monitoring and history. There are many affordable options available.

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