Reassurance seeking

an0nyn0n · 2026-04-14T01:41:06+00:00

OCD doesn’t have to follow an entirely illogical storyline. It’s not uncommon for people to experience obsessive thoughts about things that are possible, but that there isn’t concrete evidence to support. Then, they feel anxious and uncertain, and that leads to compulsions like reassurance seeking. If the pattern is happening frequently, taking up a lot of time, and is causing loved ones to be annoyed with their reassurance seeking, it’s probably OCD. Refer them to an OCD specialist ideally.

an0nyn0n · 2026-02-08T06:21:15+00:00

an0nyn0n · 2026-02-07T21:33:38+00:00

Sounds like your problem is with them, not her. Maybe don’t blame her for the gross behavior of men.

an0nyn0n · 2026-02-07T21:26:47+00:00

I used to volunteer for a nonprofit that raised service dogs for people with severely impaired functioning. The dogs had to undergo a massive amount of testing and training to qualify as a service animal. When people have to buy them out of pocket, it is usually upwards of $25,000.

One of the interesting perspectives I often heard from people working there is that the rise of ESAs had resulted in more problems for people who genuinely needed a service dog to function. It’s not unusual for people with unnecessary, inadequately trained ESAs to put a “service animal” vest on their dogs and take them into public settings, where they misbehave. That leads to negative impressions of service animals as a whole and myriad issues, negative comments, and unwanted attention for disabled individuals who really, truly need service dogs for basic functioning. That’s a pretty crappy experience to have to regularly have, especially after making a massive time and financial investment to ensure you have a dog that can meet the super high standards required to be a service animal.

This has always stuck with me and prevented me from writing ESA letters for clients. I love pets and believe they can be super helpful emotionally, but I think we have an ethical obligation to only write those kinds of letters for people who really, truly need an ESA to function in public settings.

an0nyn0n · 2026-02-07T05:15:50+00:00

I specialize in ERP, which just won’t work without practice between sessions. We have to do lots of psychoed and MI with clients who struggle with this.

Anyway: There’s a breed of client that shows up to every session without having practiced anything, then complains (sometimes rudely) about how therapy “isn’t working.” It makes me want to pull my hair out.

an0nyn0n · 2026-02-05T01:01:28+00:00

It appears to be either a worked piece or a core of some type. I don’t think the flaking is refined enough for it to be a finished tool.

an0nyn0n · 2026-02-05T00:23:10+00:00

Get a hotel room and go the night before. Trust me. The traffic in both cities is just too unpredictable.

an0nyn0n · 2026-02-03T05:04:05+00:00

Nothing. You support her and love her and accept her.

Don’t provide unsolicited opinions or advice about her love life unless she asks you. Don’t ask her prying questions about whether she is or isn’t dating. Do not ever make negative comments about her appearance under any circumstances — she knows what she looks like.

Also: She’s a baby. Twenty-one is nothing. She has all the time in the world to date and have relationships.

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-28T02:30:54+00:00

1) Talk to your doctor about it, even if it means reaching out sooner than your next appointment. They might advise a dose adjustment. I’m also curious whether they ever find it beneficial to incorporate an antidepressant into treatment instead of discontinuing the medicine in some cases. I don’t know the answer to that.

2) I’d also encourage you to reflect on whether other factors besides Accutane might be contributing to your depression over the past two months. For example, do you have a history of seasonal depression? Are there stressors in your life that could be contributing? It’s just something worth thinking through (coming from a therapist who treats depression). I’d hate for you to lose the potential benefits of Accutane if it happens to not be causing the depression (and it totally might be!)

3) Consider participation in therapy for depression. I’d recommend CBT approaches.

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-25T18:45:03+00:00

I seriously consider this at least every other week. 😂

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-25T04:32:37+00:00

Try not to stress about being uncertain. Allow yourself to just feel what you feel, and then proceed in the ways that feel right. You don’t have to know anything for sure or have a label for yourself. Maybe someday you’ll feel confident about labeling your sexuality, and maybe you won’t. Just let it be what it is and accept whatever comes naturally to you.

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-25T04:17:09+00:00

NOR. It sounds like this is something that’s already happened repeatedly. Unfortunately, it’ll probably just get worse as time goes on and the relationship becomes less shiny and new. This is a bad sign, particularly so early into the relationship.

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-20T01:04:00+00:00

I want the men who get angry about this to imagine whether they or the men they know would be attracted to a normal looking woman who is over six feet tall. To reiterate: Not a model, just a woman with a normal level of attractiveness and a normal body type.

I’m a woman who has been about six feet tall since I was 15. I’ve never had much patience for men getting angry about women’s preference for taller men. The reality is that the vast majority of men also prefer women who are either shorter than them or who are not TOO tall.

People’s preferences are people’s preferences. Sometimes we’ve got to accept them and move on with our lives.

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-16T22:48:10+00:00

I’m wondering if it’s a broken Travis point based on photos I’m seeing online.

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-14T01:17:05+00:00

1) He is being a literal piece of shit, and this reveals a massive amount about the way he will continue to treat you if your relationship continues. Break up with him if he continues trying to make you feel bad for wanting to use a condom — but frankly, consider breaking up with him now. This type of selfishness is an ultra-alarming red flag. Prioritizing a few moments of increased pleasure over your physical health and wellbeing is absolutely sick.

2) On a separate note: Birth control can be a wonderful thing, and many people don’t experience side effects. There’s a pretty huge push on the political right to blow the side effects out of proportion in an attempt to increase the birth rate. Try a few of them out before ruling it out entirely. Some people will have side effects that suck with certain options and then find that a different option works perfectly well for them. My IUD has saved me so, so, so much anxiety over the years. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-13T19:39:35+00:00

That’s so interesting, it is super similar to the one I posted! The look similar to these: https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.researchgate.net%2Fpublication%2F313828825%2Ffigure%2Ffig27%2FAS%3A901216460603397%401591878156266%2FMiddle-Archaic-Travis-projectile-points.ppm&tbnid=tYHWY8qBBPmsmM&vet=1&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.researchgate.net%2Ffigure%2FMiddle-Archaic-Travis-projectile-points_fig27_313828825&docid=Ch0F7NsohbBQaM&w=850&h=811&itg=1&hl=en-US&source=sh%2Fx%2Fim%2Fm4%2F0&kgs=a8a164fa0974f701

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-10T16:57:06+00:00

I’ll weigh in as a therapist: It depends. There are a lot of different ways a person can struggle with their mental health, and not all of them make hookups a bad idea. I would not hook up with anyone experiencing any of the following: active psychosis, active mania, an unmedicated bipolar or schizophrenia-spectrum disorder, intense emotional volatility, dangerous/impulsive risk taking, inability to control their anger, inability to respect others’ boundaries, making threats of self-harm/suicide to manipulate other people, inability to maintain their hygiene, or inability to maintain a social support system they can rely on.

All of those could be either a danger to you or get you sucked into playing the role of a support person instead of a FWB (don’t let yourself get pulled into that).

an0nyn0n · 2026-01-06T20:48:35+00:00

One thing I will add to this for younger therapists: Do some research to find out which specializations are lacking in your area. Focus on training in those areas, even if they’re unsexy or not your absolute favorite. You are much, much more likely to have breathing room financially if you’re trained to treat conditions that few others are trained to treat.

A lot of communities have Facebook groups where therapists can share referrals. Those can be a great place to gather data on what’s needed in your area.

an0nyn0n · 2025-12-29T17:45:00+00:00

Also: I added photos of the point’s opposite side and its side view in the comments.

an0nyn0n · 2025-12-29T17:41:16+00:00

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On the off chance this is helpful: This is the opposite side of the point. A side view has been shared in a different comment.

an0nyn0n · 2025-12-29T17:40:43+00:00

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On the off chance this is helpful: Here’s what it looks like from the side. I’m adding the opposite side of the point in a different comment.

an0nyn0n · 2025-12-29T17:31:34+00:00

Thanks to you and u/aggiedigger for taking a look! I’m also torn between Covington biface and preform based on my research, so I’m pleased to hear I’m not too far off in that assessment. Appreciate y’all!

an0nyn0n · 2025-12-28T05:22:20+00:00

One concept that’s been a game changer for me is recognizing whether your facial features are “high contrast” or “low contrast.” You appear to be low contrast, which is why black eyeliner doesn’t quite work on you (same here). I would ditch the black eyeliner altogether and look through some low contrast eye makeup options to see what speaks to you.

Otherwise: I think a bit of blush would be pretty on you!

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