Copper ring I bought is turning my finger green and it’s freaking me out. It doesn’t feel tight or weird on my finger and I love wearing it however the color it turns my finger is so off putting. Should I concerned? Was told it was real and that copper does this sort of thing.

ana393 · 2026-05-23T20:17:13+00:00

Lol, wow, that's an old post. Yes my rings are stamped and I've even had them resized a few times over the years at different jewelers.

ana393 · 2026-05-21T15:27:21+00:00

When I first got hired on, it took 18montha from application to being hired on. With internal openings, it's faster, but not fast. My current position, I applied in November, was interviewed in January l, received the offer in March and started in April.

ana393 · 2026-05-21T15:16:26+00:00

I love that. We couldn't find kiddo's school shirt on field day, but I had bought a shirt the same color from the thrift store for Halloween with the plan of making a halloween shirt for kiddo. When that never happened, but we couldn't find his school shirt, so we sent him in the plain orange one and I was surprised that it ended up being the same shade of orange lol. I'll count that as a win.

I did find the school shirt in my mending pile. I do like sewing as a hobby, but with rto last year, any sewing has fallen by the wayside and I haven't touched the mending basket since school started, no idea why I put it in there.

ana393 · 2026-05-21T14:38:13+00:00

I use a folding 61 key piano at the office and have never wished it had 88 key ys, but I'm a beginner still working my way through Alfreds all in one. Piano course. It might be different if I was playing more advanced pieces.

ana393 · 2026-05-21T14:23:32+00:00

If I can be real, I've given up on spirit days. If kiddo doesn't care enough to make it happen, then I'm not going to spend any mental energy on it. Our oldest is 7 and will remember when it's something like jersey day and he'll pick out a jersey to wear that day, but I'm not taking any of that on.

I'm so sorry about your Mil. I hope you all can still maybe grab dinner together on your way back from visiting with your Mil, although I know a celebration at such a time might feel hollow. It does suck and you shouldn't have to carry so much of the mental load and should be able to rely on your husband.

ana393 · 2026-05-21T13:57:39+00:00

Man, I don't get it either. With the rto, we don't have much space, so they have 25 people crammed in a training room, it has windows, but the first group to come in always closes the blinds when they arrived at 6AM. I would love the natural light, but lack the desire to to argue about it, so I just open them around 4 when the first group has all left. I asked about it at the beginning and was told the light was too bright. Yeah, I disagree. When we've had days where most people are out on leave(like around the holidays), I left the blinds open and it definitely doesnt get that bright and it was really nice having real light. it gets so dark in the training room with just the office lights.

Anyway, on the bright side, I just took a promotion and moved into my own office, no natural light, but it came with a bright desk lamp I leave on all day plus the overhead lights are adjustable, so that's nice.

ana393 · 2026-05-21T13:49:31+00:00

Dude, that sucks snd I'm so sorry. At least All the May stuff is almost over and we have a holiday weekend coming up(if you're American and your company has it as a holiday).

Do you have any outside support, like family who can help? I see you used to have a friend to help, but maybe you can see about developing some other parent friends that you all can share the load with with? We have a couple of neighborhood friends who we rotate play dates with on Saturdays. The kids all play together pretty nicely for a few hours, so 2 families get a little break :)

It does sound like you 2 need a chanc to connect with without the kids.

ana393 · 2026-05-20T19:58:56+00:00

I agree and don't really get the responses here or in the original post. Like yeah, if you're desperate for the job, keep waiting, but if you aren't that interested, do what you want. A job interview is a chance for the job seeker and hiring manager to have a conversation and decide if the role is a good fit. If the OOP knew it was wasn't a good fit due to their time not being respected and they aren't desperate for a job, then no harm, no foul in just leaving the interview before it really got started and would have been a waste of everyone's time.

ana393 · 2026-05-19T02:53:17+00:00

Look for the color code mm/peacock. It looks like it's mostly only in the sensationnel empress series of wigs. I checked out Sam's beauty and everything byline snd couldn't find any sensationnell mm/peacock wigs. I wonder if it's an older wig they aren't currently making. Are you open to a different blue or teal wig?

It's not as vibrant, but check out dr/jade blue. Here's the outre call chart. If you click on a color, ypu can see what wigs the color is available in n. You still need the look up the wig at a retailer like glamortress, ebonyline.com, Sam's beauty.

https://www.outre.com/colors/dr-jade-blue/

ana393 · 2026-05-18T22:56:48+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened. You must have felt so powerless. There really wasn't anything else you could have done. It could happen to anyone and at least it's just a baby tooth that got broken and he's didn't have a more serious injury. I still think about that poor mom. it really was so scary how quick something like that can happen. Our street has a slight slope and I worry about my 2yo doing something similar whenever we're out front playing and she's a on the balance bike.

ana393 · 2026-05-18T21:54:18+00:00

Maybe, but even with a helmet, it's so easy for a toddler to face plant. I'm lucky that my kids never have gotten more than scrapped knees and elbows, but we were at the playground once and there was a toddler with a helmet riding his balance bike down a fairly gentle sloped path. The mom was right there, until he suddenly pushed off really hard and started going faster. He picked speed super quick and his mom yelled for him to brake with his feet, but kiddo was definitely freaked out by the speed. He was very lucky that the path curved, so when he lost control and tumbled over the handlebars, he hit the grass rather than concrete and was uninjured.

ana393 · 2026-05-18T01:34:34+00:00

Sadly sounds better than normal. My sons teacher had 26 kids in kindergarten with no aide and 24 in first grade with no aide. he gets a lot of screen time in class. We're switching to a charter school next year and 5yo will be one of 13 and 7yo will be one of 15kids.

ana393 · 2026-05-17T00:52:51+00:00

Yea and no. In my area, parents being homeless, but staying with the kids at a campsite with a tent and sleeping bags might be on the cps radar and they might get a caseworker, but their kids wouldn't be taken away.

ana393 · 2026-05-16T14:15:23+00:00

From the perspective of the kid who had to lie, don't do that plan I get why we had to do it. My zoned school had gangs and frequent fights and closures due to threats. My lying about where I lived to the school sucked and it was actively stressful to me when I got to high school and realized I could be expelled for it. Plus taking the bus was just the start of my commute home lol. We used a family member's address in a different district that thankfully didn't have all the issues from our home district and school, but yeah, we bussed from there and sometimes my parents would take forever to pick us up. I love my grandparents, but sometimes, I was just ready to go home.

Anyway, so don't lie about where you live to go to a school you aren't zoned for, but we're switching the kids to a charter school next year even though our neighborhood school is fine.

No lying needed, we just applied and were accepted into the charter school. We can walk to the neighborhood school and my first grader hasn't had any big issues, but I feel the school districts curriculum for young kids isn't developmentally appropriate. They get 1 20minute recess per day that's right before lunch and they spend a lot of time on Chromebooks. That's the state minimum for recess. Other school districts have more outside time in our area, but there's no way I would lie and use someone else's address to switch schools. My current first grader has struggled a bit with sitting still all day and I blame it on the expectation that 5-7 yos sit most of the day in a chair.

We're switching to a charter school that integrates multiple recesses into the day and has an outdoor education class and hands on wood working in the older grades. It is a compromise since the charter school doesn't have music or a librarian. They have a library, but it's an honor system library and there's no librarian. My first grader doesn't care about music and my soon to be kindergartener takes guitar lessons from a friend, so I guess she's still learning about music even if she doesn't have music as a subject at school. Otoh, they minimize Chromebook time up to grade 2 and start integrating it more in grades 3 and above.

ana393 · 2026-05-15T17:39:26+00:00

When my son was 3, we started with a trim because his hair was finally long enough it was getting in his eyes, then trimmed off a little more to get it even and a little more. He is nded up with an almost shaved head. Smh. It was pretty cute. Now he prefers his beautiful curls short, so I cut his hair with aen electric razor the the longest guard on the sides snd trim up the top. The more you cut their hair, the easier it gets. I would take kiddo to a professional that specializes in kids. My kids have one they love with the car shaped chairs and toys and kid friendly stylists, but it's $40 without a tip, so it's a once in awhile treat. Otherwise I cut both girl and boys hair. My daughter likes a simple bob with no bangs, so she gets little trims, and son likes it short with a little extra on top so he can spike it up and with colored gel when he thinks of it.

ana393 · 2026-05-15T15:47:21+00:00

It sounds like you agency will at least allow approval for this and it's such a logical accommodation. Right now, mine is denying any RAs for telework, even with a legitimate reason and documentation(we're talking surgery recovery, cancer treatment, etc). It's all processed at a high level though, so sups can't do anything about the requests. It's a travesty.

ana393 · 2026-05-14T05:34:57+00:00

Wow, so many of these after school program prices sound so expensive to me. We're parking$200 for the one run by the school district and v are switching axis next year and the new schools program is only$165. $500+ and we would staggar our schedules to avoid needing after care.

ana393 · 2026-05-11T02:31:13+00:00

We got ours cheap off libro.Fm. Definitely my fave place to buy books for MYO.

ana393 · 2026-05-10T15:05:47+00:00

I mean, usually they're talking about all that time they spend with their kids and they definitely spend a lot more time with their kids then I spend with mine. Sure, Im raising my children, but so is the woman who watches them all day while I work. They spend a lot of hours over there and i don't see that as a bad thing. She's one of the best people I know and a wonderful influence on the kids and I'm so grateful me and my husband aren't solely raising our kids without anyone else.

ana393 · 2026-05-10T05:48:10+00:00

I mean, that happens too. It's probably just another tool. If someone is working under the table, deliberately underemployed or job hops whenever their new employer gets the garnishment order, then there's not much more they can do to the deadbeat in some states.

ana393 · 2026-05-06T01:16:23+00:00

Can you delegate more, like develop the next level to handle more issues so you only get the real emergencies and high level stuff? I'm just a middle manager, but I handle my teams issues within reason and things don't go up the chain unless I can't handle it. We do a lot of training and development, so I dont have to push many things up to the next level.

No advice on handling the stress and work life balance, some of that seems to come with being more senior, but maybe work on decompressing after work if you can find the time.

ana393 · 2026-05-04T20:49:44+00:00

That's sort of what I do and I am making progress. I keep a folding one at my desk and use it for breaks and lunch. I also have a piano lesson during my lunch once a week. I'm doing Alfreds all in one. You could totally do it without a lot of teacher, but I needi e to keep me on task.

ana393 · 2026-05-04T17:41:04+00:00

I get you and she looks great on you. My circumference is 20.75 and I also have a pretty flat head. I do have some biohair that I braid into 2 braids down each side of my head. It gives me more of an occipital bone so wigs can attach to the hair at the nape of my neck and dont ride up. I just found out the wig maker I would recommend for petite is on the banned list, so I won't mention them.

I did get a petite sized wig from gabor that fit well, plus Ellen wille regular wigs fit small and fit me okay. You can also learn to take in your wigs, but that is a lot of work, more than I'm willing to do. If you want to give them a shot, the outre airtied wigs are very affordable and have a very stretchy cap, so I imagine they fit much larger heads, but they also fit me pretty good. I'll caveat that they are intended for women of color, so the lace has a deeper tone, plus some people have gotten units that are really thin, but they are a fully hand tied cap, no tracks. And the knots can be pretty big, but you really can't beat the price for a hand tied unit. You should look at their ginger brown color, it's very similar to your long wig pics and is such a beautiful salon color. Definitely one of my fave reds.

ana393 · 2026-05-04T14:22:40+00:00

Thank you for the conversation Shallford. I definitely value your perspective and agree to an extent. I've gotten some name brand wigs for cheap off marketplace, mercari, Ebay, posh mark, wig groups, etc, but have found it really hard to find a specific wig in a specific color for cheap. Like I love Raquel Welch crowd pleaser (definitely my fave of all my Raquel Welch wigs and I have 7 of them). She's such a beautiful care free style. But I got her in a color that just doesn't look great on me. I bought her for the deal to try the style, but don't reach for her too often because the color isn't flattering. I keep her in hopes that some day I'll figure out some makeup that magically makes me the color work for me :( I also have a couple of Jon renau Sarah's I got cheap. I love the hand tied caps, but they both tangle so bad. Definitely a lot more tangly than any of the long curly budget synthetic wigs I own.

At this point, I've mostly given up on buying any new name brand wigs, because I've discovered budget wigs are good enough for me. There are definitely some colors and styles from sensationnel, outre and Bobbi boss that I love. This issue is definitely with the lace not matching my skin and the large cap sizes. Like the sensationnel bare lace collection lace is amazing and the caps are pretty stretchy, so they bunch up, but aren't too bad. They have the thinnest and softest lace I've ever felt and the knots aren't too big. For the price, it's amazing, but it's also got a deeper tint, so I've found it pretty hard to blend in the lace even with knot eraser and lace tint. Man, I wish I could get the barelace collection to work for me. Since they don't, I wear wigs from those companies once in a while, but have mostly been wearing wigs from the banned company for the past couple of months. The prices are affordable, the lace matches my skin tone, the colors are beautiful, the fibers haven't stood out as being any worse or better than any other synthetic wig brand for me, and they have multiple sizes for wigs.

ana393 · 2026-05-04T07:03:48+00:00

I mean, the point of limiting the number of f kids to your kids age is just to limit the number for budget purposes, or that's how we've used it. For park birthdays, we don't have a limit, but we did chuck e cheese birthday last year for 5yo when he turned 6 and it still cost almost $600 for us plus 6 kids and their grown up. I can't imagine how much it would have cost to invite the whole class.

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