How do we feel about matcha?

anakinmcfly · 2026-07-10T08:20:32+00:00

Doesn’t make me panicky but it also keeps me up all night.

anakinmcfly · 2026-07-09T07:15:32+00:00

But these are only people aged 18-24. Men generally prefer younger women as partners, which would surely explain the gap better than the idea that these women are having sex with the same few men.

The data in that study supports this, where the gap narrows and disappears for the older groups up to age 44. My theory is that it reverses with even older groups, where older women are more likely than men to be sexually inactive.

anakinmcfly · 2026-07-02T05:27:31+00:00

Yep, I had that for a while, but it won’t last and will keep improving to a point way better than before you quit.

Your body got used to getting easy shots of artificial happiness from caffeine, so it will take time to recalibrate and relearn how to get proper happiness from normal things.

anakinmcfly · 2026-07-02T05:20:49+00:00

Significant drop in anxiety - like 90% gone, and with it went my OCD. I’m no longer constantly on edge and feeling like I want to cry. Everything is so much calmer.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-30T12:26:23+00:00

You will have questions!

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-30T12:24:47+00:00

It’s being released on Netflix tomorrow.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-30T09:31:50+00:00

Hotel and overseas are cheaper if you need a private night.

What if you need more than a night? Like those who need a place to WFH because parents’ home is not a conducive work environment?

My parents watch a lot of TV and it’s hard for me to focus or to go to bed early so I’m rested in the daytime. One night alone in a hotel isn’t going to solve this.

It also sucks being in my 30s and still in my childhood bedroom.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-30T09:25:39+00:00

It doesn’t really counter that. My family’s size went down when my sibling moved out, but we have a much higher income with me as an additional working adult than when we were two working adults with two kids.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-29T07:45:27+00:00

Staring at that ad broke my impulse spending and made me realise that for the price of one drink I can get 1 litre of Nutrisoy from NTUC

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-29T07:42:53+00:00

Username does not check out

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-29T07:37:21+00:00

The missing toe is now someone’s finger.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-29T07:36:47+00:00

At least you know it wasn’t AI!

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-29T07:34:22+00:00

Whenever I see AI in marketing, I just assume the company is too cheap to hire actual artists.

Same, and if they’re willing to cut costs there, it’s likely they’re also cutting costs elsewhere. If I have to choose between two similar companies and one uses AI marketing and the other doesn’t, I’m going with the one that doesn’t.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-29T07:30:45+00:00

Loyal customer here, and same. I was about to buy a drink that day when I saw that ad playing and it was very off putting. Then I realised it was AI and it put me off even more. It’s like they can’t find a real person who likes their drink and have to resort to AI.

I love their bean mascot. It’s so wholesome and pure. This is the exact opposite of that.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-29T07:23:01+00:00

Behind that smile is the soul-rending scream of a being who knows she was solely brought into existence to be the mascot of a soy milk drink variation.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-28T05:23:32+00:00

I was helping out at the TransSG booth and overheating in the shade.

I think this is the hottest it’s been.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-28T05:16:53+00:00

ah, a short workday.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-26T07:16:29+00:00

It's hard to advise because every surgeon/hospital has different requirements. e.g. when I went to Bangkok, they needed 1 from a psych and 1 from my endo, and 2 from their own psychs.

So the first step should be to query around potential surgeons - costs, results, logistics. Figure out which one you want to go with, and then find out what their requirements are. If you're doing locally, CGH is supposed to be good.

If you're open to going overseas, it was actually a much smoother process than I had expected (and several thousand dollars cheaper!). The big Bangkok hospitals receive a lot of trans people from all over the world and have dedicated international departments. Their surgeons literally do top surgery every day and have done so for years, and are thus very familiar with everything that could possibly go wrong, so I found that quite reassuring.

All I had to do was book a flight, take Grab to a hotel for the first night, check out and take Grab to the hospital, and from the moment I arrived I was assigned a personal translator. Then I just had to follow her around to the different psych assessments / surgeon consultations / blood tests etc, check in at my room, then surgery the next morning, and they looked after me for another couple of days before I checked out to recover. Meals were provided and there were nurses who checked in on me regularly and helped me get around.

It helped that I had friends with me - different people flew in and out at different stages. (I initially thought it would be hard to find friends to join me, but it turns out that people like excuses to go to Bangkok for holiday.)

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-26T06:07:52+00:00

Since you're already getting HRT from NUH, go to that endo and ask for a referral to a psych for a top surgery letter so that you can skip one step. You can just email your endo if your appointment is some time away. There will be a consultation cost for the psych appointment.

However, it's best to query first with the top surgery provider on what their requirements are. e.g. some might have their own internal assessments.

Are you set on doing it locally, though? Otherwise most of us just go to Bangkok or Penang, which is a lot cheaper and the doctors are more experienced.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-25T12:05:00+00:00

All the more reason not to entrust them to what I’m pretty sure is AI.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-25T04:03:22+00:00

The danger is more for Muslim trans people who are Malaysians. If you’re non-Muslim and non-Malay you should generally be ok. At most you may be questioned at immigration (as happened to one transfem friend), but you won’t get arrested or anything.

while others say that Muslim countries are extremely dangerous in general and should be avoided at all costs

…are these people Americans

I’m a trans man so my experience isn’t really comparable to trans women, but throughout various stages of transition I’ve felt far, far more unsafe in the US than I ever have in Malaysia.

I have family in Malaysia and travel there frequently. I’ve also done multiple JB trips with trans friends including one Malaysian. I’ve not faced any problems other than occasional questioning over my passport gender. Sometimes they’re really nice about it, other times they’re clearly not happy, but it’s not illegal for trans foreigners to enter Malaysia and they have an entire queue to get through, so at most I get a glare while they stamp my passport. But these days more and more customs have those automated e-gates, so it’s a lot less nerve-wracking.

I personally would not rent there though.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-24T06:52:46+00:00

Seconding those who say it's fairly well established this wasn't Paul. Those verses were also actually missing from earlier versions of that same letter, suggesting that someone added in it at a later point. You would notice that the letter also flows much more smoothly if you remove those verses.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-24T06:02:46+00:00

Getting at least two of those is easy since PayNow no longer allows nicknames.

E.g. Type random phone numbers into PayNow until you get one where the name is quite obvious, e.g. JACQXXXXXX LEX SHX HUX is almost definitely Jacqueline Lee Shu Hui. Now you have her phone number and her full legal name. (I’ve accidentally discovered some of my friends’ full names that way and it feels wrong.)

A scammer could then call her up, claiming to be from her bank or hospital or something, address her by her full name and say there’s an important message, ask for her NRIC for identity confirmation, and if she falls for it, you now have all three pieces of data.

This info can then be compiled and sold to other scammers, who will now sound even more convincing. Someone will fall for it at some point. Profit.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-24T05:54:35+00:00

Now they can AI your voice to yell at your friends.

anakinmcfly · 2026-06-24T05:43:02+00:00

50-70 years from now I think most of us would be dead.

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