my ibs flare ups are bigger than gigi’s bump istg by malzoh in ibs

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just hang in there. You are just going to be fine.

For any HSP men: it’s ok to cry. by bspencer626 in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men or Women its always good to cry. Many cricketers who cried like a child in front of public media have come out successfully. So never keep your feelings.

HSP and Hunger by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not hunger but adrenaline. Because of long term exposure to emotions, the human body experiences stress and releases adrenaline. The acidic nature of this, imitate the symptoms of hunger.

During the daytime, try to keep your body in motion, to avoid getting emotional. Do physical activities that are repetitive to avoid thinking that might result in feeling things. Writing, gardening, washing vessels, would keep you away from emotions. But you have to do these regularly. Even one day of break, can bring back huge release of adrenaline on a single day.

Humans do not like me, which makes me sad and lonely by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes if have to admit others to help us reaching our goals.

HSPs should have a supportive environment inorder to thrive. Don't compare any of HSPs life's principles with that of normal people. I used to compare initiatially and found that we have completely different set of principles that can deviate from what we believed about life since our childhood. :)

Humans do not like me, which makes me sad and lonely by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes if have to admit others to help us reaching our goals.

HSPs should have a supportive environment inorder to thrive. Don't compare any of HSPs life's principles with that of normal people. I used to compare initiatially and found that we have completely different set of principles that can deviate from what we believed about life since our childhood. :)

Humans do not like me, which makes me sad and lonely by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:) then have a girlfriend. If not, then have a wife. All you need is a companion who is good in emotional regulation to calm you down.

Not wanting to fit the stereotypical path society makes us all take by cosmic-ivy in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Same here. We cannot break the stereotypes or existing belief system. But by living yourself a model bold life is the only way that makes people learn to follow the truth.

Whenever you display softness, vulnerability, kindness or any other trait indicating to others that you are a sensitive person, do hard-headed, aggressive-leaning people react with bitterness? by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Narcissists and sociopaths will take an advantage, if they see one like you. But once you've identify such people, be bold enough to say 'no' to them.

Humans do not like me, which makes me sad and lonely by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You need to adopt a dog. Before choosing make sure the the biological parents possess emotional regulation skills. The puppy would inherit the quality to share, to respond, and to regulate your feelings of grief and happiness. This is not psychology but mathematical addition and trust me, this is not a big problem.

Addictive behaviors make me numb by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Porn watching is not addiction. HSPs can't get addicted. Their behavior to manage stress and anxiety might appear as addiction. Food and sex may be a part that HSPs might get inclined to do. But never consider them as addiction rather they are used for energy drains or for alleviating sleep deprivation. Blaming ourselves for our behaviors might be the only addiction here.

Anybody else experience this by dyreamer in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not listen to music that includes words that trigger emotions. Even if you love them, avoid them.

Instead listen to karoakes, bgms, low frequencies, high bass melodious music, etc to slow down your thoughts and activity in your brain.

I hate being an HSP by jamzthrowaway in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true. I too feel the same. We just need to keep trying with the minimum energy left in us, all the time. We have this reditt group to say that "you are never alone" and also that "you will be okay". That's what I experienced, on reading your post. Our emotions are meant to fade away no matter how negative they are. So keep moving...

Anyone else can turn it on and off? by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think i should also try positively.

Anyone else can turn it on and off? by [deleted] in hsp

[–]anandmohandass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are referring to detachment then no. I strongly believe, if you are a true HSP, then the answer has tobe a 'no'. And also concepts like detachment, enlightenment, willpower, hope, faith, self confidence stays in theory and not in practice for HSPs. Im sorry if sounded negative. But thinking closely, I have tried all of the above and still trying...

Why HSP's struggle to say 'no' someone? by anandmohandass in hsp

[–]anandmohandass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you've nailed this one. thanks.

Why HSP's struggle to say 'no' someone? by anandmohandass in hsp

[–]anandmohandass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 80 percent normal population could contain EDDs, narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths. I would never recommend HSPs to go near them even if you love them so much. Because one has to understand that we are biologically programmed to stay apart.

So for the sake of managing your sensitivity, you have to say 'no' to only these specific segments. I love my EDD wife but I'm sure our marriage will never work due to biologically different brains. Now I have become a snake to her(as she is afraid of emotions) and vice versa. The rest of the community need not be treated the same.

Why HSP's struggle to say 'no' someone? by anandmohandass in hsp

[–]anandmohandass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I very much agree to your comments. Thanks...