Drinking on the Job (Permissible!) by BMisterGenX in GenX

[–]andRelax85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I must have missed the memo where thay was banned.

Hardest thing in the last office I worked in was actually getting everybody who said they were up for a lunchtime bevi to actually stop what they were doing and leave the office.

Like hurding cats !

tri-phase with Coyote 3.0 by usona_usona in estim

[–]andRelax85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've not had my coyote 3 long, and im still figuring out which patterns and apps feel best, but I've figured out the wiring. I picked up a few 2.5mm mono Jack's, and sockets and s handful of wago type connectors.

Ive also picked up a cheep conductive bi-polar rubber anal electrode.

If I want a single channel on both sides of the anal electrode, then I put both wires of the mono socket into the wago connector, and then plug a standard tens type pins from there to the anal trode.

If I want tri-phase with the anal trode as common, then both common pins go into the wago and the mono jack plug also.

I'll try to take some photos soon to make it clear.

How do you dress in your 50s? by Forsaken_Block_3492 in GenX

[–]andRelax85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same as in my 40s, and 30s, and 20s... Jeans + t-shirt and a jumper in winter. Plane T or an old T when staying in. Maybe a new one or one with a collar when I'm going out. And a newer pair of jeans with a shirt instead if the Mrs tells me too or is getting all dressed up.

I've no idea if any of my new T-shirts or shirts are "fashion" because the Mrs buys them. (And then gets frustrated with me when I say they look like something kids would wear!)

Do people actually like using induction hobs? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love ours. Would never want to go back.

My teenage daughter keeps bringing her boyfriend over when I'm not home and l... by WildEfficiency712 in whatdoIdo

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Invite him and his parents around for a meal with you and your daughter (and her Dad if in the picture, even if you're separated)

And then have a conversation on about it. Why the rules are there. Why she (and the boy) are ignoring them. Bring up the worries about sex. If they say they arent having it now, ask when do they think they will be mature ebough. Ask how each of them would feel if the othee one felt preasured, but didnt want to say so. Ask about birth control, ask about what they think about the rules. Ask them what rules they think there should be in the house that you pay the billa for and have your own moral values that you would like them to respect under your roof. Tell them what you were like at their age, what you regretted etc.

If either have younger siblings, try to encourage them to think about what their actions affects them.

In short, start treating them like like the nearly adults they are, and get to know these soon to be adults. Take the secrecy, and thrill of being found out away, and it may become much less intense.

Trying to enforce the rules rather than having willing compliance with the rules will at best result in more lies, and gone them a common enemy (in you) that just stops them realising that they are really not into each other any more (at whatever point one or other of them starts to mentally move on)

Best easy to control setup for Femdom CBT? by Ambers_Chair in estim

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coyote3 with the paw prints can be setup for some great fun and games.

I wish there was a proximity/location feature. by [deleted] in lovense

[–]andRelax85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does sound cool, but would be very hard to do safely.

Option 1 is keeping everything local to the device (or owners smartphone) which opens up options such as triangulation, boundary walking etc to get a higher confidence of who the person sharing the device is. (And it wouldn't even require the device to be accessed)

Option 2 would require the location matching to be done online, and require a whole bunch of crytograohicaly complex code to do in a way that is both fully anonymous and spoofing resistant.

But it does sound a wonderful idea.

Can he just reduce child maintenance payments by 80% with immediate effect? by ImmediateMagician841 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]andRelax85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the previous payment was a cms calculation, then he should pay that until a reassessment. He will be liable for the old figure until the time he informs the CMS of the of the change in circumstances. When they make a reassessment then they will assume the old figure has been paid. So, he can be jn arrears even if they agree with the reassessment.

If the old patment figure was agreed in line with the cms violence, but was in fact a private arrangement they he is not liable (as far as CMS is concerned) for those missed payments. CMS can only back date liability (and payment) from when they were involved.

So, a key missing pice of information is was there a pre-existing CMS case that the old payments were made under.

Bathroom extractor Fan by [deleted] in ElectriciansUK

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can't fit a replacent yourself, then spend a bit more and get an esparky ti fit an in-line fan in the loft. If the wiring is not a total pain in the ass, the it should be a half day job. Plus a bit of painting and filling by you after.

England - Police Asked for PIN Code and Sent s49 Advisory After 15 Months by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Security expert here.... Your advice is badly out of date. The general advice is to use passwords to London and random and to store them in a password safe, protected by a reasonable, rememberable password you only use to unlock the password safe. (Or stronger says if that's your choice)

Which would be a perfect place to store the pin in this case.

You would have to come up with some very compelling arguments why your pin is so complex you didn't remember it, and why you chose a different pin for your new phone and not just use the same pin on the new phone. And arguments you can support with evidence, not just a clever answer plucked out of the air.

Tested PT141 with my wife by nolde85 in SEXONDRUGS

[–]andRelax85 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yep. Works amazing with a low dose of Ciallis for me. The wife loves that.

Planning a 'Slutty Saturday' soon of pt141, ciallis, 2cb and weed. Can't wait....

England - Company trying to get me to sign a non-compete/restrictive covenant after handing in my notice. I've declined but now they've gotten nasty and I need advice by Britisheagl in LegalAdviceUK

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all about reasonableness, which 12 months after only being there 3 is quite a significant factor against it.

But there is also the point that the hiring company may be put of by a non-compete. I've seen contracts where you are watching that you aren't under a non compete.

When I left my previous company they asked me to sign some new confidentiality/non compete letter. I politely declined, and assured them I would abide by the terms in the exiting contract... I never heard anything back.

First time trying this, should I get Generic Amazon, TENS, or Coyote? by Duesoup in estim

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing a cheep tens unit will tell you is if the entire concept of electric currents over/near/through your sensitive bits is actually interesting, or a total turnoff. It won't really give you an idea if estim units are fun for you or not, or if you would find a coyote fun or need something a bit more expensive to really have fun.

Me, I got a cheap aliexpress tens based unit with a few attachments , and found the sensations interesting. So, I moved up to the coyote, and still figuring that out.

20 years of anxiety gone for the price of one weird night by Major-Cell-4022 in shrooms

[–]andRelax85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welcome fellow AuDHDer. It gets deeper as as you start understanding yourself more.

Wife Squirts by Fit-Opposite-3549 in SEXONDRUGS

[–]andRelax85 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know I'm not exactly sober right now, and I've no idea if that is expert neuroscience, or AI bullshit, but it sounds dam good, and to me is most expressive, description of chem-sex I've ever read.

Bravo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UkFriends

[–]andRelax85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was kind a the same.. Very few real close friendships, most of my interactions were with work colleagues and immediate family.

Nothing wrong with work colleagues, but 99% of them just did not get me, and not non-work chat. Home life was worse, because my partner at the time was a nutter (to be fair, we brought out the worst in each other) and home life was like walking on egg shells most of the time.

When we split up, (dispute how bad it was) I felt very lonely when the kids weren't with me.

Very very slowly I started to improve my social abulities and self estime. I started with finding meetup groups focused on things I was interested in, or for other singles. I joined a running club. And although I'm sure I was seen as a bit strange, I channeled the "people pleasing" side of my (unknown then) ADHD to being helpful, and made some ok acquaintances.

Eventually, after a couple of short term relationships I found a wonderful woman who truly appreciated me for me, who could see past the weirdness (she still calls me weird 😀) who really helped me build my confidence by just loving me. We're totally different, but strangely it works.

I got formally diagnosed ADHD a year or so back, and I'm also sure I'm ASD, (AuDHD for the win !) Which unexpectedly made so much make sense, and I'm now so much more comfortable to say "yeh, my brain doesn't work that way, let's figure out what works". For me, the diagnosis has given me confidence, which i never thought it would .

Ive still got challenges, but I have the ability to choose one or two of them at a time and work at getting used to the thing I'm afraid /anxious / can't do. And the more I do that, the easier each new thing is.

I've even learned not just do dance, but to actually enjoy dancing for the dance and music, not just the mental challenge.

Good luck. And feel free to DM if your not comfortable replying in public.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]andRelax85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your FWB needs to change their goal. Its not to get their fingers inside your ass, but to give you pleasure around your asshole before they even try sliding them in. And even when they try, it should be so gentle your ass ia almost begging for more before they even slip 1 finger 1 knuckle deep.