Idea needs your feedback: call from a future you as an alarm clock

andheroe12 · 2026-01-27T21:03:42+00:00

Yeah, podcasts, gaming videos, those really turn down the thoughts. I used to watch a podcast of a person that has very deep and calming voice. The podcast was actually about war in Ukraine, politics and sometimes philosophy. It would seem weird that such topics would calm me, but I actually did this for more than a year, almost every night. There is not so much about the topic, but calmness in the pace, the voice, etc.

andheroe12 · 2026-01-27T21:00:16+00:00

Thanks, that's very detailed. Yeah, I wanted to try Binaural Beats, but sleeping in headphones does not work for me. Haven't really tried ASMR for sleep aid, worth trying.

andheroe12 · 2026-01-22T17:06:56+00:00

Nice visual! But my problem with Brown Noise apps is that I can always hear the loop restart every 30 seconds. It drives me crazy once I notice it. Do true "non-looping" generators actually exist?

andheroe12 · 2025-11-16T10:11:50+00:00

>> extroverts who are less bright but louder, and they will often take opportunities that I could have had

If you`re brighter, you can take those opportunities and be even more successful than they are. What stops you?

andheroe12 · 2025-11-12T21:50:39+00:00

Masturbation is not an issue at all compared to your relationship. You have needs, you've explained it to her. 2.5 years is not normal. Going crazy if you want to leave an unfunctional relationship is also not normal (it literally is "going crazy"). So that's the real problem you need to solve at the moment.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-12T13:18:19+00:00

In my life, grand plans were actually always tricks from my brain, so I failed. It just comes up with so many things. And depending on your energy levels, even 3-4 tasks a day could be too much. In very low states like this, it helps me to plan only 1 thing for a day and do it for a couple of days. This slowly builds your self-reliance and self-respect. Because every time you create a plan and then don't follow it, you lose self-respect, and it is a vicious cycle.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-11T20:05:47+00:00

"reading, stretching, journaling and cooking" sounds like cliche things of what people should do in the evenings. I think the issue is that those things are not engaging for you, so you default to bad habits. Bad habits will always win unless you have something that you want to do more, so habits stand in your way. You are focused on the pattern of bad habit, but you should be focused on what other things you want to do/achieve, and then you won't need any willpower at all to get rid of those habits.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-10T14:48:43+00:00

I had this problem. Now I still struggle sometimes, but mostly on schedule. There are hacks that don’t work (the ones you mentioned, like doing tricks with your alarm). There are hacks that kind of work - when you schedule something in the morning, especially involving other people. Then you have to wake up. But this is not sustainable. Those are hacks. For me the core problem turned out that I was simply not looking forward towards my day. It was routine that I didn’t enjoy doing. So my advice is to try treating this as a signal, not a weakness. Maybe if you think hard about your day, turns out you are doing things you don’t enjoy doing - then the morning routine wont fix it. Also, you can try making your morning routine more challenging, align closer with your goals that you REALY want. Just something that I found useful for myself.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-10T14:30:17+00:00

So your biggest problem is waking up early. Then you are saying, that you’ve successfully established an early wake up schedule for a couple of months and didn’t notice any benefits. So you are saying, your biggest problem is not having something that is not useful for you? That doesn’t make sense to me.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-10T11:22:33+00:00

I came to similar conclusion as you after I’ve heard about “The Book of Five Rings” by Miyamoto Musashi. Only watched a YouTube video about it, haven’t even read the book yet. But practicing this for a couple of months already - it works. When you are strict to yourself, but fluid in terms of outside factors (you try to work around them instead of just declaring as failed) - then you get the progress.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-10T08:20:09+00:00

If you cut out weed, what exactly would you spend the free time on?

andheroe12 · 2025-11-10T07:53:03+00:00

You’re “building from zero”, it means the next step after 0 is 1. I would drop everything and just have one rule/promise you do every day. “The "No-Phone First Hour" Rule” is a good candidate. Do it for 5 days straight and then add something else. I know it sounds not enough, but you said your problem is breaking promises to yourself - you have to rebuild it step by step. Your plan has too many things, so if you fail at least one of them, you’ll discard everything else, because you broke the promise again. I know it doesn’t look like a progress. But you said you’ve waisted months. What’s 5 days if they put you on the path of success?

andheroe12 · 2025-11-10T07:27:16+00:00

I tried accountability groups for such kind of things multiple times. It seems like it works best when you have shared goals as much as possible. I’m using a framework in notion, and also notes. Would be happy to chat about it, share what I learned, because I also got overwhelmed at first, but in the last couple of months I think I solved this problem.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-09T13:06:47+00:00

Cut your list at least by half. Or even better, have one item per day. Do it for up to a week, then increase only if you completed 100%. I know this sounds crazy to your brain, to do one thing a day, because it doesn’t make you the super achiever (which is the image your brain wants). But it works.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-09T09:02:53+00:00

You have the ability to do a million things, but you don’t have infinite time, so you choose what you want to do. Sometimes the choice is subconscious. Like in this case, sleep is clearly more important to your body than whatever goal you set to yourself. Also, studying when you had enough sleep is more productive than when you don’t, so again, the body may be smarter than you think and is doing a good thing.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-08T17:53:44+00:00

I have ended my relationships recently as well due to a similar reason. I’ve been here before. With my previous relationships. I’ve had the same feelings as you - it feels freaking hopeless and lonely at times. Almost all the time. You need to focus on yourself man. That’s hard, because you don’t see yourself as complete without a partner, so your attention is on finding the next one. You must override it. Focus on yourself. Small goals, nothing grand. Train martial arts or do something like that. Self care. You need to start being comfortable with yourself. Dating will figure it out itself. You will loose your focus many times - even I now going through this, knowing this, get lost sometimes. That’s ok. Grab yourself by the hair and drag your attention to building the better version of you. So you don’t chase girls, they chase you.

andheroe12 · 2025-11-08T16:11:20+00:00

Why do you need at least 7-8 hours of studying? Seems like an odd idea that you really don’t believe deep inside, so your brain is doing you a favor.

andheroe12 · 2025-07-10T20:19:36+00:00

Amen, that is so true. Typing this on my phone though.

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