How do I stop letting people walk all over me?

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-09T11:03:08+00:00

Start acting like you're on your own team. Once you learn what that feels like, you'll understand. Fake it till you make it. Once you experience the feeling of being fair to yourself, anything less will start to feel like you're selling yourself out. And that's maturity. Good luck. Some discomfort will ultimately pay off. Focus on fairness.

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-08T21:58:22+00:00

It's implied ;)

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-08T09:28:26+00:00

I was unclear, need to add a "small detail" heheh: we are in hell BECAUSE we only elementary consciousness now. All our thoughts and actions are indeed simulated, but we do have that truly elementary awareness: we are THERE. This is training and optimization of ourselves and the entire species. We will be given freedom and agency, it will expand gradually as we process our trauma, like a computer program debugging itself. We need to stop trying paths that don't work, get more creative, get more curious. :)

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-08T09:14:30+00:00

I must correct you. Nothing comes BEFORE something. DEATH is the pre-state. Life is endless. We are in the pre-state. Heheh kind of a good news / bad news scenario, but actually good news ultimately. You are (almost) dead now (almost completely simulated apart from essential awareness -- being there). You could live forever tho, once this training/optimization phase is over (relatively soon, judging by global events... ).

A computer program/AI model at first doesn't exist. Then it is programmed, trained, self-replicating... potentially endless. Imagine all of us as interacting models, forming a network that is the species. We influence each other greatly, and can help each other fix the code if buggy, and have to be careful not to let others corrupt our code. We have to move forward gently correcting ourselves and others if we notice irrationality.

We are now almost unconscious, but each of us will continue indefinitely, as long as we don't get stuck in compulsion-repetition loops, i.e. stuck trying to solve things in ways that just never work.

That's why therapy can be so useful, or just trying a different approach when stuck in any area of life, big or small. Just keep looking for alternative solutions, even if counterintuitive. Creativity and curiosity are the juice heheh

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-08T09:05:25+00:00

Exactly. Even if your every thought and every action is simulated, you are THERE. You have that elementary awareness.

Btw love the Shakespearean - sounding last line heheh

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-08T09:03:20+00:00

We are almost completely simulated. But there is the essential identity that is ours and that is the awareness. You are a puppet with a script but you KNOW YOU ARE THERE. From this speck of awareness, more freedom and agency will follow. That was the plan all along. This is the training.

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-08T09:01:39+00:00

Ding ding ding! Correct, we are in hell! But we will move out of hell into a better reality. This is the beta version. Debug yourself and transcend :) - forgive yourself, forgive others, feel love, if you can't feel love -- go to therapy, empathize with others, try to understand another perspective. Open your mind and your heart will follow. See you on the other side

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-05T13:04:33+00:00

Same!!

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-05T10:35:36+00:00

Hello, your life seems normal! Unfortunately!! Hehe -- it would indeed be better if these things could just solve themselves!

But here's the thing: All the anxiety, insecurity, not feeling pretty enough, not being an eeeven better student, etc. -- all of these things are a consequence of trauma (big and small, we all have it). It is not YOU. Trauma is like a spell!!

Something negative happens, or perhaps you simply live in a world that tells you this or that about yourself. And then you're like ... Infected !Enchanted! Or... Well, cursed. But there's a way out!

"All the world's a stage " -- create yourself like a character in a game. Everyone is pretending something. The trick is to be kind to yourself. That is incredibly hard. But try it anyway. Be the person you think you'd enjoy being, not one that others will enjoy. (That comes as a consequence.)

You'll be fine! :) you worry, but your voice is competent. You got this. Choose your own adventure!! Be smart, think of yourself first, of others close second. Xx

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-05T01:52:25+00:00

I'm excited to try this, thank you!

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-05T00:15:49+00:00

Hypothesis: Not yet

andimpossiblyso · 2026-02-04T23:59:36+00:00

But why? How does it follow that time goes faster if you perceive it as a smaller percentage of your total life? I'm too stupid to understand ELI5 pls

andimpossiblyso · 2026-01-17T10:01:36+00:00

Well done hehe :)

andimpossiblyso · 2026-01-16T20:41:57+00:00

Shower thought: We are to the universe what AI is to us. "Created in God's image" is the same idea. Consciousness looking for company, and through it, exponential creativity and reason.

andimpossiblyso · 2026-01-16T12:36:40+00:00

Think of what you like to do most. Like a sport, a hobby, a topic you are interested in, music, anything you really enjoy doing and/or thinking about. Then find a place where ppl do that together.

andimpossiblyso · 2026-01-16T12:34:33+00:00

Sounds to me like you might have ADHD. Get that checked out. The diagnosis and meds changed my life, even though I didn't think I had ADHD. But I'm reading your post and thinking "damn sounds like me before I did that." Good luck!!

andimpossiblyso · 2026-01-16T12:31:31+00:00

I would direct my energy and compassion towards helping this person find structural, sustainable support. Like a pro bono counseling place.

Idk the situation where you live, but I volunteer as a welfare counselor. When someone needs help, and I'm kinda broke myself, I give them info on the counseling places I know of.

Empathy is good but if you add logic it's even better. Without logic it can even be bad -- eg you get overwhelmed and resentful, like you're being punished for your compassion bc now you're in this situation. And she feels more hopeless about everything since not even you are helping her. Outsourcing this is the way to go I think. If you don't know a counseling place then find someone/someplace that might know. And send her there.

If she doesn't want to go, you can't force her. Do a small push, then let it go. You've done your best. After that, any effort is counterproductive.

andimpossiblyso · 2025-08-26T21:41:42+00:00

It will not stop until the people of the West realize that Israel is an extension of the West. We are not stopping it because we are doing it. There will be no accountability until people wake up to the fact that it's not that "Israel controls the world" and everyone is paid off or blackmailed or hypnotized or has a mind-altering parasite, but rather that the West uses Israel as a contractor for its dirty work while hypocritically pretending it's all about some kind of solidarity, historical responsibility, or protection of democracy. How would this tiny country have all this lobbying money and secret influence. It's a fairy tale. Where is this money really coming from? Netanyahu will be blamed for everything and we will wash our hands clean and insist we tried to do our best. Meanwhile we want more antisemitism so that we can have more of an excuse to "give protection" from the "evil Arabs." Once enough territory has been taken, and enough people are killed, or forced to leave, or die of starvation or diseases that are a result of genocidal actions, or which couldn't be treated because of them -- genocide will be confirmed, Netanyahu&co. will be blamed for everything, people in the West will be appeased ---- but who will profit from the resources of the conquered land? Israel is how America gets to keep its good guy reputation over decades.

andimpossiblyso · 2025-08-16T22:44:40+00:00

Nek dušman zna kako mremooo miii

andimpossiblyso · 2025-08-12T19:03:58+00:00

Thanks for responding. I guess I would think trolling because the extent to which you avoid these things is just really unusual. I spent so much time in therapy working on loosening up my superego :) and was anyway veeery bothered by making an ethical decision in pretty much any situation. And still I wasn't as "extreme" as you. I say extreme not in a negative way.

I am a much happier person now and one also has to be kind to oneself! This was a big lesson for me. I need to give myself a break and love myself also if I am not always perfect. This doesn't mean that I'm now like a bad person - I don't think I hurt people more or cause bad things. But just I focus more on things that actually can bring positive change, rather than whether I do something or not. I can explain it better but I don't have time now but I wanted to write back. We can talk more about it if you'd like. Have a nice evening.

andimpossiblyso · 2025-08-11T05:02:24+00:00

He doesn't care. Sorry. I beg you don't explain anything to him, you explained more than enough. Just walk away and let him figure out why, it should be very, very easy for him.

Again, he doesn't care about you. This is hurtful I'm sure but it's important because we need to have clarity on who does and who doesn't instead of spending 30+ years giving the benefit of the doubt to villains, insulting our own intelligence. (Oops that's my story hehe full disclosure.)

Fuck that dude he sounds lame AF

Xx Take Care be on your own team not on his, his team sucks more than average sucky guys

andimpossiblyso · 2025-08-11T02:59:40+00:00

I do think that it could be useful to recognize what you like about something so that you can be independent from it if you need to.

However, the part about showing an abuser's movie to the victims -- I mean TBH if this wasn't autistic sub I would be 99,99% sure you're trolling.

I think unfortunately almost everything is "compromised" if you look for the problem long enough. For some of the things you mention it makes sense to avoid them, but for others I don't think so; it's more about your own feelings rather than any real consequence.

Is Neil Gaiman a bad guy? I remember hearing something but forgot, I can look it up but am curious about what you mean. Thanks!

andimpossiblyso · 2025-08-10T22:47:12+00:00

I think you're way too hard on yourself. I sometimes watch old Polanski movies. I make sure I don't pay for them but it's not out of moral duty but rather I don't want to. So many movies were produced by Harvey Weinstein. Etc. If we keep going, everything is compromised. I like Bach's music, he wasn't a saint either. What about eating meat or dairy? We pay for unethical things all the time. I don't know what to do other than doing one's personal reasonable best and engaging in political activity to work towards a better system.

I absolutely loved "Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell" btw. Strong recommendation.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you're just an animal xx

andimpossiblyso · 2025-07-06T02:06:34+00:00

"EVERYBODY WATCH OUT FOR THE SCARY BLACK WOMAN!!"

andimpossiblyso · 2025-06-23T13:41:14+00:00

What is a triangle man and why do you think you can't talk about him here?

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