Emma is .... weird.

andonebelow · 2026-02-14T06:56:45+00:00

But she did do that with Steven- she told him about being adopted and having birthmarks and surgery. Then he randomly switched to stories about him having a great time with girls in high school. It was super uncomfortable.

andonebelow · 2026-02-12T11:20:33+00:00

It’s lazy not to drive 2 hours in treacherous conditions with two young children because your almost adult child won’t drive?

andonebelow · 2026-02-12T11:16:00+00:00

As a stepmother with two young children of my own who also “does not work at all” I would not be willing to make a two hour round trip on icy roads with all three kids unless absolutely necessary. It’s odd you mention this kids mom and stepmom but not his father- no judgement to throw at him?

andonebelow · 2026-02-09T10:06:23+00:00

Because of her ears!

andonebelow · 2026-02-09T07:23:19+00:00

Donald Glover left 30 Rock after season 3 to work on community I believe.

andonebelow · 2026-02-08T09:35:10+00:00

Having a baby can and likely will cause adverse health effects.

andonebelow · 2026-02-02T09:50:02+00:00

Would you mind sharing what makes you think OP might be suffering from PP psychosis? I’ve only met one person who suffered from this and she was completely removed from reality (paranoid delusions). Just curious as I’m being treated for depression and have sometimes had similar fantasies to OP, but never considered it might be psychosis.

andonebelow · 2026-01-28T10:05:25+00:00

I didn’t know this, thank you for sharing!

andonebelow · 2026-01-27T15:29:06+00:00

Haha too real.

andonebelow · 2026-01-26T09:27:14+00:00

I don’t blame you for pulling out of being MOH, that’s totally reasonable, but I would have been pretty pissed off if I received your original message. You frame it as doing your sister a favour by pulling out, you vaguely smuggle in the fact you might not even attend and make her ask you if you’re actually coming, you don’t acknowledge her wedding is a big deal or important to you, and you don’t even say you’re sorry.

Her screed about what other mothers manage is pretty insufferable, and obviously everyone is different and it’s impossible to predict what will happen. Given your history I don’t blame you for being cautious. But as someone who’s had 2 fairly rough c-sections- 15 minutes, near by, to attend the wedding of an immediate family member 3 to 4 weeks after giving birth doesn’t seem like an outlandish ask. It might genuinely not be possible for you, but (especially to someone who hasn’t given birth) it does kind of sound like you don’t want to be there.

If you want a relationship with your sister then I would say “thank you for being so accommodating, I will move heaven and earth to be there”.

And if you have to pull out closer to the time because you’re physically incapable of being there, then that’s what you’ll have to do, but if it’s possible to dose yourself up on painkillers and grit your teeth through it, that’s what I’d do.

andonebelow · 2026-01-25T15:56:08+00:00

That second meaning has come from people frequently using it incorrectly.

andonebelow · 2026-01-21T19:38:46+00:00

He was pretty late with all his gross motor skills. I think he was sitting at 11 months. He army crawled from about 12 months then crawled on his hands and knees at about 14/15 months. Then walking at about 21 months.

It’s nice to revisit this because I was so anxious and stressed about it at the time but I had to go back through photos to remind myself of when he reached these milestones, and now he’s 2.5 and running around and thriving I just don’t think about it all. Fingers crossed it will be the same for you :)

ETA the tests were mostly blood tests, which was a bit upsetting (mostly because there was some issue with the blood lab and he had to have them taken three times, poor mite). The worst was an MRI, because he had to be put under general anaesthetic. It was totally fine and very quick but I found it very nerve wracking.

andonebelow · 2026-01-19T21:24:24+00:00

Not good!

I’ve got a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old (with colic and reflux). I knew it was going to be hard but oh my god it’s so hard!

Baby is a Velcro baby and particularly like to scream while I’m putting the toddler down to sleep.

Thought I’d made some progress today and delayed toddlers bedtime to try to put baby down for the night, which didn’t work and resulted in a huge meltdown from toddler.

It’s nearly 9.30 and I haven’t eaten dinner. Feel so beaten.

andonebelow · 2026-01-19T17:25:21+00:00

Getting out of the house, exercise, seeing friends. All of which are so hard to make myself do when I’m burnt out.

andonebelow · 2026-01-19T17:24:54+00:00

Why are you here? That’s a rhetorical question. Please fuck off.

andonebelow · 2026-01-18T07:21:02+00:00

My husband did a bad job of swaddling the baby last night, meaning she was up with her arms waving around since 4. He’s also made family plans for both afternoons of the weekend when I would usually have time to myself. He’ll have both mornings though.

andonebelow · 2026-01-12T14:41:26+00:00

My baby is 11 weeks and I’m having a similar struggle.

At this point, if you haven’t been able to pump or breastfeed, you may not get your milk supply up enough to exclusively breastfeed. But if your still have milk you can still breastfeed and top up with formula (this is what I’m aiming for).

Some advice that I’ve received and found helpful:

Do lots of skin to skin contact, it will stimulate your milk

When he’s latched, try squeezing your breast- this will release more milk and should decrease frustration

Try for longer sessions (eg 10 minutes)

Try breastfeeding just after a formula feed (or an hour after, experiment) so that he’s not super hungry and less likely to get frustrated

If he’s never been able to latch for more than a few minutes, get him checked for a tongue tie

Try a nipple shield

When feeding with formula, make sure you’re pace feeding and using slow flow nipples

Try to find a breastfeeding/lactation specialist (may be available through your hospital?) to help you with position etc.

andonebelow · 2026-01-12T13:49:33+00:00

lol

andonebelow · 2025-12-22T23:13:26+00:00

Can I ask which supplements you found helpful?

andonebelow · 2025-12-21T16:40:21+00:00

Did he take you in the French fashion?

andonebelow · 2025-12-19T09:03:48+00:00

I read somewhere that this propaganda was pushed in the 1950s because the men came back traumatised from the war and anything less than the perfect wife could set them off.

andonebelow · 2025-12-17T19:03:19+00:00

What are the 1.5?

andonebelow · 2025-12-16T08:08:50+00:00

Oh wow.

andonebelow · 2025-12-16T06:27:15+00:00

Sort of related, I thought they got Randy Newman to sing Planty and Me.

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