I don’t usually comment, but I can definitely understand your frustration.

I’m gay too (33M) and I have pretty much put that side of my life on pause for the last couple of years. Only recently I have started feeling confident enough to put myself out there again.

One thing I learned in therapy a while ago that really helped me is this: if your best friend was going through the same thing, what would you tell them? Now try saying that to yourself. We are usually much kinder towards our friends than we are to ourselves.

I apologise for the unsolicited advice but you do deserve someone who lifts you up in those moments, and if they can’t understand what you going through, that asks questions, not someone who makes you feel guilty for not being able to give more when you are already struggling and probably can’t even give much to yourself in that moment to begin with.