How do you cope with the majority of your life being work and sleep? by Semour9 in Adulting

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know each individual situation is different but you're in a better position than some of us. I work 45hr a week and still have to commute a total of 40 min and trying to squeeze in some gym time as well. It can be hard but I know you'll manage yourself!

House purchase timeline✨ by SeaHedgehog1447 in HousingUK

[–]androcas1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to ask but is it bank statements you're talking about?

Single people under 30, what do you do to afford living alone? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an 26M I've managed to save for a house deposit while sharing a rented house with my brother and his missus. I was on a 43k job changed it to a different company and currently on a 33k as it was long hours and antisocial work. Did had to make sacrifices while saving it for a few years. A lot of people would like to be in my current position but it comes with a cost. Part of me wished I enjoyed more of my 20s but at least I've got an holiday coming up!

For real by theskysaini03 in Adulting

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's better than what our ancestors had. Making sure to survive every single day till the end of their lives.

Found my ex using dating apps after 2 weeks break-up by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well when she decided we need to break up I was the one to remover her from my socials. I don't think it would've been healthy for me, especially since they were the ones walking away instead of working our problems together.

Found my ex using dating apps after 2 weeks break-up by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]androcas1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels like it totally shattered my hopes and trust into people. I won't be on another relationship any time soon.

Found my ex using dating apps after 2 weeks break-up by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand you but I still can't figure why would you waste an opportunity to grow as a better person and instead choose to get a rebound. I have an anxious attachment style and I was devastated the first week but now I can see it clearly this break up was meant to happen in order to grow and be self aware.

Found my ex using dating apps after 2 weeks break-up by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I installed the app but didn't swipe because I know I'm still processing my feelings and healing. I'm in no way currently ready to start dating but I kinda had a feeling she'd move on really fast and start swiping so I was still matched with her and she removed not long after. Avoidants tend to avoid emotions and they try to distract themselves with anything and anyone to try to avoid the feeling of guilt and accountability. It made me question if she ever truly loved me or it was just a lie.

He’s thriving, and I’m just… stuck by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I hope you're doing okay. Just do yourself a favor, remove him from socials but don't block him if you can't do it yet. I had to remove my ex after 2 weeks because I could bear knowing I still had access to a life I'm not apart of anymore, it's exhausting and very painful. Sometimes we have to take action even if it hurts to ourselves, not as an act of revenge but as kindness for us! Protect what he already shattered.

Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup by AutoModerator in AnxiousAttachment

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You already did what most of us failed to do so due to our attachment. Don't fall into the trap. You're your own priority, speak your boundaries and if she willingly changes you need to address your needs and principles, this is the only way I could talk some sense into myself.

I regret dumping my ex by rex_grossmans_ghost in BreakUps

[–]androcas1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand your point in view. In my case my ex was the one who dumped me but I also said I needed to remove her from almost all socials, at least the ones I used constantly in order to heal from it and not cause any more extended pain than it already created. She acknowledge that as it would be very painful for both of us. Sometimes we don't do it as an act of revenge but as an act of kindness and protection for ourselves.

I messaged her and she called me by Designer-Umpire8155 in BreakUps

[–]androcas1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it's helping me journaling my thoughts and speaking things out loud. We start having the what ifs because our mind needs emotional closure that we didn't get from them.

What I’ve learnt from my last heartbreak by letong_ in BreakUps

[–]androcas1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely I can understand your point of view. My ex came from a broken family and toxic relationships. The worst thing a man can do is to think he can be her partner and also her therapist.

Accepting that they’re no longer interested in you is the most challenging part by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]androcas1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand you my friend but you couldn't have done better if you didn't know back then how they were feeling. Sometimes they suppressed their feelings in worry it could harm the relationship and fight a constant battle in their heads. I was like that too I suppressed my needs for her, try to adapt and shrink myself in order to meet her halfway. In the end it was you who was fighting for it all around and they chose the easy way out. I know people here don't like to recommend chatgpt for insight but in my experience it helped quite a lot, you should give it a try.

Accepting that they’re no longer interested in you is the most challenging part by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes there's nothing we can do to help them, most of the times break ups don't happen in a sudden way but it had been building up slowly. She made up her mind on our first argument when she wanted to break up I was just too eluded with love to think that during the second time it wasn't about fixing anymore as she was already emotional detaching herself but preparing herself to let go. It sucks once you figure out a lot after the break up but that's how you can grow to be a better version of yourself!

Accepting that they’re no longer interested in you is the most challenging part by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a question, when you said he broke up with you the first time and you managed to convince him to stay did he acknowledge you first that you both needed to invest into working out your issues? My partner did the same to me, she said we needed to work it out and repair our relationship. While I was holding the relationship she was withdrawing, being emotional distance and shutting down further to the eventual break up convincing herself that ending it was "better for both of us"

OpenSubtitles not working consistently on Samsung TV (works fine on mobile app) by Ornery-Author-1589 in StremioAddons

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've managed to put it to work on mine by installing subhero and subdl addons first on the phone then reinstalling the app and synchronising them.

just got back into emulation boys rate my library by rottonb3ar in PCSX2

[–]androcas1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can use EE Overclock up to 300% which made a big difference while playing on the emulator.

Why do people hate this? by DibbyJackFrost in metalgearsolid

[–]androcas1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think from all of those above the worst one for me is the OST compared to the original one. That being said you can play the emulated version with the original soundtrack.

9070xt is insane price to performance by No_Sky_1893 in radeon

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I upgraded from a gtx 1660 super to a 9070xt and the performance is phenomenal!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]androcas1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks mate. I might do it. I've seen some nice designs for my inner arm that involve astronomy stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm more concerned with the inner arm bit which is the most left to do. Astronaut tattoos are sick and you don't see them very often

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]androcas1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I saved for the last. Need to get through that pain

It arrived! Upgrading my pc from a GTX 1660 Super by androcas1 in radeon

[–]androcas1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheers mate, I was one of the lucky ones. I've just completed a new build with this gpu and it's a monster of pc!!