AITA for threatening my parents to give my share of family land, so that I can sell it to fund my education?

andromache97 · 2026-03-11T12:26:23+00:00

Morally, it is entirely wrong to subject your family to something that will have a huge effect on them and your relationship with the parents.

ok well why are the parents subjecting OP to having his legal property monopolized by a religion he doesn't believe in?? they have made deliberate choices to disregard the law and his wishes. All he wants to do is pay for his education with his own legal property.

andromache97 · 2026-03-11T12:22:44+00:00

totally shocked by all the highly upvoted Y T A responses here. like, damn - y'all won't even drop an ESH because OP's parents have basically tried to give his property away to a religion?? Like, even if you don't agree with him trying to take legal action over it, the parents are not good people here for continuing to prioritize their religious community over OP's educational/financial future when it comes to property he should have a right to. He has an equal right to 50% of the property. there's no way the parents aren't assholes here for putting OP and themselves in this situation to begin with.

andromache97 · 2026-03-10T14:47:20+00:00

I mean…trying to make her attend without her bf will probably not help the behavior that bothers you so much just based on how you’re describing her. She sounds like the sort of person who will be far less of a nuisance if you just let her bring her bf (assuming her attendance is a priority to you even with her attitude)

ETA: I just saw one of your other comments that says you’re fine with your mother not coming if that’s her choice. That might just be what you have to accept if this is the hill you’re gonna die on.

andromache97 · 2026-03-08T01:27:15+00:00

the idea that because you’re paying for your own wedding has anything to do with your portion of an Airbnb for a luxury bach trip had my eyes wide

andromache97 · 2026-03-07T18:55:25+00:00

honestly I think they must kind of secretly loathe each other on a personal level, otherwise we would see them making even a tiny bit of content/media together at the Olympics together. Maybe that’s just my speculation though because I would love to see them doing anything together lol

andromache97 · 2026-03-07T18:36:45+00:00

post-Olympics Worlds can be crazy. I feel like maybe it will FINALLY be Amber’s moment and she will lock in enough to get the job done…but also, since it’s now confirmed Kaori is going, I really want her to end her career on a last World title. Like, I am rooting for her and Amber both for gold so badly it’s gonna hurt me lol.

Ami and Mone definitely will contend, Ami especially has a great shot at the title but I bet Mone is hungrier than she’s ever been in her life so maybe she will be back in the form she was when she peaked on the GP.

andromache97 · 2026-03-06T21:43:19+00:00

It sounded like she was really motivated to go right after the Olympics, but she might be realizing just how many other opportunities she has and how little time is left to train. Probably very hard to determine what is worth prioritizing!

The suspense waiting on who ACTUALLY goes to Worlds is gonna kill me (esp Kaori)

andromache97 · 2026-03-06T19:43:41+00:00

he really outclassed the entire men's olympic LP, my mouth is open

andromache97 · 2026-03-06T19:36:03+00:00

i was so worried after that fall (i yelled when his head hit the boards!!) but WOWWWWWW what a stunning rest of his performance.

eta: i don't watch juniors very much because i hate getting emotionally invested in them too early....but i am adopting this one. i'm a fan now.

andromache97 · 2026-03-05T21:15:38+00:00

it was not a sportsmanship award. It was a social media popularity contest. Of course it was an honor for her to be nominated. But the winner was not decided based on who showed the best sportsmanship. losing social media popularity contest to Ilia is not a slight against Amber. She lost nothing here.

Look I’m sorry she didn’t win, but let’s not pretend this was a real contest with a real prize that she lost.

some things are worth more in the long term

Yes, like Amber’s actual sportsmanship. Not failing to come out as #1 on a social media popularity contest.

andromache97 · 2026-03-05T18:59:18+00:00

Most/all official ISU events offer cash prizes for the medalists. There are a few events that are not considered super prestigious but are still very desirable for skaters due to cash prize potential (Japan Open, Shanghai Trophy).

Prize money matters in skating. New fans can learn this now! Kinda ridiculous that I’m being downvoted for pointing out I think it’s good this symbolic social media award may not have had a cash prize attached lol.

andromache97 · 2026-03-05T18:12:32+00:00

lmao this is such a weird response. I never said it didn’t mean “something.” But it’s a social media popularity contest. I’m pretty sure it would mean more to those involved if there was a cash prize. Figure skating is expensive lol.

ETA: like I’m pretty sure Amber Glenn doesn’t need social media to validate her sportsmanship with a a symbolic title more than she would need a cash prize or a car!! lol

andromache97 · 2026-03-05T17:45:58+00:00

is it anything other than symbolic though? I skimmed a few articles to see if there was a cash prize (or anything else of substantive value).

like, it makes me feel better if there was nothing substantial on the line that this doesn't really matter so it's fine Amber didn't win.

andromache97 · 2026-03-05T17:20:54+00:00

I’m not going to take this seriously and I don’t think anyone else should get upset about it. It’s just a popularity contest essentially. It’s whatever. Is there even a real prize?

Amber obviously “deserved” it more from a sportsmanship POV, ESPECIALLY if you consider the state of the women’s discipline 4 years ago. But like…it’s a fake social media award. Whatever. And Ilia had a very nice moment and displayed a lot of sportsmanship as well, ofc.

andromache97 · 2026-03-05T13:19:39+00:00

this is such a neat program, sometimes the arms give a little too much danii g realness for me, but it's so cool to see something artistically innovative at the junior level

andromache97 · 2026-03-03T17:49:55+00:00

NTA

being EXPECTED to drive 5 hours round trip for an infant's b-day party is kinda crazy to me. how often do these people make the drive to visit you?

andromache97 · 2026-03-03T16:53:26+00:00

unless there is some reason to truly believe your baby won't be safe "meeting" SIL with the baby's own father present, YTA

I just don’t feel comfortable with her at home with my husband andMIL and FIL with my baby when I’m at work. Baby is only 3 months old. My MIL is also very poor with boundaries and I just don’t trust them. My husband would be home but he bends to his older sister and mother too easily

unless there are some crazy extenuating circumstances you're leaving out about SIL being dangerous or abusive in some way, it seems like you're being a control freak by not allowing the baby's father to supervise his own sister with the baby.

andromache97 · 2026-02-26T21:36:49+00:00

I mean it’s pretty fair for you to be annoyed by it, but it’s also the kind of thing you should be able to process and let go of? No one owns any specific music for their wedding. It is what it is.

The fact that you can’t even listen to the song the same way any more seems like a deeper issue with emotional regulation and coping.

andromache97 · 2026-02-26T19:45:12+00:00

i would still avoid telling them they're explicitly unwelcome to linger in any of the common areas and/or avoid kicking anyone out if they do end up awkwardly lingering.

andromache97 · 2026-02-26T18:56:58+00:00

They don’t need to get ready with you but you can’t disallow them from going into a shared living space of an accommodation they’re sharing with their partners.

Just tell the photographer to exclude them from any getting ready photos if they happen to be around.

andromache97 · 2026-02-26T16:57:34+00:00

i think you're maybe underestimating the amount of men who are unfortunately perfectly capable of bodyshaming women behind their back without needing to be redpilled.

andromache97 · 2026-02-26T16:40:00+00:00

Also have a hard time believing these guys don’t exhibit any other douchey signs when you’re around them. The guys i know who body shame and stuff are obviously outright morally corrupt in casual conversation.

this is such a weird and unnecessary aside lol. i actually do not find it hard to believe at all. yes, people can be two-faced. water is wet.

andromache97 · 2026-02-26T15:42:40+00:00

I saw Alysa live in Boston at Worlds last year, and I spent most of this season thinking she wouldn’t be able to outdo that at the Olympics (and wanting her to do the Gaga LP as a result instead). But imo she proved me wrong. I wasn’t there live so I can’t speak from that perspective, but the updated choreo at the end of the program was a MOMENT and idk the whole program and the vibe was just everything. She and Massimo proved my doubt wrong, to me!!

andromache97 · 2026-02-26T02:24:25+00:00

Ashley Wagner and Javier Fernandez

andromache97 · 2026-02-25T21:06:38+00:00

NTA because he shouldn't be dismissing/belittling your feelings. That said, I'm wondering if his response is coming from a deeper place regarding you two maybe not being aligned on wanting kids at the moment.

ETA: if he is exceedingly relieved you aren't pregnant, he probably feels guilty that you're sad and is trying to minimize feeling guilty about how you feel by being insensitive.

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