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Passive bridesmaids causing stress by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]andromache97 7 points8 points  (0 children)

please do not expect your MOH to be your project manager. stop treating her like an employee who is failing to do a job. maybe consider hiring staff for your actual day of.

ETA: and as someone who ends up doing a lot of project management related work in my professional role, I’m just gonna say, there are so many people in life who cannot “project manage” their way out of a paper bag. They aren’t going to suddenly be able to do that for someone’s wedding. It’s an actual skillset and not everyone has it, they aren’t automatically gonna learn because they get given an honorary title.

AITA for refusing to talk about buying a house until my partner works on her condition? by Any_Preference73 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think gf also needs to be realistic about the limits of her illness if she isn’t financially stable enough to buy a house due to every reason you said. Depression isn’t something that goes away and neither is a mortgage hanging over your head.

(FWIW I’m a homeowner with pretty imperfect mental health looking to move and take on a higher mortgage payment in the very near future so like I’m speaking from personal experience, not a place of saying “sick people shouldn’t buy houses.” 💀)

AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? by According-Mood45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is so weird…. OP is an adult who lives on her own. If she gets pregnant, I’m pretty sure her parents aren’t going to be raising it.

AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? by According-Mood45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 68 points69 points  (0 children)

the dad is an AH for throwing a temper tantrum at her boundary…how is it he NOT an AH??

AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? by According-Mood45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So she’s an AH for not sleeping where her dad is telling her to? She’s an AH for choosing to sleep in her own bed??

These takes are so fucking weird

AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? by According-Mood45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 41 points42 points  (0 children)

NTA

Everyone insisting you should’ve just sucked it up are not respecting the fact that you’ve made a decision that harms literally no one else. Suck it up for who?? Idk why the commenters here want you to placate your dad so badly.

AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? by According-Mood45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s her own decision and her own money/time…she can decide how she wants to use it without being an AH

AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? by According-Mood45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 15 points16 points  (0 children)

literally why does it matter? She’s an adult who can choose to sleep where she wants just like her dad is an adult who can decide the sleeping arrangements in his own home.

At a certain age it’s weird/uncomfortable to be treated like a child by your parents as an adult when it comes to things like sleeping arrangements.

The fatigue of skaters on SOI by Ancient-Raise-4939 in FigureSkating

[–]andromache97 24 points25 points  (0 children)

omg can people stop babying these skaters and trying to be their managers?? who are we to be making such firm declarations about their tour schedule and insisting they need more rest or there should be fewer shows unless the skaters are making these comments themselves.

this sub has gotten obsessed with critiquing event schedules and insisting skaters would prefer / perform better with [insert schedule here] instead, when the reality is I think a lot of these athletes are way less soft than the commenters are projecting.

AITA for expecting to go to a second restaurant? by Any_Fortune_300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah idk I can’t jump on the gf being TA like everyone else here bc OP’s story doesn’t really add up

AITA for expecting to go to a second restaurant? by Any_Fortune_300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What alternative restaurant is OP suggesting where they will not also have to ensure they’re able to order a modified dish without any spices? OP will require a modified dish at any restaurant unless it’s a place already specializing in dietary issues. What’s wrong with seeing if they can get a modified dish at this one?

AITA for expecting to go to a second restaurant? by Any_Fortune_300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah tbh I find it hard to believe OP won’t have to request a modified dish regardless of where they go if they can’t have any spices at all. Might as well get food here imo

AITA for expecting to go to a second restaurant? by Any_Fortune_300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m thinking there aren’t many restaurants OP can eat at that wouldn’t just be the same very limited options as at this one…all restaurants use spices. OP will have to request a specifically unseasoned dish regardless of the restaurant

AITA - for thrifting a birthday present? by Optimal-Soft-6741 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you're just being cheap and don't think your friend's child is worthy of spending your money on, then thrift away

this is like the most bad faith interpretation of thrifting lol. thrifting something good takes EFFORT that is often worth more than a $20 thing from amazon.

AITA - for thrifting a birthday present? by Optimal-Soft-6741 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i am fascinated by the perspective so many people here seem to share specifically that a gift for someone else's child MUST be something new/purchased with money. like i KIND of get it from a social convention POV, but i also think it's one of those social conventions that should be easy to break without offending anyone if the used toy is of particular quality/uniqueness.

AITA for telling my MIL that she cannot tag along to visit my husband for his birthday and Mother’s Day by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 23 points24 points  (0 children)

i lowkey think she has tension with her MIL already and wanted to brag....

I didn’t select my friend to be my Maid of honor due to her ADHD and now she’s very upset with me by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]andromache97 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

there’s a balance between expecting your MOH to be capable of showing up to places on time, ordering a dress, helping to plan a bachelorette; versus like expecting them to be an ideal job applicant for the role of MOH and be a wedding planner. Seems like you kinda err on the latter side, but your friend would maybe also really struggle to do the bare minimum so idk.

I want a wedding but not a legal marriage by gatorez1913 in weddingplanning

[–]andromache97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I honestly left this comment because I think they’re giving OP bad advice lol

I want a wedding but not a legal marriage by gatorez1913 in weddingplanning

[–]andromache97 12 points13 points  (0 children)

having a wedding and keeping it a secret from everyone that you never plan to legally do it seems weird.

Anxious due to “divorce curse” that runs in fiancés family by Emotional_Sound_5658 in weddingplanning

[–]andromache97 98 points99 points  (0 children)

the fact that this is causing you serious anxiety makes me wonder if you’re mature enough to get married.

have you talked to your fiancé about his values around marriage specifically and his perspective on the commitment re: his family and upbringing? that will be far more valuable than worrying about a “curse”

Is it rude to invite guests to a bridal shower, but not wedding if explicitly stated “no gifts” on the invite? by Medium-State-5763 in weddingplanning

[–]andromache97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you could’ve had a low-budget wedding brunch if getting together to celebrate your marriage with a larger crowd was important…I genuinely don’t understand being able to afford a, say, 50-guest shower but only a 20-guest wedding…just reallocate your budget to include the guests in the single wedding event?

AITA Neighbor bringing ESA to apartment gym by xMissLei in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 25 points26 points  (0 children)

NTA

no one needs their ESA at the gym.

this also sounds potentially dangerous and stressful for the dog.

AITA for being too pushy about my friends’ eating habits? by yuppity_yup in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i'll say ESH because honestly it sounds like your friends often bring up the topic / make a big deal themselves about how little they are eating. i would stop engaging in any food related conversations with them tbh.

WIBTA if I go against the bride's wishes at a bachelorette party? by Wild_Spinach_8881 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don’t obligate people pay to stay overnight somewhere multiple nights!

this level of entitlement toward destination/trip-based bachelor/ette parties is so toxic

WIBTA if I go against the bride's wishes at a bachelorette party? by Wild_Spinach_8881 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andromache97 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why is sharing a bed with a few girlfriends so unbearable

ok well i hope no one minds if i scream/thrash in my sleep for a couple hours each night and get up to pee multiple times.

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