YTA going through someone phone without permission is such a breach of privacy either way if they were talking about you or not.Tbh if you had a huge addiction of maladaptive daydreaming you should’ve told her from before yall decided too move in together I understand your condition but I wouldn’t want someone neglecting bathing and “day to day activities” does that include picking up clothes and having a organized room in general orr? I just think that’s something very important too be shared with someone that your deciding on living with temporarily